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Dating Guru’s Mailbag: What do I wear at a Muslim dating event?

Monday, November 24th, 2014

Here is the latest question answered by our Dating Guru


“Dear James.  I’ve heard about the fantastic muslim speed dating events that you run.  I want to come but I’m very nervous.  I don’t have a clue what I should be wearing either.  Do I need to wear a suit?  Please can you help me out and give me some tips?  Sam”

Hi Sam,

Thank you for your message. Firstly, don’t worry about being a bit nervous as everyone is the first time. It’s only natural!  That’s why we employ friendly, down to earth hosts that you can talk to if you need any help.  Speed dating is a great way to meet lots of lovely singles, but you only get one chance to make a first impression. So you absolutely have to make sure you dress up and look your best.

I’ve seen plenty of guys turn up wearing tracksuits, t-shirts and trainers and have even had to refuse entry to some of them.  Yet strangely I’ve never seen a badly dressed woman.  Clothing is so important as it conveys everything they need to know about you and your personality.  If you can’t be bothered to make an effort with your clothes, then chances are that you can’t be bothered to make make an effort with a partner either.

If you aren’t sure what women want you to wear, then go clothes shopping with a female friend. They can advise you of what is fashionable and what looks good on you.  It doesn’t need to be expensive but a little investment in your wardrobe is a very wise one indeed.  It’s find if you don’t normally dress up but you need to stand out from your competition at the events by looking like something worth getting to know.

As a general rule, a smart suit and shirt with clean polished shoes is always your best bet.  If you don’t normally wear one then take one to work.  Jeans are fine if paired with a nice jacket and shirt, but never with trainers.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

Our latest Muslim Dating Feedback

Monday, November 17th, 2014

Here are some great feedback emails that we



have had from our members recently:

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

Good reliable and secure” SH

“I  met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good friendly site”  NK

The service from the site is good.” LS

 Your website is good and functions well”  DS

It was a good experience. ” NM

Thank you , nice website” RY

I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” CR

 I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feedback : Thank you” SJ

“Good website!” RK


If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

How to keep up a conversation

Wednesday, November 12th, 2014

Do you run out of things to say

when you are talking to someone?

Being able to talk is an important part of successful speed dating and dating in general.   If you can’t keep the momentum going then you won’t get a second chance. So here are my top tips to help you keep things going and make sure they never think you are boring.

1) Talk about your surroundings.  This is the one thing you both have in common.  If you are speed dating, you can find out if it’s their first time or ask if they are enjoying their coffee.

2) Be topical.   Read the day’s newspaper to find out what’s going on in the world. You will then have a wider range of talking points. Keep it to light topics such as celebrity gossip and avoid politics.

3) Ask questions.   Make sure these aren’t questions that could be answered by a quick yes or no.  The idea is to get them thinking, so ask them something that they have to answer in detail.  So rather than ask if they have any brothers and sisters,  ask them to tell you about their childhood memories.

4) Don’t be serious.   Using humour can really help to break the ice.   A little gentle teasing should normally go down well, but never be rude or sarcastic.  You don’t need to learn lots of comedy routines or jokes, but use observational comments to get a bit of banter between you.

5) Don’t be afraid of a little silence.    You don’t need to constantly bombard each other with questions – it’s not an interrogation.   Use little silences  as quick breaks to catch your breath and think about what to say next.  Embrace them as they are perfectly natural.  Sip your drink if you really need something to do in between.


Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru