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Dating in all Weathers

Monday, April 30th, 2012

The weather at the moment is terrible.

Here’s how to help it get you more dates!


We’ve gone from a hosepipe ban to a month’s rain in one day.   But just because it’s miserable outside doesn’t mean that you have to put your love life on the backburner.

When it’s rainy most people will stay inside.   This means that you’ll see a huge increase in activity on online dating sites.  They’ll be tucked up warm in their houses, contacting anyone they like the look of. It’s a peak time and once that you should be taking advantage of.   If you aren’t a full, paid up member of a dating site, such as then you will be missing out on all these possible partners you could be meeting.

When you do manage to set up a few dates, the weather shouldn’t stop you meeting up.  In fact, they might been even keener to get out and do something a bit more excting that staring out the window at the raindrops. There are so many things that you can do indoors – such as meeting for a warming hot chocolate or going to a museum, art gallery or bowling alley.

Having said that, walking in the rain is a very romantic date activity – as long as you both know will be doing in advance and dress properly for it.  Make sure you take umbellas and wellington boots.  It’s a great time for a long walk in the park as you’ll probably have it all to yourselves!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

What do you have in common?

Monday, April 23rd, 2012

Here’ s a quick tip

to increase your speed dating chances.


You only have three to four minutes on a speed date, so you need to make them count!

The key thing on a date is to try to discover as quickly as possible just exactly how many things you have in common.

Why?  Well people like people who are like them.  It’s as simple as that.  So the more things that connect you then the stronger the possibility of a relationship.

So you absolutely must try to find common talking points.  As well as the usual things, like hobbies, place you live, favourite films and televisions shows, you should

try and think outside the box too.

For example:

Where have you travelled to in the world? Perhaps you’ve been to the same places.

Do you collect anything?

What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?

Are you a morning or an evening person?

Where have you lived and where would you like to move to?

Of course, it’s good to talk about other things too but you must build a foundation to build on.  Opposites to attract….but not as often as two people who can talk for hours and hours about something they are both incredibly passionate about!

Don’t ask too many questions or it will seem like a job interview.  So offer information first and see if they can slot something in with it naturally as part of the conversation.  Remember that once your speed dating session is over, it doesn’t have to be the end of the chat.  You can pick up where you left off at the end of the evening during the mingling time.

Good luck,

James Preece  – The Dating Guru

Great Speed Dating Questions you can Use

Thursday, April 12th, 2012

Speed dating is great fun

But sometimes it can be hard to be interesting

I always advise that you think up lots of great questions that you ask people to keep conversation flowing. There is nothing worse that an awkward silence when you are first getting to know someone. Make sure you don’t ask open ended questions as you’ll only get “yes or no” answers which can kill your conversation immediately.

There are only a certain amount of times you can ask what the other person’s name is, where they work and where they are from.

To get you started, we’ve come up with some great questions that you can ask. Just remember to really listen to the answers and don’t keep firing off questions. Instead, try and blend them naturally into your chat.

1) Are you a morning or night person?
2)Do you believe in life on other planets?
3)Do you have any bad habits?
4)Do you prefer sweet or salty foods?
5)If you were a fictional character who would you be?
6) Which is your most cherished childhood memory?
7) If you could be any animal, what would you be?
8 ) If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
9) If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go?
10) If you had a million dollars, what would you spend it on?
11) What do you think about right before falling asleep?
12)What is one thing that no one knows about you?
13) If you could have three wishes what would they be?
14) What is one thing you like about being an adult?
15) What is one thing you miss about being a kid?
16) What is one thing you would change about yourself?
17) What is your dream job?
18 ) If you were stranded on a desert island, what three items would you most want ?
19) In case you and I were going out and we had a fight. How would you try to patch things up?
20) What is your favorite thing to do on a Saturday night?
21) What is your favorite thing to do on a Sunday afternoon?
22) What is your first thought when you wake up?

23) What personality traits do you look for in a partner?

24) What was your favorite childhood television program?

25) Would you rather be rich or have true love?

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Proactive vs Reactive

Tuesday, April 10th, 2012

Do you take action to get what you want?

Or do you sit and wait to see what comes to you?


We quite often get emails from members saying they are disappointed that they’ve not had many emails on the site.

The strange thing is, when we look into it we  usually notice that they haven’t sent any messages out themselves! To be successful with online dating, you need to take action and not just sit back and wait for things to happen. This is true for whoever you are and whatever you do.

For example, if you are job seeking would  you post off  your CV to the ones you like or do you hope that job finders will magically find you? If you hoped to start a business, would you try and promote it or pray that customers will come to you instead. I hope you get my point.

Even if you have an amazing photo and an outstanding profile, Mr or Miss Right might be getting emails from other people while you hesitate. Rather than try and find you, they will spend their time getting to know others instead.

The people who get what they want in life as those who make a plan and follow through on it. Spend at least  20 minutes each day carefully searching through profiles that you like and send them a quick carefully crafted email. Don’t give up if you don’t have a fast response, just keep learning and writing emails for a couple of weeks. You’ll be delighted when the replies start coming in.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru