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Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Why the delays?

Monday, September 29th, 2014

Here is a problem that is solved by our resident dating expert, James Preece

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“Dear James,

I’ve recently been talking to someone on the site and things were going well.  We were speaking lots and building things up nicely.  The trouble is that sometimes he can go days without replying to me, leave me hanging around waiting for him. Is he interested or just playing games with me? Help please!   D”

Hi D,

Thank you for your message.  I do understand how frustrating this can be to have to wait for someone to get back to you.

Please remember that some people do have busy lives and aren’t always able to check emails.  I’m used to checking mine quite a lot and they come through on my phone, but that’s not the norm. I get impatient if someone keeps me waiting but it’s not always because they aren’t interested, just that they have other things going on.  We can’t possibly know or predict what’s going on unless we ask them.

Having said that, it does sound like he could be stringing you along.  Perhaps he’s already talking to other people and comes back to you when those conversations dry up.  The bigger question is why haven’t you both arranged to meet face to face yet?  Online dating is a brilliant way to get to know someone, but it’s not a replacement for the real world.  It’s too easy to have a “virtual” relationship rather than a real one if you both put up with this.

So, next time he gets in touch, call him out once and for all.  Ask him if he’d like to meet up and then get him to arrange something, or speak on the phone at the very least. If he doesn’t react positively then at least you have your answer.

One final tip:  Don’t rely on just talking to one person.  You should keep being proactive and contact lots of other suitable people.  That way you aren’t pinning your hopes on one unreliable single and spending too long waiting around for them.  Keep busy lining up more dates and if Mr Slow does get in touch you won’t care so much.

If you have your own problem or question, please send it to our Dating Guru at [email protected]

The best ones will be answered right here in the blog.  James is a very experienced dating coach and his advice is invaluable.

 

Happy dating!

 

The Muslim Single Solution.

Muslim Speed Dating in a Nutshell

Friday, September 5th, 2014

Muslim Speed Dating is a fantastic way to meet other like minded Muslim Singles. 

It’s a fast, fun process so here are the absolute essentials that you need to know.  Three minutes reading this could make the three minutes you spend Muslim Speed Dating work wonders!

What to wear

Leave the jeans and trainers are home. You absolutely have to make an effort or nobody will remember you. Wear something smart that you feel good  in.  Remember that a nice smell is just as important too.

What you need to know

You only get a short period of time for your first impression, so you need to make a it count.     Start by smiling, shaking hands and exchanging names.    Your job is to make the two minutes the best two minutes of the evening and to leave them begging to see you again.  You can do this by making them laugh, feel special and boosting their mood.

 Pay them a compliment

Just not about how their looks.  Instead, tell them you love something they are wearing or tell them you could see their smile from the other side of the room.  They’ll remember this long after the evening.

What to say

Ask them how they are finding the event or make a joke.   Avoid dull questions like asking them where they work as everyone will ask that.   Don’t ask questions that can be answered with a yes or no.  Instead,  ask what they are passionate about and you’ll watch them open up much more. People like people who are interested in them, so ask lots of questions.  Make them feel they are the most important person in the room by smiling, nodding and maintaining eye contact.

How to Finish

End by telling them you really enjoyed talking to them and would love to see them again.  What could you do to make that happen?
Anything else?

If you get on well, there is no need to wait for a proper date.  Instead, speak to them a little later in the evening and suggest you go somewhere more private.  By going nearby to another cafe so you can get to know each other properly – away from your competition!

 

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Do you have a Muslim Dating Success story for us?

Monday, September 1st, 2014

 

We had a Muslim dating event recently and I got the chance to speak to quite a few of the participants.

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One of the most common questions that they asked is “Do we have many success stories?”   The answer to this is yes, absolutely

However, not everyone lets us know when they do meet someone through us.  Many of our members come to the site on a recommendation based on a couple that HAVE met through the site,  so it’s frustrating that we don’t get to hear their story too.  It’s only by featuring these fantastic stories on our site that people know it really can work for them too.

We do get a lot of feedback and lovely emails sent to us, but we would love to hear your success stories if you have one.

Here are a few recent feedbacks that we have received:

I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. Thanks!” AR

“Perfect thanks” HH

It was a good experience” NA

It was a good website” KK

Thank you for your service” FI

 

If you have met someone through our online dating site or Muslim introduction parties please do let us know!
You can contact us at [email protected]   and we’ll even give you an Amazon voucher if you include a photo of you worth.

 

Just think, you could be helping others be as successful in love as you were!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com