We run regular Muslim speed dating events all over London.

One of the most common questions we get asked is how someone should finish a date.  You’ll only get a few minutes to meet each person before you are whisked away to meet the next.  So you have to know how to end it.

Most people will wait until the next day and then contact them via the website.  Our guests get two weeks to do this, so it’s the easiest solution. But is it the  best one?

I’d always advise you to take action before the time is up with your date instead.  If you had a great connection then there is no problem about asking them if you can continue the conversation another time. The quickest way is to just to ask to swap numbers or email addresses.  However, don’t leave this until few seconds when the bell has been rung and it’s time to move on.  This will look over keen and frustrate the queue of people waiting patiently behind you.  It’s much better to ask about two thirds of the way in, perhaps when you see the organisers starting to get ready.

Also remember that just because the speed dating is over, it doesn’t mean that your evening has to end.  Go up to the one person you liked most and tell them how much you enjoyed meeting them. You could even invite them to go somewhere else with you, perhaps for a bite to eat somewhere.  If they aren’t too busy you may just be able to have your first proper date there and then. How would you feel then?    If they can’t join you right away then at least you’ll be the last person they remember from the evening and you’ll stand out in their memory.

A word of warning:   Don’t walk around with a long list of phone numbers and ask them to add theirs to the list.  They won’t feel remotely special and it’s a huge turn off.  The same goes for speaking to them afterwards. Pick the one you had the biggest connection with and approach them discreetly.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Here is the latest dating dilemma answered by our Dating Guru James Preece

“Dear James, I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost two years now.  Things are generally good but she has severe trust issues!  She’s always going through my phone looking to see what I’m up to, or demanding to know what I’m up to.  If I don’t tell her then she bursts into tears.  What can I do to keep her under control?  Dev”

Hi Dev, thanks for your message.  My first question is why do you think she is behaving like this?  Has something bad happened to her in the past or have you given her cause for concern?

If it’s the first then you have to be patient but firm with her.

If you’ve hurt her before then it’s no wonder she’s confused and suspicious. Don’t hide your phone from her or snatch it away every time you leave the room.  Try and leave it out in the open and she won’t have any reason to suspect you are hiding something. Make sure you make her feel special and tell her what you are up to.  If you are evasive or confrontational then you’ll never resolve her issues.

Remember that trust works both ways so let her know she is loved and that she has no reason to doubt your intentions.

Good luck!

James

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Happy dating!

The Muslim Single Solution

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