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Don’t copy and paste

Monday, June 25th, 2012

Copying and pasting messages doesn’t work

Read this blog to find out why.

Dating can sometimes be a little time consuming. You need to contact lots of people to make it work, so it’s often tempting to try and cut corners to save time.  So some people will send out the same opening message to everyone, without tailoring it to fit the person they are contacting.

If you want to get someone’s attention then you need to make some effort.  It’s very easy to spot if someone has taken the time to message you or just copied and pasted the same one for each person.  They are usually boring two liners such as “I like your profile. Get in touch.”

So for this reason we strongly advise that you don’t copy and paste messages. This is a terrible tactic that rarely works.

If you do decide to copy and paste, then chances are that you are just wasting your time as well as the person reading the message.  You’ll wonder why you aren’t getting any interest and quickly give up.

You don’t need to write long witty essays, just tell them what you liked about their profile, what you have in common and why they should meet you.   The idea is to sell yourself and stand out from all the other members on our dating site.  If you don’t stand out ( for the right reasons) then you’ll just get lost and nobody will remember you.

It’s so simple really – a  little effort and you’ll get much bigger rewards!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to boost your mood

Sunday, June 17th, 2012

Would you like to feel happier?

Here’s some quick tips which will help!

With this rainy weather it can be easy to see why you might be a fed up at the moment. If you aren’t in a fantastic mood, this can play havoc with your dating life .

If the smiling kitten photo hasn’t cheered you up already, here are my five top tips to feel happier.


1) Appreciate what you have. If you take a while to reflect, you’ll soon realise you have so many wonderful things in your life. This can include things like great friends, family, good health for example.

2) Make a list of what you have to look forward to. This can be big things, such as holidays, parties or even a pay rise . Your can also list small things that will still cheer you up. This can be a coffee break, favourite television show or cooking a nice meal. If there aren’t enough things on your list then start planning!

By doing this you will be able to start living in the present moment. Many of us worry about what the future holds, so make sure you’ve prepared as many positive things as possible.

3) Play some music. Uplifting, happy tunes can stimulate the creative areas of your brain, providing an instant mood lift. Just make sure the music is upbeat – nothing sad or too slow!

4) Go for a walk. Your physiology determines your emotions so if you start to energise yourself your blood will flow more and you’ll feel much happier very quickly. For double the effect, why not combine this with tip 3 by plugging in your Ipod and strolling through the park?

5) Smile! You might need to fake it at first, but you’ll notice that you can’t help but feel better when you smile. It’s a natural body response. As an added bonus, if you smile at people it makes them feel better about themselves and you’ll find many smile back, boosting your happiness even more!

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Why you MUST fill in your Online Dating Profile

Wednesday, June 6th, 2012

Too busy to fill in your profile properly?

Here’s why you need to do it right now.

Imagine if you clicked this blog and all you read was “I’ll come back to this later.”     How would you feel? Perhaps disappointed and ever so slightly cheated.

It never ceases to amaze us how often people don’t bother filling in their profile properly.  A lot of people will write things such as “I’ll tell you Later,” “Ask Me for more Info” or “I can’t believe I’m doing this.”     This is such a waste of time!   What sort of message do you thing this gives to other members?   Firstly, it makes you look ignorant and lazy. If you can’t be bothered to take the time to write a few things about yourself then why should anyone else be interested in getting to know you?

Remember that your profile is there as an advert.  If you write interesting things then you’ll give other people the chance to ask you about them. The more interesting and fun you sound then the more chance there is that they will contact you.

Think very carefully about what you DO say. Don’t write things for the sake of it.

As a guideline, write a few well crafted lines about yourself, followed by a couple of lines about the sort of person you are looking for. You don’t have to write an essay –  too much is almost as bad as too little – but just enough to give everyone a snapshot of your personality.

Very important:  Include a “Call to Action” at the end of your profile.   This is a sentence that will encourage people to get in touch.  This can be a direct statement, such as “Contact me now and let’s see if there’s a spark!”  or “What are you waiting for?  Email me !”     Alternatively, it can be a question.

So take a few minute out of your busy lives now to write a better profile.   You’ll see the rewards as soon as the emails start flooding in!

James Preece  – The Dating Guru