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March Feedback

Wednesday, April 10th, 2013

Here are our latest

feedbacks from March

March was another great month for the site.  We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

” Very user friendly site and good system to contact people ” NR

“Great service” HH

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Excellent!  FK

“User friendly” AC

” It’s a good service”  SA

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : it was great met some one ” AH

“Good looking website”  DM

“A good effort, thank you. ” BF

“It was good ” SS

“It’s a good website ” US

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

What would you like to know?

Monday, April 8th, 2013

Do you have a dating question

or need some advice?


Dating is a fun process but some times you might get a little confused about how best to go about things.  The good news is that you don’t have to do it on your own!

Perhaps you might want to improve your profile or get more messages back from the ones you are sending.  Or maybe you want to make a better first impression during our Muslim speed dating parties.   Some members have a question about a date they have been on or are unsure what to do next.

Whatever you’d like to know, we are here to help you.  Remember, we have been doing this for a many years so we are definitely expert in the dating and relationships field.  We try and answer as many questions here in the blog as we can.   However, we need your feedback so we know just exactly what to write about.  All questions are anonymous so nobody will know it came from you.

Please email us at [email protected]    Try and tell us what problem you are having or what you’d like to know and we’ll do our best to help right here in the blog.


Happy dating,
James Preece

The Dating Gur

Dating Problems Solved: Who should pay?

Sunday, April 7th, 2013

Here is a dating dilemma


Who should pay on a first date?


Dear James,

Should a guy pay for dinner and drinks on a first date?

I recently had a date with a girl who I met for drinks. It went really well and I took her out to dinner straight after.  I very much got on with her and hoped to see her again. Traditionally a guy would normally pay for the girl, but I had gone on a date with another girl previously who was adamant that she should pay for herself, even for a soft drink. With this in mind, I decided that we should split the cost for dinner. Later on it pertained that she wasn’t impressed and expected me to pay for everything. She didn’t appreciate it and ended it quickly. I didn’t mind but I am really confused now.

In today’s society women want their independence and I assumed they are generally happy to pay their own way (at least on the first date). It also spells to me that the guy is not paying his way into a potential relationship.

I’m not a miser and I’m happy to spend on my family and friends but I think that if you are complete strangers then I wouldn’t want her to take advantage from the off. A couple of close female friends of mine also agree with me, but I think for the future I would like to know the best way to go about it.



Dear Z,

Many thanks for your question. I feel your frustration, I really do.  Dating can be really expensive for a guy and it’s hard working out whether you should pay or not.

However, there’s one basic rule that we always suggest you stick to – the man should always pay!

The reasoning behind this is that it’s the man’s job to be a gentleman and take care of the lady.  You have to show her that you are a good provider and it’s something that goes back to cavemen times.  Above all, it shows that he can take the initiative and lead.

With that in mind, the woman should always at least offer to split the bill, but the man should not let her on a first date.

Going back to the lady who insisted she pay for her own soft drinks, did you ever see her again?  I’m guessing not.   If someone makes a point of not letting you pay, she’s pretty much telling you she’s not interested and doesn’t want to lead you on.

So I’m afraid you do have to open your wallet if you want to get more dates…..and you’ll get bonus points for tipping the waiting staff well.   If you can’t afford it then forget dinner and stick to coffees.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru