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Seasons Greetings!

Tuesday, December 23rd, 2014

We’d love to wish you a very

 

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happy Holidays.

 

Have a lovely break and have lots of fun!

Best Wishes,

 

James, Paul and Salma

The Muslim Single Solution Team.

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: What do I wear at a Muslim dating event?

Monday, November 24th, 2014

Here is the latest question answered by our Dating Guru

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“Dear James.  I’ve heard about the fantastic muslim speed dating events that you run.  I want to come but I’m very nervous.  I don’t have a clue what I should be wearing either.  Do I need to wear a suit?  Please can you help me out and give me some tips?  Sam”

Hi Sam,

Thank you for your message. Firstly, don’t worry about being a bit nervous as everyone is the first time. It’s only natural!  That’s why we employ friendly, down to earth hosts that you can talk to if you need any help.  Speed dating is a great way to meet lots of lovely singles, but you only get one chance to make a first impression. So you absolutely have to make sure you dress up and look your best.

I’ve seen plenty of guys turn up wearing tracksuits, t-shirts and trainers and have even had to refuse entry to some of them.  Yet strangely I’ve never seen a badly dressed woman.  Clothing is so important as it conveys everything they need to know about you and your personality.  If you can’t be bothered to make an effort with your clothes, then chances are that you can’t be bothered to make make an effort with a partner either.

If you aren’t sure what women want you to wear, then go clothes shopping with a female friend. They can advise you of what is fashionable and what looks good on you.  It doesn’t need to be expensive but a little investment in your wardrobe is a very wise one indeed.  It’s find if you don’t normally dress up but you need to stand out from your competition at the events by looking like something worth getting to know.

As a general rule, a smart suit and shirt with clean polished shoes is always your best bet.  If you don’t normally wear one then take one to work.  Jeans are fine if paired with a nice jacket and shirt, but never with trainers.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Our latest Muslim Dating Feedback

Monday, November 17th, 2014

Here are some great feedback emails that we

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have had from our members recently:

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

Good reliable and secure” SH

“I  met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good friendly site”  NK

The service from the site is good.” LS

 Your website is good and functions well”  DS

It was a good experience. ” NM

Thank you , nice website” RY

I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” CR

 I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feedback : Thank you” SJ

“Good website!” RK

 

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]

 

Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

How to keep up a conversation

Wednesday, November 12th, 2014

Do you run out of things to say

when you are talking to someone?

Being able to talk is an important part of successful speed dating and dating in general.   If you can’t keep the momentum going then you won’t get a second chance. So here are my top tips to help you keep things going and make sure they never think you are boring.

1) Talk about your surroundings.  This is the one thing you both have in common.  If you are speed dating, you can find out if it’s their first time or ask if they are enjoying their coffee.

2) Be topical.   Read the day’s newspaper to find out what’s going on in the world. You will then have a wider range of talking points. Keep it to light topics such as celebrity gossip and avoid politics.

3) Ask questions.   Make sure these aren’t questions that could be answered by a quick yes or no.  The idea is to get them thinking, so ask them something that they have to answer in detail.  So rather than ask if they have any brothers and sisters,  ask them to tell you about their childhood memories.

4) Don’t be serious.   Using humour can really help to break the ice.   A little gentle teasing should normally go down well, but never be rude or sarcastic.  You don’t need to learn lots of comedy routines or jokes, but use observational comments to get a bit of banter between you.

5) Don’t be afraid of a little silence.    You don’t need to constantly bombard each other with questions – it’s not an interrogation.   Use little silences  as quick breaks to catch your breath and think about what to say next.  Embrace them as they are perfectly natural.  Sip your drink if you really need something to do in between.

 

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Why Manners are Important for Muslim Dating

Monday, October 13th, 2014

I recently read a survey that Britain is forgetting it’s manners.

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We were once a proud nation of ladies and gentleman and etiquette was what set us apart from the rest of the world.   But now is seems we have forgotten our pleases and thank yous – especially when it comes to dating.

I believe this is because many people want to remain anonymous and stay within their own protective little bubble. So it’s easier to keep your head down and say nothing than risk tempting an argument.  Men are afraid to hold doors open for women in case they are rude to them.  Or women don’t want to thank the men for dinner in case it makes them look over keen.  It’s a hard game to play so you must get it right.

Making a great first impression is your goal on any date or Muslim speed dating event.  You want people to remember you for the right reasons, not how rude you were to them, the staff or waiters.  Don’t be afraid to make another person feel special.  It’s your best chance of seeing them again.

There are three simple rules you must follow in order to be respectful:

1) Smile. Smiling shows you are in a happy place and enjoying their company.  There’s no better way of showing good manners than by using a kind, genuine smile.

2) Gratitude. If someone does something nice for, even a small gesture then be thankful for it and make them aware.

3) Put others needs before your own.  You should always treat people exactly the same way that you’d like to be treated yourself.  If that means going without something – such as giving up your seat on a train – then so be it.

 

So what do you think?  Have we forgotten our manners and what can be done to fix it?   Please comment and add your thoughts here.

 

James Preece

The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Why the delays?

Monday, September 29th, 2014

Here is a problem that is solved by our resident dating expert, James Preece

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“Dear James,

I’ve recently been talking to someone on the site and things were going well.  We were speaking lots and building things up nicely.  The trouble is that sometimes he can go days without replying to me, leave me hanging around waiting for him. Is he interested or just playing games with me? Help please!   D”

Hi D,

Thank you for your message.  I do understand how frustrating this can be to have to wait for someone to get back to you.

Please remember that some people do have busy lives and aren’t always able to check emails.  I’m used to checking mine quite a lot and they come through on my phone, but that’s not the norm. I get impatient if someone keeps me waiting but it’s not always because they aren’t interested, just that they have other things going on.  We can’t possibly know or predict what’s going on unless we ask them.

Having said that, it does sound like he could be stringing you along.  Perhaps he’s already talking to other people and comes back to you when those conversations dry up.  The bigger question is why haven’t you both arranged to meet face to face yet?  Online dating is a brilliant way to get to know someone, but it’s not a replacement for the real world.  It’s too easy to have a “virtual” relationship rather than a real one if you both put up with this.

So, next time he gets in touch, call him out once and for all.  Ask him if he’d like to meet up and then get him to arrange something, or speak on the phone at the very least. If he doesn’t react positively then at least you have your answer.

One final tip:  Don’t rely on just talking to one person.  You should keep being proactive and contact lots of other suitable people.  That way you aren’t pinning your hopes on one unreliable single and spending too long waiting around for them.  Keep busy lining up more dates and if Mr Slow does get in touch you won’t care so much.

If you have your own problem or question, please send it to our Dating Guru at [email protected]

The best ones will be answered right here in the blog.  James is a very experienced dating coach and his advice is invaluable.

 

Happy dating!

 

The Muslim Single Solution.

Muslim Speed Dating in a Nutshell

Friday, September 5th, 2014

Muslim Speed Dating is a fantastic way to meet other like minded Muslim Singles. 

It’s a fast, fun process so here are the absolute essentials that you need to know.  Three minutes reading this could make the three minutes you spend Muslim Speed Dating work wonders!

What to wear

Leave the jeans and trainers are home. You absolutely have to make an effort or nobody will remember you. Wear something smart that you feel good  in.  Remember that a nice smell is just as important too.

What you need to know

You only get a short period of time for your first impression, so you need to make a it count.     Start by smiling, shaking hands and exchanging names.    Your job is to make the two minutes the best two minutes of the evening and to leave them begging to see you again.  You can do this by making them laugh, feel special and boosting their mood.

 Pay them a compliment

Just not about how their looks.  Instead, tell them you love something they are wearing or tell them you could see their smile from the other side of the room.  They’ll remember this long after the evening.

What to say

Ask them how they are finding the event or make a joke.   Avoid dull questions like asking them where they work as everyone will ask that.   Don’t ask questions that can be answered with a yes or no.  Instead,  ask what they are passionate about and you’ll watch them open up much more. People like people who are interested in them, so ask lots of questions.  Make them feel they are the most important person in the room by smiling, nodding and maintaining eye contact.

How to Finish

End by telling them you really enjoyed talking to them and would love to see them again.  What could you do to make that happen?
Anything else?

If you get on well, there is no need to wait for a proper date.  Instead, speak to them a little later in the evening and suggest you go somewhere more private.  By going nearby to another cafe so you can get to know each other properly – away from your competition!

 

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Do you have a Muslim Dating Success story for us?

Monday, September 1st, 2014

 

We had a Muslim dating event recently and I got the chance to speak to quite a few of the participants.

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One of the most common questions that they asked is “Do we have many success stories?”   The answer to this is yes, absolutely

However, not everyone lets us know when they do meet someone through us.  Many of our members come to the site on a recommendation based on a couple that HAVE met through the site,  so it’s frustrating that we don’t get to hear their story too.  It’s only by featuring these fantastic stories on our site that people know it really can work for them too.

We do get a lot of feedback and lovely emails sent to us, but we would love to hear your success stories if you have one.

Here are a few recent feedbacks that we have received:

I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. Thanks!” AR

“Perfect thanks” HH

It was a good experience” NA

It was a good website” KK

Thank you for your service” FI

 

If you have met someone through our online dating site or Muslim introduction parties please do let us know!
You can contact us at [email protected]   and we’ll even give you an Amazon voucher if you include a photo of you worth.

 

Just think, you could be helping others be as successful in love as you were!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

 

Intern Marketing Assistant for Muslim Dating Site

Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014

 British Asian Muslim Matrimonial/Dating site looking to take on an intern with strong knowledge and understanding of the Muslim Community.

This is a two to three month placement in our London office. 

We are looking for someone to help us grow our database of Muslim professional singles in London and the rest of the UK. You will help us by approaching religious organisations and social groups to market our website.

-Engaging with team to brainstorm innovative marketing strategies
-Weekly project deadlines & some pop-up urgent tasks 
-Assist at our regular Muslim speed dating events and help locate new venues
-Post and engage on Twitter, Facebook and other social networks
-Write & distribute blogs, press releases and other PR media
-Assist with gathering data and marketing analysis


Requirements:

Strong knowledge of the British Asian Muslim community
Must have excellent written and verbal communication skills. Knowledge and experience with Facebook, Twitter, Google+ and other social media platforms a plus. Strong attention to detail and organizational skills. 10-20 hours per week, flexible

Majors: Marketing, Sales, Advertising, Computer Science, Language, Business, Communications, Public Relations, Graphic Design, Multimedia, Journalism, related

Paid internship. Training & mentorship provided. Letter of recommendation + LinkedIn testimonial.

If you are interested, please let us know why you’d be a suitable candidate and be able to help us.  If you are already a working marketing professional please do contact us too.

Latest Muslim Dating Feedback

Monday, July 14th, 2014

Here are some great feedback emails that we

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have had from our members recently:

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

“Offers a good opportunity to meet different people.” AT
“Good service!” LF
“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single” SS
“Services are good” AB
“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single!” MC
“I found the service to be good” DC
“The events are pretty good” YA

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]

 

Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

Ramadan Mubarak

Sunday, June 29th, 2014

Ramadan Mubarak

to you and your family

 

May Allah’s blessings be with you!

The Muslim Single Solution

Our latest Feedback

Monday, June 9th, 2014

Here are our feedbacks that we

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have had from our members recently:

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

“Assalamu aly”kum, your service is good ” AK

“Good website SK

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” YB

“Thanks good service” SS

“Excellent” BS

“Good service.Thank you” TK

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : brilliant ” BK

“Thank you for the opportunities on your website!” AR

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]

 

Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Are any men interested in me?

Thursday, May 29th, 2014

Here is the latest question sent it for our Dating Guru

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“Dear James, I would like to know what sort of men I can expect to date. I have pursued a career in the wrong area and am now going back to university at the age of 31 and living with my parents I want to know if there are Muslim guys out there that are interested in women like me. R”

Hi R,

Thank you for your question.

Of course there are lots of men who would want to date you!  I read today that a quarter of all 34 year old men are still at home with their parents.
 There’s nothing wrong with that OR with wanting to improve yourself and your life.  The question is…what steps are you taking to meet decent men?  I’d suggest that you put a plan together to start getting yourself out there and interacting with them.   Stop thinking of reasons why they won’t be interested and work out exactly why they might be.  If you don’t think you are worthy then how can you expect them to?
I’d suggest that you start with some online dating and then try one of our Muslim introduction events. When you come, don’t talk about the negatives but focus on your positive traits instead.
I will you lot of luck and happiness.
James

James Preece – the Dating Guru

If you have your own question, our Dating Guru could help you.  He’ll answer the best or most pressing questions anonymously here in the blog.

Email him at    [email protected]

 

Happy dating!

The Muslim Single Solution

Muslim Dating: Should I photoshop my profile photo?

Monday, April 14th, 2014

We all know how important a good photo is to having online dating success.

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If your main photo isn’t up to scratch then you won’t find too many people are interested in wanting to get to know you  better.  So the more your photo stands out then the more chance you’ll meet some amazing singles.

I was recently asked if it was OK to use photoshop ( or a similar photo editing software) to enhance your photo.   I originally thought that it’s never acceptable as all you are doing is presenting a false version of yourself.  If you start the relationship on a lie then this will only ever lead to disappointment.  However, after I gave it some serious thought I realised it’s not quite as cut and dried as that.  It all depends on what exactly you are doing with the software.

NO –  You should never make dramatic chances such as trying to make yourself look better, thinner or younger.  I’d also stay away from those washed out professional makeover type images where they but Vaseline on the lens.   These just look fake.

YES –  It’s fine to make a small change.  Perhaps you want to edit someone else out of the photo or sharpen a blurry shot.  A background tint can also work wonders and make you look healthier.

A great tool you can use to make your photo look a lot better is INSTAGRAM.    This is a free app that you can download to your phone.  You don’t actually change anything more than the tone of the photos, but there are some interesting options you can choose.  Have a play and see what you can do with it.

Our Muslimsinglesolution.com  website has a great cropping too built in.  You can resize or rotate your photo while you upload it.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolutioncom

Recent Feedback

Monday, April 7th, 2014

Here are our feedbacks that we

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had over the last few weeks

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : I think this is a good site”  SP

“Very good, well done.” AR

“Service was great” BA

“The Event that I attended was good” SK

“It was a nice platform” HZ

“I think it’s really good service” TC

“It’s a good website” UA

“Thank you it was great!” NH

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : thank you” SK

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]

 

Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

The Man who wins at Muslim Speed Dating

Monday, March 24th, 2014

I helped host a Muslim Speed Dating last night in London.   It was a very busy event and lots of fun was had by the members.

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While there were some interesting single Muslim men and women in attendance, there was one man in particular who caught my attention.

He was doing something that nobody else really makes an effort to.  This simple thing made him stand out from all the other guys and I’m almost certain he’ll have more dates lined up than he will be able to cope with.

So what was the magic thing he did?   Was it to sing a song, give a rose to the ladies or tap dance his way around the room?  No.   All he did was smile and introduce himself and say it was lovely to meet them.  He was so warm and genuine that he made an impact on everyone he met.  I believed he really did find it wonderful to meet each lady so I’ve no doubt they all felt the same way.

This may sound rather obvious but I’ve watched so many people just say hello then avoid eye contact, look bored or down at the floor.  This is not the way to make a great impression.   Of course it’s fine to be a little nervous but then so is everyone else.  Don’t try to hide it but use it to your advantage to make a joke and break the ice.

Your job, whether it’s talking to a man or a women is to make them feel special and that they are the most important person in the room.   Once you do that they’ll want to spend more time with you as talking was such an enjoyable experience.  Who wouldn’t want to feel good and be made to feel appreciated?

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: How can I succeed at Muslim Speed Dating?

Monday, March 17th, 2014

Here is the latest dating problem

answered by our dating expert

“Dear James.  I’ve booked up to attend one of your Muslim speed dating events.  However, I’m a little nervous about what to say and do.  Can you give me any tips or advice please?   I want to win over the ladies!  Best Wishes,  H”

Hi H,

Thank you very much for your email.  I’m pleased you are giving it a go as it can be a fun way to meet lots of single Muslims quickly.

Here are my top tips to help you get success.

1) Dress well and shave – that goes without saying as you need to make a great impression.

2) Try and stand out from all the other guys.  They’ll be asking the same boring questions ( What’s your job, where do you live etc) so think creatively and ask
interesting questions
3) The key to success is a little cheeky charm.  Be amusing, flirty and show you are a fun guy to be with.
4) Introduce yourself with a smile and repeat their name a few times during the conversation.  They will connect more with you if you do that.
5) Listen intently and make them think they are the most important person in the room.  You need to find a mutual interest and get them excited to discuss their passion.
6) You don’t need to wait for a match.  Find her again at the end of the session, buy her a drink and carry on getting to know each other.  Even better – take her to another
bar away from the competition.
I hope that helps and good luck!
James
If you have your own dating problem that you need an answer too, please email  [email protected]     The best ones will be answered here ( anonymously) by our very own Dating Guru James Preece
www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Making time for dating

Saturday, March 8th, 2014

Do you struggle to find time for dating ?

 

This tip can help you.

People often tell me that they find it hard to make time for online  dating in their busy lives.  They work all day and are too tired in the evenings to do anything proactive.

I agree that online dating can often be time consuming.  It takes a while to search for people you like the look of, compose witty messages and keep the banter going.  Not every one will reply to you and it can sometimes seem frustrating.

But really it doesn’t have to be.   The object of the game is to get their attention quickly and then arrange a meeting while the interest is there.  You don’t have to write long essays back and forth for weeks.  The first message only needs to be a few lines long – just enough to get them intrigued. After a couple of replies, speak on the phone for ten minutes and then arrange your first date.  Endless messages only build up unrealistic expectations and prevent you from ever meeting up.

Here’s a quick tip which will help you find time for dating….turn off your television!  It’s the biggest time waster there is and it’ s main function is a “partner replacement.”   Most people spend all their time either  staring at it or looking forward to seeing it again.

Believe it or not, studies have shown that watching too much television can actually triple your urge for material things.  Just think how many adverts you watch, consciously and unconsciously. On top of this, every hour you watch a day makes you 5% unhappier!

You only need to spend about 20 minutes a day to make online dating work.   If you knew it would guarantee some fantastic dates, would you be able to find time to do it then?   Picture the end result before you start and you’ll soon be able to fit it into your busy lifestyle.

Most of us have at least a spare hour at the weekend, so why not use this time?

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

New hosts wanted for our Muslim Dating events

Monday, March 3rd, 2014
New hosts needed for 2014!
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MuslimSingleSolution is the leading London based single Muslim events and party organiser. We run monthly dating and introduction events and require additional hosts to run these in the evenings.Working with our existing team your duties will include welcoming and registering our clients on arrival, delivering an opening explanation clearly and generally helping to breaking the ice. Your main job is to ensure that our clients have a great time and get the most from the event!Please only apply if you can genuinely demonstrate the skills required in the role description AND you are genuinely keen to do this sort of work.

Please apply with a recent photo of yourself on your profile and tell us why you’d be a great host 🙂

Please do not contact us about this job via the phone numbers on our website.

Location: London, United Kingdom

 

Salma

 

December Feedback

Monday, January 20th, 2014

Here are our feedbacks that we

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had over the last month

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

“Very good and easy to navigate website” MM

“Great service. great people. great prices.” AL

“The way events are arranged are good better than what I have seen from different organisers” SA

“It was a good service” HA

“Very good site” YA

“Great website.” ZH

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]

 

Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

How to make people listen

Wednesday, January 8th, 2014

Do you know what the most powerful

dating skill you have is?

 

The most attractive tool you have available is your voice.  If you speak well, in a well modulated and interesting way then people will this.

So this is obviously one of the most important things you can work on if you wish to improve your dating success.  It’s especially useful during a Muslim speed dating event as you will want to make sure that the other person is listening carefully.  Here are my top  tips to making your sure they pay attention:

1) Keep Eye Contact.    This shows confidence and the person you are talking to will find it hard to look away.  The more eye contact you use then the more compelling you will sound. Just remember to smile too and look away every now and again.

2) Lean in and speak quieter.    You should try and decrease the amount of space between you, making things a little more intimate.  This will increase your rapport and allow you speak a little quieter – forcing them to listen.

3) Record yourself.  Most modern mobile phones have a “recording” function nowadays.  The only way you can really hear what you sound like is to record something and then play it back.   Try reading a poem or song lyrics out loud.  If you don’t like what you hear then practice it again until you are more comfortable.  Remember, if you don’t like your voice then how can you expect someone else to?

4) Speak passionately.  Always make sure that you have plenty to talk about.  If you don’t then both your minds will wander and you’ll be bored. So talk about whatever it is your are passionate about.  You’ll find you smile more and your eyes light up when you discuss something that you like.

5) Listen.  Ask lots of questions and look like you are fascinated by their answers .   This will set the example and show them how they ought to be responding when you speak.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com