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Seasons Greetings!

Monday, December 23rd, 2013

We’d love to wish you a very


happy Holidays.


Have a lovely break and have lots of fun!

Best Wishes,


The Muslim Single Solution Team.

November Muslim Dating Feedback

Monday, December 9th, 2013

Here are our feedbacks that we


had over the last month

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

“I thank you for giving me the opportunity to meet someone whom I am about to tie the knot with ,credit where credit is due.”  ZC

“Very good” JP

“Really good site” BC

“The site was very easy to use” AF

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” ZB

“Good service” AM

“Good site, easy to use, good messaging system” SS

“Good, thanks” TB

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

Muslim Dating made easy

Monday, November 25th, 2013

Dating for Muslims isn’t easy

but we can definitely help

Meeting quality professional Muslims can be an almost impossible task.  Where can you find someone amazing that you’ll connect with?  How do you know that you are compatible or that you’ll get on?    Where do you begin to look for them? is your perfect starting place.  We have a fantastic online dating site with countless possible matches.  With new people signing up each day, you can be sure that it won’t be long before you can make some wonderful connections.  Just remember to add a great photo, write a detailed profile and be proactive contacting lots of singles each week.

As well as this, we run regular Muslim introduction events in London.  These take place in relaxed, private coffee shops and cafes.  They almost always sell out and we have a wide selection of eligible Muslim singles for you to meet at each one.  The format is simple – the women remain seated and the men move round to talk to them roughly every 4 minutes.  It’s the perfect way to have a short conversation and find out if you might like to meet up again another time.   There is no pressure and no matching as you are free to contact anyone you met after the event for two weeks.

We have hosts at the events to help you with any questions that you might have.  You just need to ask them if you’d any assistance or aren’t sure what to do.

If you want to meet someone special then you just have to take the first steps.  There’s nothing to be nervous about as we are with you every step of the way. Once you get started then you’ll find things are probably much easier than you expected.

So remember – there are lots of people on the site who would love to meet you right now.  What’s stopping you from getting in touch?

The Worst Date Ever

Monday, November 18th, 2013

Have you ever had a really bad

date that you’ll never forget?


Not every date you have is going to be perfect.   But some can be downright odd, strange or confusing.

For example, have these every happened to you?

1)  They spent the whole time playing on their phone

2) They avoided direct eye contact

3) They only talked about themselves or their ex

4) They had “forgotten” their wallet

5)  They burst into tears

6)  They were much older/shorter/fatter than they said they were

7) They were rude

8) They ordered your food for you

9) They vanished

10) They turned out to be a completely different person.

If something more dramatic has happened that made the date bad for a more amusing reason then please do tell us about it!

It’s only by sharing these stories that we can help people learn how to behave better.

We’ll offer a free ticket to a Muslim introduction event for the funniest or strangest story.

Email us  at  [email protected]

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Our October Feedbacks

Monday, November 11th, 2013

Here are our feedbacks that we


had over the last month

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

“I have met someone already at an event that i attended”ZC

“I like it its nice and simple to use” IS

“Very good service overall, and all genuine individuals” NR

“Good site!” AN

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single” AC

“Very good.”  RJ

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

Why am I always just the friend?

Sunday, October 20th, 2013

In today’s blog I answer another member’s dating problem.


How do you avoid the dreaded “friends zone”?

Dear James,

I hope you can help me.  I don’t seem to have a problem getting dates but I always seem to end up in the “just a friend” category after.  We’ll have a good time and I’ll be looking forward to seeing them again, only to be blown out. They’ll tell me I’m a lovely guy but they just seem see me as a friend.  What can I do about this?



Dear G,
Many thanks for your email.  It’s very easy to get stuck in the friends zone if you don’t make your interest clear.

I’m going to show you how to move on from friend to boyfriend.

1) Be flirty.   You need to try and escalate things physically.  Stay clear of anthing creepy of course,  but you do have to lightly touch her every now and again. This can be as simple as touching her arm or giving her a quick hug at the start of the date.  Once you are sure she is comfortable, step it up a little. Perhaps you can give her a high five or hold her wrist while you pretend to be interested in her watch.

2) Be a a Man.  Women need to respect your masculinity if they want to date you. This means paying the bills, being confident and not chasing them round like a lovesick puppy.

3) Be Romantic.  If you want her to feel romantic towards you then you need to set the scene.  Take her to romantic places, buy her small gifts and treat her like she’s the most important person you’ve ever met.   If she feels special then you’ll be making her feel good too – meaning she will want more of it!

4) Make your interest clear.  How will they know you like them if you are too nervous to tell them?  Bite the bullet and make your move.  If you delay it she’ll assume you only want to be friends and it’s very hard to turn it round.

5) Remember all is not lost.  Many friendships do eventually turn into relationships and can often be longer lasting because of it.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

Feedback from September

Saturday, October 12th, 2013

Here are our feedbacks that we


had over the last month

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

“Good website, easy to use.” EN

“Good website. Best dating website out there!” SJ

” Excellent” AQ

“Good service” SR

“Good site and services. If I choose to do online dating again would re use website. ” MM


If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

Make today the best day ever

Monday, October 7th, 2013

Do you want to make sure

every day is amazing?

Thinking positively is just about having the right attitude and mindset. Here are some quick tips and thoughts to make sure you get the most out of every day

1)  You don’t regret the things you do in life, just the things you were afraid to try.  So why not do something day that you’ve always dreamed about?  The only person holding you back is yourself!

2) Write down everything you are grateful for.  By looking at all these things, you’ll feel better about yourself and a great deal happier.

3) Smile as much as possible.  If you don’t feel like it,  grin anyway and hold it for at least a minute. You’ll be amazed about how much better you feel afterwards.

4) Get up and move.  Many people spend too long sitting down at Loud, fast music can make you feel much better too.

5) Start off small.   It’s the little things that build up to the bigger ones.  So a little time and energy now will have long lasting results.

Remember – every day can be as amazing as you want it to be.  You just need to decide to make it so.

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

Creating your Relationship Wish List

Monday, September 30th, 2013

Before you start a new relationship

You must be clear about what you want


Do you know what you are looking for in a new partner?  Or do you just see who happens to turn up and hope for the best like so many people do?

If you aren’t sure about what you want then you will never know when you meet them.  So to boost your chances I strongly suggest you make yourself a relationship wish list.

This is a bit like a shopping list, where you write down the things you would like from a partner.   Don’t turn it into a long list of things you have little hope of every achieving or you will make things impossible for yourself.  Instead, use it to note down the dealbreakers and the most important things you will need.

To help you along, consider these dating questions:

1)  What sort of age difference would work best?

2) What type of person do you hope to meet?  Try and describe them.

3) Is distance a problem or would you be OK travelling to see each other?

4)  Do you want to get married at some point?

5)  Does it matter if they earn a lot more money that you?

6)  Is being fit and active important?

7)  How much space to you need from a partner?  Would you rather be together all the time or have long periods apart.

8) Do you want to have children?

9) Are they close to their family and have a wide circle of friends?

10) Do they prefer to stay at home or go out and travel?

Make sure that everything you wish for is compatible with your own lifestyle and don’t be too picky.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

Is their ex getting in your way?

Monday, September 23rd, 2013

Sometimes people stay friends with their exes,

This can make it hard for a new couple.

Here are some tips if you are worried about how to handle them:

1) Communicate. If their ex is getting in the way then you need to talk things through before problems build up. Find out what went wrong and what caused them to break up. Make sure there are no feelings left or questions unresolved. If you are worried about them getting in the way then it’s up to your partner to reassure you, not the other way around.

2) Give them Space. Let them meet every now and again if they are friends. They are entitled to have their own friends and they must at some point have had lots in common. If they feel like you are pressurizing them, they might panic and become defensive, which will cause tensions and arguments.

3) Don’t display signs of jealousy. Even if you are, then never ever let her know. Instead, be overfriendly with her and show her how happy you are with your partner. Always smile, laugh at his jokes, hold his hand and show her you are completely non-threatened by her.

4) Don’t compete. Keep in mind that you’ve already won as he’s chosen to be romantically involved with you. So don’t feel you have to outdo her or fall into the trap of constantly comparing yourself to her. It’s you that he wants to be with so it’s game over for her.

5) Don’t try and make him jealous or her angry. It can be tempting to flirt with other guys or try and wind her up, but game playing will only backfire on you. There’s no need to create barriers or problems if they don’t exist in the first place.

6) Get to know her – you might just make a new friend. You never know, she might even be more worried about what you are thinking than the other way round. At least if you know her and how she thinks then you have the strong advantage.

7) Make sure you have a wide social circle yourself. That way you have other people to talk to and aren’t dependent on your partner. He’ll know that you have other options and places to go to, which will make him realise life goes on without him.

8) Be cautious. If there are three of you in the relationship and she’s causing problems then take action. Just because he’s happy with you, doesn’t mean she doesn’t want him back. Watch out for warning signals like secret text and phone calls, him wearing clothes she likes or him simply disappearing.

9) Trust him. It can be hard, but it’s only through trust that a relationship can develop. Take his word that they are just friends, at least until something happens that makes you doubt otherwise!

10) Give it time. It might be an annoyance or inconvenience but don’t worry. She will eventually meet someone else and will be off the radar and out of your life. You don’t have to deal with her forever!

James Preece, Relationship and Dating Expert for

Always be polite

Monday, September 23rd, 2013

If you want to be successful at dating

there’s one rule you must always follow
Speed dating is a great way to meet lots of nice matches in a short space of time.   This means you will have very short conversations with a wide variety of different people.

Of course, you aren’t going to be attracted to every single one of them.  That’s just human nature.  The important thing is to remember to be polite to everyone.  It may sound obvious, but I overheard someone being a little to rude and dismissive at a recent event.  It was clear that they were finding the other person boring and yawned loudly to make a point.  This really is unacceptable behaviour.

Each date is only for a few minutes. If you don’t like them then you never have to speak to them again. Spend the time asking questions rather than answering them if you don’t want to reveal too much.

It’s so important to be respectful and polite to everyone you meet.  This is true whether it’s at an event, at a bus stop, in the supermarket or even walking down the straight.   You never know who you might be watching or who they may be able to introduce you to.

A smile and politeness cost nothing but they may help you get so much more back in return.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru


New site launched

Monday, September 23rd, 2013

Our new look site is now live.

Please let us know if you experience any issues or if you like it and want to share this with us. Please email us to [email protected]

We have added new fields into the profiles for Personality, Interests, Music etc.   We have also added in a few extra features too:

  • New modern look and improved navigation
  • New App-Like mobile site
  • Messaging presented as in-line conversations
  • Easier Search and more effective searching
  • Enlarged images throughout the website
  • New chat features

Please go to Edit Profile and spend a few minutes to check update your details.

Please let us know what you think!

Our August Feedbacks

Monday, September 16th, 2013

August was a great month


and here are some of your successes

We get many emails from our members about the fun they are having on the site:

Here are just a few of them:

“Good service”  MK

” It’s a good site” FM

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Its good.” PM

“I found someone off this site. Thank you!”  ZK

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

The Muslim Single Solution is part of the Online Dating Association

Wednesday, September 11th, 2013

The Single Solution brand


is part of a new dating initiative.

We have agreed to sign up with other online dating sites as founding members of the Online Dating Association (ODA)

This will be a new body set up to make sure customers are treated fairly and to keep them safe from scammers.

You can find out more information using the link here:

Dating Guru’s Mailbag: Why can’t I find a decent man?

Monday, August 19th, 2013

Here is another question

for our Dating Guru

” Dear James, I’m a divorced 34 year old Muslim single mother.  I have a Masters Degree, a job that I love and own two houses.

I have reached a time in my life where I would like to start dating and maybe get married again one day. So far, I have had a hard time meeting mature men my own age. My friends assure me that I’m a great catch – beautiful, great catch, funny, good personality etc.  However, the few guys I’ve dated have called things off for really odd reasons. I had one date that I felt went well. Later that night he sends me a TEXT MESSAGE to say the conversation was great and you’re a beautiful girl. But, you being a vegetarian is a deal breaker
for me.” Other situations didn’t fare much better. I find it very very very hard to believe that being a vegetarian is that much of a turn off to somebody. Where is a good place to meet a mature man in his late 30’s (no bars please!).  Is Online Dating really that safe? Please can you help?  M”

Hi M,

Many thanks for your question.  It’s something I get asked all the time so I’ll definitely try to help 🙂  You need to know that you are not alone and there are huge numbers of women in the same situation.

Let’s get right to the point.  You are right, it was probably nothing to do with being a vegetarian.  ( Unless he was a butcher?!)   It’s much more likely that these men are getting cold feet simply because you have a child. I know, it’s very unfair, but not many younger men are mature enough to handle it. They aren’t ready to take on extra responsibility and will want to have kids of their own a bit later in their lives. Some even have a hard time looking after themselves right now!  Not only that but they will be paranoid about your ex-husband popping back on the scene at some point, even if he isn’t at the moment. It’s not just you who they are dating, but three of you.  They don’t want to hurt your feelings and tell you this directly so they make up crazy excuses instead.

Oh, and to top this off, there are men who will even be intimidated or insecure that you’ve got a great job, your own place etc if they’re not sorted their own lives out.

But don’t worry, once men get a bit older and grow up a bit, they can be quite happy to settle down. There are many decent men in their 30s who would jump at the chance to date you, it’s just a matter of finding them!

So, what do I suggest? Find out if there are any singles events in your area. Most busy cities have them each week and most men are professional and settled.   At the very least you will make some new friends and have a great night out.

Online dating is definitely your best way forward.  Firstly, you can state clearly that you are a single mother so you’ll only be contacted by men who are happy with that. If you are told you are beautiful then why not use that to your advantage and put up some great pictures to get attention? Remember to be proactive on the dating site too. You can’t just wait for people to contact you. Take action and you’ll soon have them queing up to date you 🙂 Safety isn’t really an issue on the decent dating sites. Just remember not to give out your surname, real email or phone number until you are sure you are interested.  Trust your instincts, meet in a safe busy place you know and always tell a friend where you will be.

Finally, another great idea can be to get all your friends to help you. Tell them what you are looking for and ask if they know any great guys. People love challenges like this and you never know you might meet.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

July Success Stories

Monday, August 12th, 2013

Here is our feedback


that we had in July

We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

“I think it is an excellent service for professional, Muslim singles to be able to meet and share like minded views and possible relationships in the future” KZ

“Thanks for looking after the website.” EM

“This is a good website” RS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : It’s good” AS

” I am getting married and thank you for helping” SR

“It’s a good website” MH

“The events are well organised” RK

“Great website and unique services!” PR

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

Will love happen when I stop trying?

Saturday, July 13th, 2013

Here’s some advice


on how to find love

There’s a well known saying that you’ll find love when you stop trying and don’t expect it.   People say that if you just forget about finding someone then they’ll find you anyway.

So should you stop looking?

My advice is absolutely not!  While I do believe it’s true to a certain extent, it’s also a fantastic excuse to do refuse responsibility.  If you are a happy, positive frame of mind and ready for love then it will come your way. The big secret is that you do have to give it a helping hand.

If you want to get something in life, whether it’s love, money, a new job or even a holiday then you need to take action.   For example, if you’d like a new job then you’d polish up your CV, send it out to prospective employees and attend some interviews.   You just wouldn’t sit back, do nothing and wait for one to find you.  Event if one magically does then you can guarantee it won’t be the best one you could possibly dream of.

So what should you do?  Well as well as the obvious things like going out on dates, why not try and do more for yourself.   Use your spare time to go out and get a new haircut, hit the gym or buy some new outfits.  Take the chance to sign up to learn some new skills, such as dancing or cooking. They will all help you feel and look amazing, which will therefore make it easier to meet someone wonderful.  If you enjoy your life and enjoy being who are then others will naturally want to share it with you.

The bottom line is this: Love will find you in the end but you need to help it along the way by being open and ready for it!

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Our Feedback from June

Monday, July 8th, 2013

June was another great

month for the site

We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

” I enjoyed the speed dating” PZ

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : The service was amazing.” SN

“Good service”  AA

“It was good to get updates of new candidates and you kept me well informed thank you” OH

“It was was really good” SP

“The venue was a good choice, central location.”  SC

“All in all a good service” AP

“Very good” JH

“Excellent” ZA


If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

Is something coming between you?

Monday, July 1st, 2013

There’s one very common thing

that could be ruining your relationships

Everyone leads such busy lives nowadays and we feel the constant pressure to keep on top of everything.  Technology has made things a little easier but this could be one of the main reasons that you are still single!

Picture the scene.  You are out on a first date with someone you are interested in and you enjoying chatting away.   Then you start to notice they have a rather annoying habit.  Every few minutes they pull out their phone and start checking texts.  This gets progressively worse during the even as they spend longer and longer answering writing messages.  The final straw comes when they take a call.

Has this happened to you?  Even worse, is this something YOU have done yourself during a date?

Your mobile phone can be your best friend or your worst enemy.  When you are out on a date, it’s all about first impressions. The whole point of meeting is to get to know each other and make them feel important.  If you keep constantly checking your phone then this will come across as extremely rude and that you couldn’t care less about talking to them.

I’ve even heard of someone taking a photo of their date and then forwarding it to a friend for feedback.  This is completely unacceptable .  So here are the three big rules when it comes to phones and date:

1) Turn it off

2) Put it away

3) Leave it in your pocket/ bag until the end of the date

It’s that simple.  If you really are expecting an urgent message then tell your date in advance and put the phone on silent.  If you pre-warn them then they are much more likely to be understanding if you need to reply.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Why have my messages disappeared?

Sunday, June 23rd, 2013

If you have vanishing sent messages

Perhaps this could be why.


We often get emails asking where sent messages have disappeared to on the site.

Well, in order to keep things running smoothly, messages are automatically deleted after 60 days. Otherwise your inbox could end up getting very confusing.  If you wish to save messages for a longer period, then you can archive them.

As well as this, if the other person deletes the message, or deletes their profile, the the message will also disappear from your sent message folder too.

You should also be aware that messages in bold haven’t been read yet. This is usually because they’ve not yet logged in or aren’t able to read messages as they don’t have credits or a membership.

If you are keen to hear from them, it’s always worth sending another message “reply paid” as that might encourage them to read and reply to you.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

May Feedback

Monday, June 17th, 2013

Here are our latest

feedbacks from June

June was another great month for the site. We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

“Good service” NA

“Thanks a lot for organising the Muslim speed-dating events, they work quite well and are a great way to meet fellow muslims!” SK

“Nice website” MS

“Service was great” HH

“You are doing a great job” SH

“Fantastic event” AP

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

The important of Smiles

Monday, June 10th, 2013

A good smile is the key

to successful dates


If you want to make people believe you are honest, friendly and trustworthy then you have to learn to smile.

If a baby wants you to like him then he’ll giggle and smile.  That’s because smiling is a natural instinct that we all learn very early on.  By showing our teeth we are proving to the world that we are not a threat.  Therefore it increases empathy and makes other people trust you.

A good smile is one that lifts at the upward corners of the mouth and also the eyes.   A fake, insincere smile doesn’t last as long and can be spotted at the subconscious level.

Great teeth are a sign of health and good breeding so having bad teeth is the ultimate turn off.  If they are too discoloured it can make you look a lot older than you really are. They don’t have to be perfect as that can also be off putting. Clean and cared for is enough.

Always remember to floss your teeth and use a mouthwash before you talk to anyone.  Bad breath is never acceptable and even worse than not smiling at all.

Try and smile at everyone you meet, including people you might pass on the straight.  This small action can brighten someone’s day and chances are many will smile back.

Happy dating!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

How to mess up a first date

Friday, May 31st, 2013

Has this weird thing

ever happened to you?

I’ve had a lot of emails about my blog post on how to avoid dating mistakes. A lot of people have told me about other very strange things people have said to them but there’s one thing that crops up scarily often.   I’ve heard this so many times that I wanted to share it with you.  If it’s happened to you too then let me know!

It’s what I call the “empty wallet” story…
To summarise, it goes like this.  The man invites the lady out on a date – perhaps  for a meal.  They get on well and at the end of the evening the bill arrives.  The man goes to open his wallet only to be stunned that he’s somehow left all his money ( and credit cards!) behind.

“Oh dear,” he says, ” I seem to have come out without any cash.  Would you mind paying now and I’ll get it next time?”

As if there would even be a next time. I’ve even heard a version of this where the man has ordered the most expensive items from the menu and the lady has just had salad and  a mineral water.  Another lady did foolishly agree to cough up and arranged another restaurant date only for him to try exactly the same trick again!

Men, this is absolutely not cool or funny.  This can’t be an accident and nobody goes out without any money.  Your main job on a date is to make the best first impression you possibly can.  If you refuse to pay then it makes you look mean, tight fisted and downright rude.   On top of this it will make you look incredibly stupid and you’ll undo any good work you might have made during the date.

So the bottom line is bring enough money to cover the date and act like a gentleman.

Of course it’s not just men who do this.  Many women expect the men to pay and will “forget” to bring money with them as a test.  Again, this is wrong. While the man should generally always pay on the first date, the woman should at least offer.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to talk to a shy person

Sunday, May 26th, 2013

Sometimes you’ll meet a shy person

when you are taking part in speed dating


This can sometimes be quite difficult, especially if you find they aren’t answering or asking your questions.  Most people are a little shy at heart but some of us are better at hiding it than others.  To problem with this is that it can make them seem like they are arrogant or full of themselves.

Here are a few quick tips that might help makes things a little easier:


1)  Speak softly.  A shy person won’t be too loud, so match their vocal tone and pace.

2)  Smile.    The best way to break through is build trust and the quickest way to do this is with a smile.

3)  Listen carefully.  If they think that you are truly interested in what they have to say then they’ll respond much more positively towards you.  So do ask lots of questions and find out what they are passionate about.

4)  Be patient.  Don’t rush them or act annoyed if they don’t want to do things at your pace.   They may take time to open up but it could well be worth waiting for.

5)  Don’t joke.   Don’t make inappropriate comments or say anything that might make them feel uncomfortable.  Be serious but stay friendly.


Just because they might be shy doesn’t mean they aren’t your Mr or Miss Right.  They came to the event for a reason so they are genuine in their intentions and respect that it might have been very difficult for them. Give them a chance!


Happy dating!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

March Feedback

Wednesday, April 10th, 2013

Here are our latest

feedbacks from March

March was another great month for the site.  We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

” Very user friendly site and good system to contact people ” NR

“Great service” HH

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Excellent!  FK

“User friendly” AC

” It’s a good service”  SA

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : it was great met some one ” AH

“Good looking website”  DM

“A good effort, thank you. ” BF

“It was good ” SS

“It’s a good website ” US

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

What would you like to know?

Monday, April 8th, 2013

Do you have a dating question

or need some advice?


Dating is a fun process but some times you might get a little confused about how best to go about things.  The good news is that you don’t have to do it on your own!

Perhaps you might want to improve your profile or get more messages back from the ones you are sending.  Or maybe you want to make a better first impression during our Muslim speed dating parties.   Some members have a question about a date they have been on or are unsure what to do next.

Whatever you’d like to know, we are here to help you.  Remember, we have been doing this for a many years so we are definitely expert in the dating and relationships field.  We try and answer as many questions here in the blog as we can.   However, we need your feedback so we know just exactly what to write about.  All questions are anonymous so nobody will know it came from you.

Please email us at [email protected]    Try and tell us what problem you are having or what you’d like to know and we’ll do our best to help right here in the blog.


Happy dating,
James Preece

The Dating Gur

Dating Problems Solved: Who should pay?

Sunday, April 7th, 2013

Here is a dating dilemma


Who should pay on a first date?


Dear James,

Should a guy pay for dinner and drinks on a first date?

I recently had a date with a girl who I met for drinks. It went really well and I took her out to dinner straight after.  I very much got on with her and hoped to see her again. Traditionally a guy would normally pay for the girl, but I had gone on a date with another girl previously who was adamant that she should pay for herself, even for a soft drink. With this in mind, I decided that we should split the cost for dinner. Later on it pertained that she wasn’t impressed and expected me to pay for everything. She didn’t appreciate it and ended it quickly. I didn’t mind but I am really confused now.

In today’s society women want their independence and I assumed they are generally happy to pay their own way (at least on the first date). It also spells to me that the guy is not paying his way into a potential relationship.

I’m not a miser and I’m happy to spend on my family and friends but I think that if you are complete strangers then I wouldn’t want her to take advantage from the off. A couple of close female friends of mine also agree with me, but I think for the future I would like to know the best way to go about it.



Dear Z,

Many thanks for your question. I feel your frustration, I really do.  Dating can be really expensive for a guy and it’s hard working out whether you should pay or not.

However, there’s one basic rule that we always suggest you stick to – the man should always pay!

The reasoning behind this is that it’s the man’s job to be a gentleman and take care of the lady.  You have to show her that you are a good provider and it’s something that goes back to cavemen times.  Above all, it shows that he can take the initiative and lead.

With that in mind, the woman should always at least offer to split the bill, but the man should not let her on a first date.

Going back to the lady who insisted she pay for her own soft drinks, did you ever see her again?  I’m guessing not.   If someone makes a point of not letting you pay, she’s pretty much telling you she’s not interested and doesn’t want to lead you on.

So I’m afraid you do have to open your wallet if you want to get more dates…..and you’ll get bonus points for tipping the waiting staff well.   If you can’t afford it then forget dinner and stick to coffees.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Feedback from February

Monday, March 18th, 2013

Here are our latest

feedbacks from February

We had a very busy month in February and the site was extra busy over the Valentine’s period.  We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

“Well organised and fun” ST

“Great way to meet like minded people ” ZM

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : good ” AA

“Event was good and well organised. Regular emails also” TH

“Excellent ” LF

“Absolutely brilliant ”  AS

“Good service, keep it up!” FG

“Very good! ! ” VM


If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

Copying and Pasting

Monday, March 11th, 2013

Why is copying and pasting

a bad idea?

We know that online dating can sometimes seem like hard work.  First you have to find people you like, read their profile and then think of a carefully crafted message to get them interested.  This can be time consuming, so it can be tempting to speed things up a little.

So…rather than than write a proper email some people will write a short, pre-written email such as “Hi, I liked your profile.  Get in touch if you liked mine.”    They’ll then copy this message and send it to every single person they like the look of.

This method CAN work providing you have an amazing profile and photo.  You’ll also have to hope the person you’ve emailed isn’t getting many emails.

However, it’s pretty much a waste of time for both of you.   It’s annoying to get such a vague message and it clearly shows that you’ve not bothered to put any thought or effort in to getting to know them.  A copied and pasted message is very easy to spot and will usually get deleted or ignored.

The other problem is that some people may well be willing to give you a chance.  They’ll make a mental note to respond but it will be “low priority.”   Instead they’ll focus on writing back to the members who wrote interesting emails.  If they run out they may send you a quick reply…but only if they remember.

You need to stand out if you want to make a good impression.   Two minutes of writing a half decent message will get you much better results than ten minutes of copying and pasting.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

What caused my break up?

Monday, March 4th, 2013

Are you confused as to why


they broke up with you?

The end of a relationship is never pleasant, especially if you don’t fully understand what caused it.  If they don’t explain then you are left confused, disappointed and angry.  There could be many reasons why they ended it –  the most common of which I’m going to explain here in this blog.

1) They just aren’t ready to commit or give you want you want.   This is one of the most common causes for a break up.  If you don’t want to settle down yet then you aren’t giving them any “emotional security.”  You are  preventing them from getting what they want in their lives and this will results in you getting dumped.

2) They don’t trust you.  Perhaps they’ve caught you lying or cheating one two many times.  There comes a point when enough simply has to be enough.  If the issue is with them then there isn’t much you can do if you aren’t to blame.

3) They thought you were trying to change them.   If you are too critical and constantly nagging them to do things then it’s natural for them to assume you think they aren’t good enough for you.

4) The know deep down that you aren’t “the one”   If the chemistry and passion are not longer there then it’s kinder to end it.  Otherwise you are just delaying the inevitable.

5)  You aren’t treating them right.  Love is a two way thing and if you make them unhappy then there is no chance of a future.   So always be respectful and show them how much you mean to them while you are dating to stop this break up reason happening.


The best way to get over a break up is to start dating again.  It won’t be easy, but once you do you’ll begin to realise there ARE other people out there that will result in a much better relationship.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

January Feedback and Successes

Monday, February 25th, 2013

We have already had lots of

great feedbacks for 2013

There’s no better feeling than reading about how fabulously you are all doing on our website and at our introduction events.  We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

“Good speed dating event and website is user friendly.” SH

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : I’m not single anymore :)”  TO

” I am in talks with my future partner thank you ” MS

“Very good thanks” MT

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Good” WD

“Thank you so much, I think I met someone already on this website. Many Thanks” CK

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know :    [email protected]


Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

How to Shake them Off

Monday, February 18th, 2013

Have you ever been stuck talking

to someone you aren’t keen on?

Some people just won’t take the hint.  You talk to them for a little while and once you’ve realised you aren’t interested then they just won’t take the hint.  So how do you break off the conversation without being too rude?   Here is my advice on how best to go about this:

1) Makes your excuses and leave.  It’s as easy as that.  Just tell them you need to use the toilet, want to catch up with a friend or simply that you want to speak to a variety of people.  Tell them you really enjoyed talking to them and you’ll chat to them again later in the evening.

2) Don’t accept a drink if you aren’t interested.  If you do, you’ll be obliged to stay talking with them for the duration of your drink.  It’s better to buy your own drinks and be free to mingle.

3) If you are at a singles event, use a host to help.   Tell them if someone won’t leave you alone and we’ll quickly introduce them to a more suitable match.

4) Always be polite.   You never know who might be watching or who they might be able to connect you with.  It’s fine to tell them you aren’t a good match, but do it respectfully and be as friendly as possible.

5) Don’t give out personal contact info to anyone you don’t intend to communicate with.  It sounds pretty obvious but some people will still send over all their contact info ( or hand out a business card) to anyone and everyone.   Don’t give anyone false hope that you will meet up with them again or you mind find they get frustrated and keep trying to get an explanation


Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

Happy Valentine’s Day

Monday, February 11th, 2013

Valentine’s Day is the best day for singles.


So we’d like to wish you lots of luck and happiness.


Today is the perfect day to message anyone you like the look of.   Don’t be afraid – you’ll have more luck today than any other day of the year!

If you’d like to boost your chances and have more dating success, then sign up for one of our Muslim Introduction events too.  These sell out quickly so don’t leave it until hte last minute.


Want an Online Dating Profile Review?

Thursday, February 7th, 2013

Would you like some help with your

Online Dating Profile?

Would you like to get some feedback on your dating profile? Wish you had more hits? Can’t work out why nobody is contacting you?

Then it’s time to get some help.
Each month, our Dating Guru James Preece will take a look at one profile. He’ll rewrite it and offer his expert opinion on what would make things better for you.

James has been a Dating Expert for over seven years now, helping 1000s of singles and giving dating advice to countless magazines, newspapers, radio and TV shows.

If you’d like to be considered for this, then please email him at [email protected] with your username in the message so he can take look. The person who he believes he can help most next month will be featured in this blog.

We’d also like our members to offer their own (contructive) thoughts and insights too. You’ll be able to do this by commenting on each blog.


If you’d pefer more detailed, one-to-one help or coaching you can reach him at:



Where have my credits gone?

Saturday, February 2nd, 2013

Here is some information about

our standing charge for credits.


On our site we have a standing charge of 5 credits per month. Its pretty nominal, eg if you purchased 100 credits at £20 it would take nearly 2 years to erode! The charge is really to encourage people to use them up and to stop the free credits lasting forever.

If you’ve only bought a few credits then we expect you will use them up well before the month is up.  Our lowest package is more of a trial than anythign else.

The standing charge is stated in many different places on the site, eg on the dating home page, in the accounts section, and in help under “How much does it cost”.

If you have Premium Membership as well as credits then there will be no standing charge as long as you are a member.
Happy dating !
James Preece – the Dating Guru

Our latest feedback and success stories

Monday, January 28th, 2013

Read some of our great emails


we had in December


We love to hear how you are getting on with the website. Have you had some lovely dates or met Mr or Miss Right? If so, please let us know and we’ll share it with all our other members. Unless you say differently, all quotes are anonymous. Please do get in touch as you could be helping others!

Here are just a few emails we had in December:



“Staff: Very friendly and nice”  AD

“I really liked the choice of venue for it was fabulously nice and really warm! Perfect for meeting people and holding conversation in an audible environment as well.”

“Very good service” LQ

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : Thank you for your service”  HR

“It’s a very good service very professional image” NM


James Preece

The Dating Guru

Keep it quiet

Monday, January 21st, 2013

Sometimes saying nothing

is the right thing to do.

Online dating can present you with a huge choice of possible partners.  Of course, not everyone is going to fit the criteria and be a suitable match.  So you will almost certainly get lots of messages for Muslim men or Muslim women who you simply won’t be interested in.

We would  normally suggest that you politely let them know that you aren’t keen, perhaps using one of our special pre-written options.  However, this isn’t always the best thing to do.  Why?  Well, nobody likes to be rejected and it can often be very difficult to accept.  If you say you aren’t a good match, they’ll think differently and try to argue their case.

So sometimes it might be best to just ignore the message and spend time writing to someone you ARE interested in.

It’s also worth pointing out that if you write to someone and then don’t reply, it’s always worth a second attempt on a different day.  Perhaps they might look upon your more favourably when they are in a better mood.  Send a reply paid credit too to maximise your changes. However, if you still don’t hear back then move on to someone else instead.

Remember that this is someone out there for everyone, but you do have to put a little effort into searching for them first.
Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Our new Facebook Page

Monday, January 14th, 2013

We’ve set up a new Facebook Page

That we need your help with!

Due to popular request, we’ve now set up a special Muslim Single Solution Facebook Page.

This will be a new way for us to offer you discounts, deals and advice and we’ll be regularly updating it with useful content.  The plan is that more people will be able to hear about our services, meaning more members on the website and at our introduction events.

However, to make this work we really need your help.  All you have to do it press the LIKE button once you are signed in to Facebook.   So please can you take a few seconds to do this for us now?

You can see the Facebook page here:



Best Wishes,

The Muslim Single Solution Team

New Year – New Love?

Monday, January 7th, 2013

Happy New Year!

Here’s to a wonderful 2013.

The new year is upon us and with it comes a chance to make our dreams come true.  Many people will use this time to make new resolutions to help them get what they want.  This could be to kick a bad habit or to learn a new skill that will improve their lives.

However, lots of people will start the new year with the same hope – to find an amazing partner.   If that’s you then we are definitely the people to help.

Our Muslim dating site is already incredibly busy with lots of new active member.  January and February are peak times for most dating sites as people start off the new year with great intentions.  So if you are looking for love then you don’t want to miss out on this busy period.  Make sure you have a great photo and a well written profile or you won’t attract any attention.  Even better, contact lots of people that you like the look of and wish them a happy new year.  That will definitely boost your chances and help you on your way.

We are increasing the amount of Muslim introductions events this year to make them better than ever.  We have new venues and new age group categories so there will be something for everyone.  Do book up a few right now as you never know who you might meet.

Remember, the more you do now then the more dates and possibilities you will have later.

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru