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Happy Halloween!

Wednesday, October 31st, 2012

We’d like to wish all our members

a Happy Halloween

 

We hope it’s a scream!

 

Best Wishes,

The Muslim Single Solutio Team

How to double your chances

Monday, October 29th, 2012

Would you like twice as many

poeple to see your profile?

So you’ve spent lots of time crafting the perfect dating profile.  You’ve added a photo and people are looking at it.  That’s great, but would you like to know how to double the amount of views? More views should mean more emails and therefore more opportunities for dates.

Remember that everyone is looking for different things and the first thing they will see is your photo.  If you’ve got a good, happy smiling one that you’ll do better than average. There’s still room for improvement though.

All you need to do is change your photos once every couple of weeks.  Make sure it’s quite a bit different to the old one, perhaps by the background or the look on your face.  Even something simple like a different colour shirt or dress can do the trick. Don’t just add it to your album, but delete the old one and save the new image.  Why?   Well it will give the impression that you are a whole new person and you’ll get a second look.

Just make sure that you’ve written an interesting profile or you won’t get more messages.

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Are you a serial dater?

Monday, October 22nd, 2012

Dating is great fun

but it can also be addictive!

 

When you are an active dater then you can get a real thrill and buzz from it.   There’s something very exciting about your very first meeting – the initial contact, getting to know each other and the possibilities.   However, sometimes it is possible to have to much of a good thing.   When you try online dating you are presented with almost unlimited matches and you might end up just having lots of first dates rather than relationships.

Here are three signs that you might be a serial dater:

1) You stop bothering to make an effort.  If you know that you have other dates in the diary, then it might be tempting not to worry too much how things work out.  So you need to make sure you continue to ask lots of questions and make the other person feel special, even if you aren’t interested.

2)  You get obsessed with someone you’ve not met yet and start fantasizing about your future.  This is a clear warning sign that you aren’t taking dating seriously and you are just doing it for the next thrill.   To get a true connection you need to actually meet up and get to know each other.

3) You become too fussy.   With so much choice comes the problem that you might overlook people too quickly.  If you find yourself constantly running in search of the next date rather than settling down, you could well be a serial dater.  If you see any sort of potential then you should always give them a second chance.  Nobody is perfect so keep that in mind when you are dating.

If this sounds like you then the best thing you can do it give things a break for a few weeks.   That means no dating,  no emailing and no thinking about either.  Instead, spend time meeting your friends and doing things you enjoy.  When you get back on track you’ll be able to see things from a new, fresh perspective.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

How to use the telephone

Sunday, October 14th, 2012

If you want a date you need

to sharpen your phone skills!

 

Some people can get nervous when it comes to talking to a potential date on the telephone.  Instead, they’d rather just text or email until the first date.  However, it’s really nothing to be scared of and the telephone can be used to your advantage if you know how!

 

1) The telephone forces you to lose one of your most power senses – eye contact.  The other person can’t see you nodding your approval or shaking your head so you need to make up for this.  Instead say things like “I hear you” and “I agree” and they’ll know you are both in sync.

2) Keep the first conversation short.  I always suggest you limit your first chat to ten minutes.   Use it to mainly just to establish a first date.  If you spend two hours chatting away before you’ve even met, what will you talk about when you finally do?

3) Treat the call as if you are auditioning.   Imagine they are sat opposite you and overact!   Even though they can’t see you, if you gesture when you speak it will make you sound more engaging.   I find that standing up helps you sound your best as it’s easier to breathe.

4) Most importantly – smile!     Try saying this line out loud now  “I’m having a wonderful day.”   Say it three times, once with no expression, once with a big grin and once with frown.  Do you see how smiling can lift your mood and makes you sound so much friendlier?

5) Work the answerphone.  This tip is valid for when you leave a message as well as your own voicemail recording.    The last thing you want is for somebody to be turned off just because of your ten second message.  Keep it simple, warm and friendly. No gimmicks, no sound effect and no jokes.    Smile when you record it and keep it short and sincere.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com/

No need to rush

Monday, October 8th, 2012

Do you find your relationships

fizzle out much too quickly?

This is a common complaint that I hear and one that you can easily fix.   The trouble it some people let their relationships get much too serious and intense too quickly.

Think of dating like eating a meal in a top restaurant.  Rather than gulp it down in one go, you’d savour each mouthful.  You’d appreciate each and every bite and ponder over the taste and texture. You should be enjoying the dating process and spreading it out over a few months.  If your first few dates are long drawn out affairs then future meetings will never quite be the same.  If you are too keen too quickly then that can be a turn off or come across as a little desperate.

You really don’t need to speaking for hours on the phone in between dates – at least not in the early stages.  If you do, the you mind find you have nothing left to talk about when you meet face to face.

So when you are dating, take plenty of time to get to know each other.   Studies have shown that the longer the initial dating period is, then the more likely the couple are to stay together in a committed relationship.

Being apart is often the very thing that keeps you interested.  It’s a chance to miss and think about each other. You must be sure that you are right for each other and that process is longer than you probably expect.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Give them a second look

Monday, October 1st, 2012

Take a look at this photo

What can you see?

 

People can be much too judgemental when they run a search on a dating site.  Before they even have a look at the profiles, they can scan hundreds of photos very quickly. They will almost instantaneously decide who they like and who they don’t , based on a small photograph.

I’d strongly advise you to change this way of looking at things as it works against you and stop you meeting someone.  Not everyone will look good in photos and many people look better in real life – so do your best not to be so restrictive so quickly.

Most people will have more than one photograph in their album and you might discover you like the look of  one of them more than the main image.   You might not think the first photo is your type but that doesn’t mean that the others one won’t be.   This can be a fantastic icebreaker as you can make a comment on one of these photos.  Perhaps you can ask where it was taken or ask about an item of clothing they are wearing.  Use your imagination and the possibilities are endless.

Lastly, try and have a good read of their profile too.  This can often give you a better idea of character, beliefs etc and you might well find something that you like the sound of.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com