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Creating your Relationship Wish List

Monday, September 30th, 2013

Before you start a new relationship

You must be clear about what you want


Do you know what you are looking for in a new partner?  Or do you just see who happens to turn up and hope for the best like so many people do?

If you aren’t sure about what you want then you will never know when you meet them.  So to boost your chances I strongly suggest you make yourself a relationship wish list.

This is a bit like a shopping list, where you write down the things you would like from a partner.   Don’t turn it into a long list of things you have little hope of every achieving or you will make things impossible for yourself.  Instead, use it to note down the dealbreakers and the most important things you will need.

To help you along, consider these dating questions:

1)  What sort of age difference would work best?

2) What type of person do you hope to meet?  Try and describe them.

3) Is distance a problem or would you be OK travelling to see each other?

4)  Do you want to get married at some point?

5)  Does it matter if they earn a lot more money that you?

6)  Is being fit and active important?

7)  How much space to you need from a partner?  Would you rather be together all the time or have long periods apart.

8) Do you want to have children?

9) Are they close to their family and have a wide circle of friends?

10) Do they prefer to stay at home or go out and travel?

Make sure that everything you wish for is compatible with your own lifestyle and don’t be too picky.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

Is their ex getting in your way?

Monday, September 23rd, 2013

Sometimes people stay friends with their exes,

This can make it hard for a new couple.

Here are some tips if you are worried about how to handle them:

1) Communicate. If their ex is getting in the way then you need to talk things through before problems build up. Find out what went wrong and what caused them to break up. Make sure there are no feelings left or questions unresolved. If you are worried about them getting in the way then it’s up to your partner to reassure you, not the other way around.

2) Give them Space. Let them meet every now and again if they are friends. They are entitled to have their own friends and they must at some point have had lots in common. If they feel like you are pressurizing them, they might panic and become defensive, which will cause tensions and arguments.

3) Don’t display signs of jealousy. Even if you are, then never ever let her know. Instead, be overfriendly with her and show her how happy you are with your partner. Always smile, laugh at his jokes, hold his hand and show her you are completely non-threatened by her.

4) Don’t compete. Keep in mind that you’ve already won as he’s chosen to be romantically involved with you. So don’t feel you have to outdo her or fall into the trap of constantly comparing yourself to her. It’s you that he wants to be with so it’s game over for her.

5) Don’t try and make him jealous or her angry. It can be tempting to flirt with other guys or try and wind her up, but game playing will only backfire on you. There’s no need to create barriers or problems if they don’t exist in the first place.

6) Get to know her – you might just make a new friend. You never know, she might even be more worried about what you are thinking than the other way round. At least if you know her and how she thinks then you have the strong advantage.

7) Make sure you have a wide social circle yourself. That way you have other people to talk to and aren’t dependent on your partner. He’ll know that you have other options and places to go to, which will make him realise life goes on without him.

8) Be cautious. If there are three of you in the relationship and she’s causing problems then take action. Just because he’s happy with you, doesn’t mean she doesn’t want him back. Watch out for warning signals like secret text and phone calls, him wearing clothes she likes or him simply disappearing.

9) Trust him. It can be hard, but it’s only through trust that a relationship can develop. Take his word that they are just friends, at least until something happens that makes you doubt otherwise!

10) Give it time. It might be an annoyance or inconvenience but don’t worry. She will eventually meet someone else and will be off the radar and out of your life. You don’t have to deal with her forever!

James Preece, Relationship and Dating Expert for

Always be polite

Monday, September 23rd, 2013

If you want to be successful at dating

there’s one rule you must always follow
Speed dating is a great way to meet lots of nice matches in a short space of time.   This means you will have very short conversations with a wide variety of different people.

Of course, you aren’t going to be attracted to every single one of them.  That’s just human nature.  The important thing is to remember to be polite to everyone.  It may sound obvious, but I overheard someone being a little to rude and dismissive at a recent event.  It was clear that they were finding the other person boring and yawned loudly to make a point.  This really is unacceptable behaviour.

Each date is only for a few minutes. If you don’t like them then you never have to speak to them again. Spend the time asking questions rather than answering them if you don’t want to reveal too much.

It’s so important to be respectful and polite to everyone you meet.  This is true whether it’s at an event, at a bus stop, in the supermarket or even walking down the straight.   You never know who you might be watching or who they may be able to introduce you to.

A smile and politeness cost nothing but they may help you get so much more back in return.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru


New site launched

Monday, September 23rd, 2013

Our new look site is now live.

Please let us know if you experience any issues or if you like it and want to share this with us. Please email us to [email protected]

We have added new fields into the profiles for Personality, Interests, Music etc.   We have also added in a few extra features too:

  • New modern look and improved navigation
  • New App-Like mobile site
  • Messaging presented as in-line conversations
  • Easier Search and more effective searching
  • Enlarged images throughout the website
  • New chat features

Please go to Edit Profile and spend a few minutes to check update your details.

Please let us know what you think!

Our August Feedbacks

Monday, September 16th, 2013

August was a great month


and here are some of your successes

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

“Good service”  MK

” It’s a good site” FM

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Its good.” PM

“I found someone off this site. Thank you!”  ZK

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

The Muslim Single Solution is part of the Online Dating Association

Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

The Single Solution brand


is part of a new dating initiative.

We have agreed to sign up with other online dating sites as founding members of the Online Dating Association (ODA)

This will be a new body set up to make sure customers are treated fairly and to keep them safe from scammers.

You can find out more information using the link here: