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Happy Holidays!

Monday, December 17th, 2012

We’d love to wish you a very

happy Holidays.

 

Have a lovely break and have lots of fun!

Best Wishes,

 

The Muslim Single Solution Team.

Respect and First Impressions

Monday, December 10th, 2012

First impressions are so important

You never know who is watching!

 

It’s so important that you remember to be nice and polite to everyone you meet at our introduction events.   Of course, you won’t like everyone,  but  you can make or break someone’s evening and confidence by how you respond to them.

It can take a lot of guts to decide to turn up at a singles event.  Everyone is very nervous ( at least for the first time) and it can be quite scary even to walk in to a venue.  So you might not ever be thinking straight to start with.  However, that’s no excuse to be rude to anyone or to be dismissive.  If you are nasty to someone it can dent their confidence and completely ruin their evening – all without you realising.

If you find yourself chatting to someone you rather wish you weren’t, then it’s no big deal.   Your three and a half minutes will soon be up and you’ll move on to another person who may interest you more.  However, if they’ve seen you be blunt or cruel to the other person then they’ll assume you are like that with everyone and treat you the same.

The bottom line is please be nice to everyone you meet.  Treat them as you’d like to be treated.  Ask lots of questions and pretend you think they are wonderful.  That way you’ll leave them feeling a little happier and give them a better chance of meeting someone more suitable.

I always advise you to spend a few minutes reflecting before you walk in.  Imagine everything going really well and that you’ll be fascinated by each and every person that you meet during the evening.  Stand tall and smile as much as you can.  Then, and only then, should you enter.   You’ll find the evening much more positive and fun this way.

Happy dating!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Announcing another new venue

Monday, December 3rd, 2012

We love to try new venues

for our Muslim Introduction Events

After the success of our latest new evenue, the Tattershall Castle boat, we have another fantastic venue lined up for our first 2013 parties.

These will take place in PAUL, the well known bakery/cafe on Baker street.  We’ll have exclusive use of the venue and we are sure it will be hugely popular.

Paul sells delicious pastries, cakes, croissants and sandwiches as well as a huge range of coffees,teas and hot chocolates.

We also plan to run more events at the Tattershall Castle boat too, so don’t worry if you missed out this time.

See you soon!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Our recent feedback and success stories

Sunday, November 18th, 2012

Here are our latest feed backs

which we hope will inspire you

We love to hear all about the successes you are having on our Muslim site.  Thank you to everyone who has shared their success stories and postive feedback with us.  When you share these then it shows our other members exactly how well the site can work if you put a little effort in:

“I am in love with someone and all thanks to you”  GW

“I think this site is very useful and will recommend others to use in future.” IK

“I found someone on your site and am very happy. Thank you.”  AM

“Enjoyed attending some of your events.”  RK

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : VERY GOOD SITE”  TA

“It’s a very good service very professional image” NM

If you have own PLEASE don’t keep it yourself.  Let know now via  [email protected]
Best Wishes,

The Muslim Single Solution Team

Replying to emails

Sunday, November 18th, 2012

So….you get lots of emails.

 

So why aren’t you replying to them?

We’ve noticed that a few people are getting lots of messages through the site, but never actually responding to them.  This isn’t good!

What we’d really like you to do is at least reply to more of these people, even if its to say “thanks but no thanks.” It’s just plain old courtesy. To make this easy for you we even have standard responses such as “thanks but I’m not looking at the moment” or “You aren’t my type.” It only takes a few seconds and they’ll at least know that you have acknowledged there existence.

Some people don’t reply because they don’t want to have to pay for the service which we also find quite strange. If you aren’t serious about meeting someone then why fill out your profile in the first place? If you start making the effort and communicating with people then you’ll soon start making new friends and lining up dates.  If you want to learn to swim you have to start by putting your toe in the water after all!

We also advise sending a credit with a message to make sure the recipient can read it just in case they are new the site. Oh and don’t worry, if you do send a credit they can only reply to your message, not save it to contact someone else!

If you really aren’t interested in making contact with anyone or are perhaps currently dating then it might be a better idea to hide your profile.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

A New Venue for our Muslim Introduction events

Tuesday, November 6th, 2012

We always have great venues

so here’s a brand new one.

Our Muslim events always sell out but we’ve decided to have a little changes of venues.  This way there will always be something new to enjoy.

The Tattershall Castle is a unique floating vessel on the River Thames and has various different rooms with their own individual character that are only an addition to the boats overall charm.  We’ve booked the entire private lounge area for our next Muslim party.

The boat is fully air-conditioned and heated accordingly so you can choose to venture either below or above deck after the party.

Don’t worry, the boat doesn’t move so you won’t be stuck on board!  However, you’ll be able to enjoy the amazing views of the Thames and London’s finest sites.

Please remember that spaces for this event are strictly limited.  Once it sells out it won’t be possible to add any more, so if you’d like to come please do book now.

See you soon!

The Muslim Single Solution Team

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Happy Halloween!

Wednesday, October 31st, 2012

We’d like to wish all our members

a Happy Halloween

 

We hope it’s a scream!

 

Best Wishes,

The Muslim Single Solutio Team

How to double your chances

Monday, October 29th, 2012

Would you like twice as many

poeple to see your profile?

So you’ve spent lots of time crafting the perfect dating profile.  You’ve added a photo and people are looking at it.  That’s great, but would you like to know how to double the amount of views? More views should mean more emails and therefore more opportunities for dates.

Remember that everyone is looking for different things and the first thing they will see is your photo.  If you’ve got a good, happy smiling one that you’ll do better than average. There’s still room for improvement though.

All you need to do is change your photos once every couple of weeks.  Make sure it’s quite a bit different to the old one, perhaps by the background or the look on your face.  Even something simple like a different colour shirt or dress can do the trick. Don’t just add it to your album, but delete the old one and save the new image.  Why?   Well it will give the impression that you are a whole new person and you’ll get a second look.

Just make sure that you’ve written an interesting profile or you won’t get more messages.

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Are you a serial dater?

Monday, October 22nd, 2012

Dating is great fun

but it can also be addictive!

 

When you are an active dater then you can get a real thrill and buzz from it.   There’s something very exciting about your very first meeting – the initial contact, getting to know each other and the possibilities.   However, sometimes it is possible to have to much of a good thing.   When you try online dating you are presented with almost unlimited matches and you might end up just having lots of first dates rather than relationships.

Here are three signs that you might be a serial dater:

1) You stop bothering to make an effort.  If you know that you have other dates in the diary, then it might be tempting not to worry too much how things work out.  So you need to make sure you continue to ask lots of questions and make the other person feel special, even if you aren’t interested.

2)  You get obsessed with someone you’ve not met yet and start fantasizing about your future.  This is a clear warning sign that you aren’t taking dating seriously and you are just doing it for the next thrill.   To get a true connection you need to actually meet up and get to know each other.

3) You become too fussy.   With so much choice comes the problem that you might overlook people too quickly.  If you find yourself constantly running in search of the next date rather than settling down, you could well be a serial dater.  If you see any sort of potential then you should always give them a second chance.  Nobody is perfect so keep that in mind when you are dating.

If this sounds like you then the best thing you can do it give things a break for a few weeks.   That means no dating,  no emailing and no thinking about either.  Instead, spend time meeting your friends and doing things you enjoy.  When you get back on track you’ll be able to see things from a new, fresh perspective.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

How to use the telephone

Sunday, October 14th, 2012

If you want a date you need

to sharpen your phone skills!

 

Some people can get nervous when it comes to talking to a potential date on the telephone.  Instead, they’d rather just text or email until the first date.  However, it’s really nothing to be scared of and the telephone can be used to your advantage if you know how!

 

1) The telephone forces you to lose one of your most power senses – eye contact.  The other person can’t see you nodding your approval or shaking your head so you need to make up for this.  Instead say things like “I hear you” and “I agree” and they’ll know you are both in sync.

2) Keep the first conversation short.  I always suggest you limit your first chat to ten minutes.   Use it to mainly just to establish a first date.  If you spend two hours chatting away before you’ve even met, what will you talk about when you finally do?

3) Treat the call as if you are auditioning.   Imagine they are sat opposite you and overact!   Even though they can’t see you, if you gesture when you speak it will make you sound more engaging.   I find that standing up helps you sound your best as it’s easier to breathe.

4) Most importantly – smile!     Try saying this line out loud now  “I’m having a wonderful day.”   Say it three times, once with no expression, once with a big grin and once with frown.  Do you see how smiling can lift your mood and makes you sound so much friendlier?

5) Work the answerphone.  This tip is valid for when you leave a message as well as your own voicemail recording.    The last thing you want is for somebody to be turned off just because of your ten second message.  Keep it simple, warm and friendly. No gimmicks, no sound effect and no jokes.    Smile when you record it and keep it short and sincere.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com/

No need to rush

Monday, October 8th, 2012

Do you find your relationships

fizzle out much too quickly?

This is a common complaint that I hear and one that you can easily fix.   The trouble it some people let their relationships get much too serious and intense too quickly.

Think of dating like eating a meal in a top restaurant.  Rather than gulp it down in one go, you’d savour each mouthful.  You’d appreciate each and every bite and ponder over the taste and texture. You should be enjoying the dating process and spreading it out over a few months.  If your first few dates are long drawn out affairs then future meetings will never quite be the same.  If you are too keen too quickly then that can be a turn off or come across as a little desperate.

You really don’t need to speaking for hours on the phone in between dates – at least not in the early stages.  If you do, the you mind find you have nothing left to talk about when you meet face to face.

So when you are dating, take plenty of time to get to know each other.   Studies have shown that the longer the initial dating period is, then the more likely the couple are to stay together in a committed relationship.

Being apart is often the very thing that keeps you interested.  It’s a chance to miss and think about each other. You must be sure that you are right for each other and that process is longer than you probably expect.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Give them a second look

Monday, October 1st, 2012

Take a look at this photo

What can you see?

 

People can be much too judgemental when they run a search on a dating site.  Before they even have a look at the profiles, they can scan hundreds of photos very quickly. They will almost instantaneously decide who they like and who they don’t , based on a small photograph.

I’d strongly advise you to change this way of looking at things as it works against you and stop you meeting someone.  Not everyone will look good in photos and many people look better in real life – so do your best not to be so restrictive so quickly.

Most people will have more than one photograph in their album and you might discover you like the look of  one of them more than the main image.   You might not think the first photo is your type but that doesn’t mean that the others one won’t be.   This can be a fantastic icebreaker as you can make a comment on one of these photos.  Perhaps you can ask where it was taken or ask about an item of clothing they are wearing.  Use your imagination and the possibilities are endless.

Lastly, try and have a good read of their profile too.  This can often give you a better idea of character, beliefs etc and you might well find something that you like the sound of.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Two Quick Speed Dating Games

Monday, September 17th, 2012

Not sure what to say during speed dating?

Try these two fun alternatives.

Speed dating is a great way to get to know possible partners quickly. However, it can be a tiring getting asked the same questions over and over again.

Recent studies have proven two fantastic way that can increase interest and boost your chances – just by trying something a bit different.

 

1) Guess the picture.  For this, you’ll need to bring along a pad of paper.  Give one sheet to the person you are speed dating and tell them you’ll try and project an image to them just using your mind.  They have to try and get it right.   It might seem a bit silly, but you’ll stand out from everyone else for your amazing imagination.

2) Eye Gazing.  Rather than talking, you both stare into each others eyes.  You will both probably find it amusing to start with, but laughter is good.   It’s actually a fantastic way of getting a fast connection and you might just be surprised at what happens!

You could of course combine both these activities.  Just make sure you introduce yourselves first and that you end it by suggesting you talk about things after the event.

Happy dating!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Three ways that you blew the first date

Monday, September 10th, 2012

Sometimes you have a great date

but then never hear from them again.

This does not always mean that they didn’t like you!   Instead, it might well be that you gave off signals of disinterest of said something that suggested you weren’t keen.  So rather than risk getting hurt or rejected they try and do it first.

Here are three common mistakes that people make that you might not be aware of. If you can avoid these then you might find you have a much better success rate when it comes to getting second dates:

 

1) You wished them good luck at the end of the date.   You might think this is a friendly thing to say, but they will interpret it as you saying you aren’t interested. As in good luck with the rest of your life.

2) You texted lots before you met but didn’t have much to say when you did.  Save the conversation for when you meet, otherwise you’ll have nothing to talk about.

3) You talked about other people you are talking to online.   Keep this sort of information to yourself and focus on making them feel special instead.  If you go on about others then they’ll naturally assume you aren’t keen on them.

 

Happy dating!

 

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Are you revealing too much?

Monday, September 3rd, 2012

Online dating is great to meet new people

But make sure you don’t tell them everything.

Did you know that you could be telling future partners so much more than you ever thought?    While you keeps contact through the site, the only information you have on each other is what you write there.  This means it’s extremely safe and private.

However, think carefully before you starting revealing more personal details.

If they have your real name and email address, it can be very easy to find more information out.  I’m sure you’ve ever done this ( or been tempted) to do it yourself.

1)  Facebook.  On here you can see photos, wall posts, friends lists and so much more. Make sure you’ve set your profile to private so only close friends can see it.

2) LinkedIn.   This reveals your education and work history.  If you don’t want anyone finding out where you work then don’t reveal this.

3) Twitter.  What sort of tweets are you sending out on Twitter?  Make sure you don’t send anything you’ll ever regret.

4) Google.    You never quite know what might pop on if you do an Internet search.  Try one on yourself now and see what it shows.

5) Friends Reunited.   This isn’t as popular as it used to be , but it’s still used as a tool for looking up people.

So my best advice would be to keep everything on the site until you’ve actually met up and know you like each other.  That way it’s all anonymous and they can’t find out anything else about you.

Happy dating!

James Preece – Dating Expert

The Single Solution is 10 years old

Monday, August 20th, 2012

This year the Single Solution

Celebrates 10 amazing years.

 

The Single Solution brand covers three different websites:   SingleSolution.com, Asiansinglesolution.com and Muslimsinglesolution.com

Together they form London’s leading online dating and events company.

Our Muslim business is our newest of these companies, although we have been running Muslim introductions events for some time now.

Thank you for all your custom over the past years.  We plan to get even bigger and better than ever more.

We’ll be running lots more Muslim singles events and our dating sites is now reporting record traffic.

If you have any ideas, feedback or suggestions then please do let us know so we can improve.

Please email us at [email protected]

Best Wishes,

The Muslim Single Solution Team

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Another fantastic success

Monday, August 20th, 2012

We recently heard news

of a wonderful success story

We love to hear about the matches that our members have on our muslim dating site.  It’s only through this feedbacks that others can know the site really will help them get what they are searching for.  So we were delighted to read this one:

“I never expected that I would find a partner that I would have some many things in common with. I am so overjoyed that I made the right decision in joining your site and have found the perfect partner for life Insha’Allah, so thank you for making this possible”

Congratulations to you both.  We wish you every happiness.

 

If you have your own success story that you’d like to share then please do get in touch.  You can reach us at [email protected]

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Keeping things positive

Monday, August 13th, 2012

Sometimes dating can seem like a struggle

Here’s how to make it better

Dating is supposed to be fun, but we know that every now and again it can be frustrating.  You might put lots of effort in and find yourself being disappointed when none of them lead to anything.  It’s very important that you to upbeat and positive as they are attractive qualities.  Nobody wants to date a pessimist 🙂

So today I’ve put together some quick tips to help you stay positive.

1) Enjoy the Process. Instead of expecting every date to lead to the “one” think of it as a chance just to have fun.  Meeting new people is always useful and you might make a new friend.

2) Do something different.  The best way to break from a dull routine is to shake things up a little.  So use the chance to try some new activities – either on dates or on your own.

3) Don’t do it alone. Team up with your single friends and talk about your experiences.  Attend some of our introduction events together and compare notes.

4) Make a list.  The best way to stay positive is to write down a list of all the things you like about your life.  That will remind you than there many things you are happy and grateful about.

5) Don’t give up.  It’s the ones who stick at it and put the effort it that get results.  You might feel tempted to give up, but if you do how will ever know who might be around the corner?

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Make them laugh

Monday, August 6th, 2012

What is the secret to creating a good impression?

Humour!

When it comes to meeting someone for the first time – perhaps during one of our Muslim speed dating events – you can both be a little nervous.  You’ll both be so concerned about making a great first impression that you’ll come across as little too serious.

This is why you need to inject some fun into it.  A little humour can go a long way and be a brilliant icebreaker. After all, a “great sense of humour” is often the number one thing singles specify when they are seeking a match.

Laughing itself  can make you both feel amazing.  If you use it properly, you can trigger intense biological responses from everyperson you meet.  This is because the simple muscle contactions used in producing a laugh can trigger an increase in the levels of endorphins, the brain chemicals known for their feel good effect.

You don’ t need to learn a jokebook,  but if you hear a funny joke then make a point of remembering it.  To be natural, find something amusing to comment on or talk about something that made you laugh recently.   It’s not really about what you say, but the way you say it. Make eye contact with the person you are speaking to, talk with confidence, and they will find you incredibly funny and interesting.  Be gently teasing but never rude.

It’s also a great first date idea to take someone to see a live comedy show.  The funnier it is then the more relaxed you’ll both feel and it’s a great start to a relationship.

Good luck,

 

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Stay Safe on our Muslim Dating Site

Monday, July 30th, 2012

Online dating is a great way to meet

Just make sure you do it safely.

If you’ve been talking to someone via our Muslim dating site then you’ll want to arrange your first meeting.

Sometimes you will of course have a chaperone, but not everyone does this nowadays.  So if you are meeting alone, then there are few basic rules that you will need to keep in mind.

Never let yourself feel pressurised into anything. If your date is genuinely interested in your happiness then they will want you to feel comfortable.   If they protest, they aren’t the right person for you.

 

1) Wait until you feel comfortable with an individual before you starting giving them your phone number, email address place of work or home address.  Use the anonymity of the site until you are ready.

 

2) Always make your own way to the date – don’t accept a lift there.  Meet in a public place with lots of people – such as a coffee shop.

 

3) Tell someone where you are going and make sure they check up on you during the date.

 

4) Keep an eye on your personal possessions.  Don’t leave mobile phones, wallets or handbags lying around.

 

5) If you don’t feel comfortable, end the date immediately.

 

Happy dating!

 

James Preece

The Dating Guru

 

Get to know their family

Monday, July 16th, 2012

One secret of Muslim Dating success

is to work on your relationship with their family.

For a Muslim, family is extremely important.  So if you want to date someone then you must make sure that their family likes you.  After all, they will be the authority and will give permission for their son or daughter to date you. Each family has different rules that you will need to follow.

Chances are that a family member will be chaperoning them on your dates, so meals with them will be more common than time alone. So it’s very important that you get on the right side of them and use them to help you.

 

Here are some quick tips to help with this:

1) Be clear with your intentions.  The family will want you to be serious about getting married so let them know this to be correct. Act politely and respectfully towards everyone you come across.  If they think for a second that you aren’t looking for a long term relationship they will quickly make things difficult for you.

 

2) If you are ever unsure on how to act, ask a family member. They will be able to let you know what is appropriate and what is not. It is always better to ask than to make a mistake you may come to regret.

 

3) Get to know as many people in the family as possible.  This includes the oldest grand parents right down to the youngest children.  They will all have some influence. Ask lots of questions and show an interest in their lives and they will show an interest in yours. Remember that these people could well become your own family.

 

Good luck!

 

 

 

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Meet Single Muslims

Monday, July 9th, 2012

It’s hard to meet suitable Muslim Partners

So here’s why our site works

Dating can be tough sometimes, especially for a single Muslim.   Where can you meet decent people that you might make a connection with?    Well, don’t worry because we are the perfect solution for you,

Muslimsinglesolution.com is the UK’s leading Asian Muslim matrimonial service.

We run a very busy online dating site full of Modern, British born Muslim Professionals just like you.  You can quickly and easily search profiles by Mother Tongue  – for example Urdu, Bengali, Gujurati, Punjabi.  You can view profiles and photos of all our members and choose who you would like to contact.  We are always around to help you with your search so you don’t need to do it all on your own.

Best of of all, we run regular Muslim speed dating and Muslim Introduction events.   They take place in coffee shops in London and are run by our friendliest hosts.  These are all available at half price to our Premium Members and also to any friends they would like to bring along.

So remember, searching for a Muslim partner doesn’t need to be a chore.  We make it simple, easy and fun.  You just need to put a little effort in and you’ll soon be reaping the rewards of meeting new possible partners.

 

 

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Our latest Feedback

Tuesday, July 3rd, 2012

Here is our latest feedback

and Success stories

 

We love hearing all your positive feedback.  This shows that our site really does work and people are connecting through it each and every day.
Here are some of the most recent.

“Good service. Thank you very much for your assistance. I have recommended it many times to mates” SM

“Very good!”  ST

“Great site – keep it up!” VE

“So far I’m been very impressed with the quality of the members.  More choice than I ever dreamed of!”   VP

“It’s a good site .Keep up the good work ! God bless you!”  ZB

“Very well put together”  JH

“Excellent service” MT

“I have now met several lovely matches from your site.  It’s only a matter of time before I meet the one!” JG

“Good keep it up” AH

 

If you have your own then please do let us know.  We’d especially like to hear from any couples who have got together recently through our site.

Please email us at  [email protected]

 

Don’t copy and paste

Monday, June 25th, 2012

Copying and pasting messages doesn’t work

Read this blog to find out why.

Dating can sometimes be a little time consuming. You need to contact lots of people to make it work, so it’s often tempting to try and cut corners to save time.  So some people will send out the same opening message to everyone, without tailoring it to fit the person they are contacting.

If you want to get someone’s attention then you need to make some effort.  It’s very easy to spot if someone has taken the time to message you or just copied and pasted the same one for each person.  They are usually boring two liners such as “I like your profile. Get in touch.”

So for this reason we strongly advise that you don’t copy and paste messages. This is a terrible tactic that rarely works.

If you do decide to copy and paste, then chances are that you are just wasting your time as well as the person reading the message.  You’ll wonder why you aren’t getting any interest and quickly give up.

You don’t need to write long witty essays, just tell them what you liked about their profile, what you have in common and why they should meet you.   The idea is to sell yourself and stand out from all the other members on our dating site.  If you don’t stand out ( for the right reasons) then you’ll just get lost and nobody will remember you.

It’s so simple really – a  little effort and you’ll get much bigger rewards!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

How to boost your mood

Sunday, June 17th, 2012

Would you like to feel happier?

Here’s some quick tips which will help!

With this rainy weather it can be easy to see why you might be a fed up at the moment. If you aren’t in a fantastic mood, this can play havoc with your dating life .

If the smiling kitten photo hasn’t cheered you up already, here are my five top tips to feel happier.

 

1) Appreciate what you have. If you take a while to reflect, you’ll soon realise you have so many wonderful things in your life. This can include things like great friends, family, good health for example.

2) Make a list of what you have to look forward to. This can be big things, such as holidays, parties or even a pay rise . Your can also list small things that will still cheer you up. This can be a coffee break, favourite television show or cooking a nice meal. If there aren’t enough things on your list then start planning!

By doing this you will be able to start living in the present moment. Many of us worry about what the future holds, so make sure you’ve prepared as many positive things as possible.

3) Play some music. Uplifting, happy tunes can stimulate the creative areas of your brain, providing an instant mood lift. Just make sure the music is upbeat – nothing sad or too slow!

4) Go for a walk. Your physiology determines your emotions so if you start to energise yourself your blood will flow more and you’ll feel much happier very quickly. For double the effect, why not combine this with tip 3 by plugging in your Ipod and strolling through the park?

5) Smile! You might need to fake it at first, but you’ll notice that you can’t help but feel better when you smile. It’s a natural body response. As an added bonus, if you smile at people it makes them feel better about themselves and you’ll find many smile back, boosting your happiness even more!

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Why you MUST fill in your Online Dating Profile

Wednesday, June 6th, 2012

Too busy to fill in your profile properly?


Here’s why you need to do it right now.

Imagine if you clicked this blog and all you read was “I’ll come back to this later.”     How would you feel? Perhaps disappointed and ever so slightly cheated.

It never ceases to amaze us how often people don’t bother filling in their profile properly.  A lot of people will write things such as “I’ll tell you Later,” “Ask Me for more Info” or “I can’t believe I’m doing this.”     This is such a waste of time!   What sort of message do you thing this gives to other members?   Firstly, it makes you look ignorant and lazy. If you can’t be bothered to take the time to write a few things about yourself then why should anyone else be interested in getting to know you?

Remember that your profile is there as an advert.  If you write interesting things then you’ll give other people the chance to ask you about them. The more interesting and fun you sound then the more chance there is that they will contact you.

Think very carefully about what you DO say. Don’t write things for the sake of it.

As a guideline, write a few well crafted lines about yourself, followed by a couple of lines about the sort of person you are looking for. You don’t have to write an essay –  too much is almost as bad as too little – but just enough to give everyone a snapshot of your personality.

Very important:  Include a “Call to Action” at the end of your profile.   This is a sentence that will encourage people to get in touch.  This can be a direct statement, such as “Contact me now and let’s see if there’s a spark!”  or “What are you waiting for?  Email me !”     Alternatively, it can be a question.

So take a few minute out of your busy lives now to write a better profile.   You’ll see the rewards as soon as the emails start flooding in!

James Preece  – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Why you need Premium Membership

Saturday, May 26th, 2012

Have you upgraded to Premium Membership

Or are you still a basic Member?

When you pay to become a Premium Member on our Muslim site then you are joining a very special VIP club.

There are so many perks and extra things that you’ll get once you decide to use the site properly. By paying us each month for our Online Dating services and becoming a Premium Members then you’ll get massive discounts off all events.    This isn’t just for you, but for your friends too.  That means that the savings can work out much more than the actual cost of your membership.  This really is a great saving.

We run regular Muslim Introduction events that sell out each and every time.

All this for just the regular price of Online Dating membership!

There are two types of Premium Membership:    Premium and Premium Plus.

With Premium you can contact anyone that you like the look of and with Premium Plus you can send a credit to increase your chances of getting a reply.   You’ll also be able to see all the profiles that are interested in you or who have winked at you, meaning there is more chance of a successful contact.

Our aim is to run more and more new and exciting events so if there is anything you would like to see you do then please contact us.

So don’t wait any longer – upgrade no!

James Preece   – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Say something

Monday, May 21st, 2012

Wondering why you aren’t getting much interest?


This could be why!

So you’ve filled out your profile, added a great photo and you’ve paid for a membership. Then you start sending out lots of personalised messages to other Muslim singles you like the look of.   You know these are the most important steps to getting results when it comes to dating. So why aren’t you getting many replies?

Well, it might well be that you don’t have *enough* in your profile.  If you haven’t written very much or your profile is too vague then many people might just overlook it completely.

This is because if you don’t write much it looks you are trying to hide something.  Remember, the idea is to try to sell yourself and talk about all the things you have to offer.  If you don’t write very much then it comes across that you are lazy and can’t be bothered.   The popular members of a site such as Muslimsinglesolution.com will be getting lots of messages and will focus on replying only to the people who have made an effort.  They just won’t have time to write to you if don’t have anything to say.

So take a few moments now to fill in more details, even if it’s just about your favourite hobbies, musical takes or sports you like.  It also helps to write something topical, perhaps about a recent television show of film that you enjoyed.

The more “talking points” you have then the more there is to stimulate their imagination.  It’s this that will make them curious about you and want to get to know more.

 

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Feedback and Success Stories

Monday, May 14th, 2012

Here are some of our latest feedbacks and successes

Do you have one to share?

We love hearing all about your success stories. Not only do they make our day, they help encourage all our other members to keep going. So here are some of the latest ones.

“I’m really happy with your service. will def recommend.” AC

“Thank you for helping me find ‘the one’.” NS

“I have enjoyed some of the events and may attend with my friends sometimes. Staff at events have been lovely. Thanks” AF

“I’ve met a few people from this site and would recommend it to others ! VP

“Speed dating events well organised” DR

“Very impressive site and very simple to use” KA

“The site is a good way to meet people outside your normal social circle. Met some nice guys” AP

“Very useful thank you very much!” JP

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good, met some great mates” JI

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Thank you for your services! ” RB

“Just when I was about to give up, Miss Right winked at me. Thanks……….” MR

“The service you provide is excellent and would use this site again and have recomended to friends ” SN

“Fabulous service, met lovely man on 2nd event i went to in London, been with him 3 mths and its fabulous. keep up the good work, this works!!” HD

If you have your own success story then we’d love to hear it. We’ll even send you some champagne if you send us a photo. Please email us now via [email protected]

Good luck!

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Dating in all Weathers

Monday, April 30th, 2012

The weather at the moment is terrible.

Here’s how to help it get you more dates!

 

We’ve gone from a hosepipe ban to a month’s rain in one day.   But just because it’s miserable outside doesn’t mean that you have to put your love life on the backburner.

When it’s rainy most people will stay inside.   This means that you’ll see a huge increase in activity on online dating sites.  They’ll be tucked up warm in their houses, contacting anyone they like the look of. It’s a peak time and once that you should be taking advantage of.   If you aren’t a full, paid up member of a dating site, such as MuslimSingleSolution.com then you will be missing out on all these possible partners you could be meeting.

When you do manage to set up a few dates, the weather shouldn’t stop you meeting up.  In fact, they might been even keener to get out and do something a bit more excting that staring out the window at the raindrops. There are so many things that you can do indoors – such as meeting for a warming hot chocolate or going to a museum, art gallery or bowling alley.

Having said that, walking in the rain is a very romantic date activity – as long as you both know will be doing in advance and dress properly for it.  Make sure you take umbellas and wellington boots.  It’s a great time for a long walk in the park as you’ll probably have it all to yourselves!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

What do you have in common?

Monday, April 23rd, 2012

Here’ s a quick tip

to increase your speed dating chances.

 

You only have three to four minutes on a speed date, so you need to make them count!

The key thing on a date is to try to discover as quickly as possible just exactly how many things you have in common.

Why?  Well people like people who are like them.  It’s as simple as that.  So the more things that connect you then the stronger the possibility of a relationship.

So you absolutely must try to find common talking points.  As well as the usual things, like hobbies, place you live, favourite films and televisions shows, you should

try and think outside the box too.

For example:

Where have you travelled to in the world? Perhaps you’ve been to the same places.

Do you collect anything?

What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?

Are you a morning or an evening person?

Where have you lived and where would you like to move to?

Of course, it’s good to talk about other things too but you must build a foundation to build on.  Opposites to attract….but not as often as two people who can talk for hours and hours about something they are both incredibly passionate about!

Don’t ask too many questions or it will seem like a job interview.  So offer information first and see if they can slot something in with it naturally as part of the conversation.  Remember that once your speed dating session is over, it doesn’t have to be the end of the chat.  You can pick up where you left off at the end of the evening during the mingling time.

Good luck,

James Preece  – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Great Speed Dating Questions you can Use

Thursday, April 12th, 2012

Speed dating is great fun

But sometimes it can be hard to be interesting

I always advise that you think up lots of great questions that you ask people to keep conversation flowing. There is nothing worse that an awkward silence when you are first getting to know someone. Make sure you don’t ask open ended questions as you’ll only get “yes or no” answers which can kill your conversation immediately.

There are only a certain amount of times you can ask what the other person’s name is, where they work and where they are from.

To get you started, we’ve come up with some great questions that you can ask. Just remember to really listen to the answers and don’t keep firing off questions. Instead, try and blend them naturally into your chat.

1) Are you a morning or night person?
2)Do you believe in life on other planets?
3)Do you have any bad habits?
4)Do you prefer sweet or salty foods?
5)If you were a fictional character who would you be?
6) Which is your most cherished childhood memory?
7) If you could be any animal, what would you be?
8 ) If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
9) If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go?
10) If you had a million dollars, what would you spend it on?
11) What do you think about right before falling asleep?
12)What is one thing that no one knows about you?
13) If you could have three wishes what would they be?
14) What is one thing you like about being an adult?
15) What is one thing you miss about being a kid?
16) What is one thing you would change about yourself?
17) What is your dream job?
18 ) If you were stranded on a desert island, what three items would you most want ?
19) In case you and I were going out and we had a fight. How would you try to patch things up?
20) What is your favorite thing to do on a Saturday night?
21) What is your favorite thing to do on a Sunday afternoon?
22) What is your first thought when you wake up?

23) What personality traits do you look for in a partner?

24) What was your favorite childhood television program?

25) Would you rather be rich or have true love?

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Proactive vs Reactive

Tuesday, April 10th, 2012

Do you take action to get what you want?

Or do you sit and wait to see what comes to you?

 

We quite often get emails from members saying they are disappointed that they’ve not had many emails on the site.

The strange thing is, when we look into it we  usually notice that they haven’t sent any messages out themselves! To be successful with online dating, you need to take action and not just sit back and wait for things to happen. This is true for whoever you are and whatever you do.

For example, if you are job seeking would  you post off  your CV to the ones you like or do you hope that job finders will magically find you? If you hoped to start a business, would you try and promote it or pray that customers will come to you instead. I hope you get my point.

Even if you have an amazing photo and an outstanding profile, Mr or Miss Right might be getting emails from other people while you hesitate. Rather than try and find you, they will spend their time getting to know others instead.

The people who get what they want in life as those who make a plan and follow through on it. Spend at least  20 minutes each day carefully searching through profiles that you like and send them a quick carefully crafted email. Don’t give up if you don’t have a fast response, just keep learning and writing emails for a couple of weeks. You’ll be delighted when the replies start coming in.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

What should you do after a first date?

Friday, March 30th, 2012

People are often confused after a first date.

Who should contact who and when?

The problem with first dates is that you never know what the other person is thinking.  You might think it was amazing but they just weren’t feeling it.  In fact, they are probably also wondering what the next step should be.

Firstly, it’s polite to thank them. You only need to send a quick text when you get home.

There are three possible choices:

You aren’t sure if you want to see them again.

Life isn’t easy and you might well have mixed emotions about a date. I’d always sugget a second date if you are undecided but you’ll need time to think it over.   Leave it 24 hours to think carefully about it and then go on to one of the next two steps.

You want to see them again

Great!  Let them know you thought it went well and you’d like to see them again.  Assuming they liked you too, they’ll be pleased to have their minds put at rest. Make sure you arrange a second date around one week after your first one.  Any later and you’ll forget the connection, any sooner and you might burn out too quickly!  It can be hard to find things to say if nothing new has happened in the time you’ve been apart.

You don’t want to see them again

It’s hard line between being hurting someone’s feelings and making it clear you don’t have a future.   However, I’d always advise letting them know this quickly so they don’t hold out hope of further dates.  It’s  best to be honest but if you can’t, tell them you thought they were cool but reminded you too much of your brother or sister.

Quite often you just won’t hear from them again. They’ll vanish and you’ll never hear from them again. You’ll probably never find out why but when this happens but be happy that you had a narrow escape and start looking again for someone better.

Happy Dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

5 biggest Speed Dating Turn Offs

Monday, March 26th, 2012

Here are 5 quick speed dating turn offs


Are you making any of them?

Speed dating is a fantastic way to meet new people. However, you need to put some thought into making sure you mini date is memorable for all the right reasons. Four minutes is not long at all so you must make the best impression you can.

Here are a few of the things I’ve seen people doing wrong over the last few months. I hope you will read this so you can avoid making the same mistakes.

1) Not introducing yourself

Before you being a conversation you need to smile, say hello and state your name.  Then they’ll give you theirs and the date begins.  However, some people just come over and say hello . If you don’t swap names then you will be forgettable!

2) Forgetting personal hygiene.

This is very important.  Always take a shower before you come and wear a nice clean pressed outfit.  There’s nothing worse than sweat patches and smelling like you’ve just run a marathon.   Deodorant and a quick tab of perfume/ aftershave takes seconds.

3) Being Forceful

Whatever you do, don’t demand a phone number or email address right there and then.  Just take note of their username and contact them on the website for free the next day.  If you start insisting they give you their contact info then it comes across as rude and youll blow your chances.

4) Saying stupid things.

Be careful that you don’t say the wrong thing, even in jest.   Keep your conversation conservative or you risk offending them.  You might have a great sense of humour but if they’ve not had time to realise that they might take what you say seriously.

5) Being Cold or dismissive

Everyone is a little shy at first but that’s no excuse to be rude.  Even if you aren’t interested, it’s polite to be respectful and good practice for the people you like. Ask lots  of questions and show an interest, even if you have pretend.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Latest Feedback and Successes

Monday, March 19th, 2012

Here are some of our latest feedbacks and successes

 

Could you be next?

We love hearing all about your success stories. Not only do they brighten day, they help encourage all our other members to keep going. So here are some of the latest ones.

“Everything was great. Found a perfect match” HK

“I met someone via your site and we are getting married!! Thank you so much!” NS

“very good site! so glad i found someone, thanks very much 🙂 ” HK

“I think your services are very good thank you very much” NW

“I have met the love of my life, thanks guys for the help!!” SC

“The site is good way to meet people if your shy and it is a safe way to see who is single and also looking for a partner” MK

“”I was a bit skeptical joining a dating website and after meeting with a few guys i was convinced it wasn’t for me. However patience paid off and I am lucky to have met a wonderful man who has simply swept me off my feet. Thank you  Single Solution!” RS

“Service is really good” RV

“This has been a great experience and I have found this site to be more useful than others. At the moment I want to see how it goes with someone I have met from here” AG

“Thank you for your service, i have met the woman of my dreams” KB

“Great site, thank you for all you support.” HH

“The website was very user friendly and I would recommend it to anyone” AK

“The services you provide are excellent”  SS

“The service provided is fantastic, thank you for your help” AP

“User friendly site and a good dating service” KG

“Service was good, with easy member interaction.” MV

“It’s a great way of meeting people- i met her years ago and is still going well!” RA


“I think the service is very good and well organised” RM

“Services offered are v good, met some nice people along the way” JS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Great Website, great events” HB

“Very good and well organised site” SD

“I enjoyed the event that i attended and many thanks for your service” BP

“Very good website, professional – I’ve recommended a lot of friends” RD

“Great site with some good talent. I’ve met a few good prospects on this site, now it’s a matter of seeing which one is right for me 🙂 thanks!”  JR

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : excellent service, couldnt have asked for a better site!” RP

If you have your own success story then we’d love to hear it. We’ll even send you a gift voucher if you send us a photo. Please email us now via [email protected]

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Do we allow Chaperones or Spectators?

Monday, March 12th, 2012

Sometimes we get asked about chaperones.

Are you allowed to bring them to our events?

 

People sometimes get nervous about attending a marriage introduction event.   The thought of having to do it all on their own can seem a little daunting, so they ask if they can bring someone along to watch.  This can often be a family member to offer their opinion on the matches too.

However, it’s for exactly this reason that we don’t allow chaperones or spectators.  The idea is to focus on the person you are talking to and spend time getting to know them.  You’ll only have four or five minutes anyway.  The last thing anyone really wants is an extra pair of eyes watching them from a distance.

But don’t worry, you won’t be alone!  We employ fantastic hosts to help look after you and make you feel comfortable. Once you start interacting with the other guests your nerves will be long forgotten and you’ll have a great time.  You might even make some new friends as we keep men and women apart  at the start of the event.

Another reason we don’t allow this is that our venues just don’t have room for extra people to sit.   They’d end up getting in the way and causing a distraction.
Our events are also extremely popular and we often have to turn people away when they fill up.   It’s really important that the people who take part are genuinely single and keen to meet a partner. So please don’t book a ticket for someone who has no interest as you could be depriving someone else the chance to find love.

Good luck!
The Muslim Single Solution

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

How to have an amazing conversation

Monday, February 20th, 2012

Anyone can have a conversation

Here’s how to have an amazing one!

Talking is all part of successful dating, so make sure that when you open your mouth you are doing it effectively. So many people clam up and ruin the start of a potential great match.  So here are some quick tips to boost your chances.

 

1) Ask Questions.  The best way to be likeable is to be interested in the other person.  Ask good questions that show you find them fascinating.

2) Listen.  This is so important and easy to get wrong. You really need to keep up your concentration so you don’t look bored.  You must face the person speaking with your arms uncrossed. Lean forward a little and maintain eye contact at all time.  Acknowledge statements with a nod, comment or question when appropriate.

3) Keep it light hearted.  This isn’t a job interview so relax and enjoy the conversation.  If you can make them smile or laugh then you are doing and saying the right things.

4) Know what’s happening in the world.  The goal is to keep the other person stimulated and interested. Read newspapers and keep an eye on the headlines as well as the pop culture gossip!

5) Speak at the right pace.  Don’t speak to quickly or bore them to tears.   The right tempo is a positive, upbeat, thoughtful one.

6) You don’t need to fill in all the gaps.   Every conversation has short periods of silence.  Don’t panic and feel you have to gabble on about something just for the sake of it.  Instead, use the moment to quietly reflect on what’s being said.

 

 

Happy dating!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

How to enter a party

Saturday, February 18th, 2012

What first impression do you give off?

Enter a party the RIGHT way.

Speed dating doesn’t start once the bell rings, but from the first second you walk into the venue.

People often forget that once they open the door, everyone will be turning to look at them.  It’s just human nature to be curious. Yes, I understand that you might be shy and nervous but the big secret is to act as if you aren’t.

I’ve watched some guests enter while staring at the floor and looking incredibly uncomfortable.  They don’t even smile or say hello to us hosts and don’t even listen to find out how the evening is going to work.  Remember that we are there to help and make you more relaxed about everything.

Here are some quick tips that will help you make a great entrance.

1) Just before you enter, breathe slowly to compose yourself.
2) Now walk slowly and confidently up to the doorway.
3) Imagine the doorway has a rope hanging down, that pulls you up to your full height. No slouching allowed.
4) Stand in the doorway and SMILE and pause for a couple for seconds.
5) As you walk in, make eye contact with anyone nearby and try to be warm and friendly.

 

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Recent Success Stories and Feedback

Thursday, February 2nd, 2012

Here are some of our latest feedbacks and successes

We hope they inspire you!

We love hearing all about your success stories.  Not only do they make our day, they help encourage all our other members to keep going.  So here are some of the latest ones.

“The site has brought the love of my life to me. It’s crazy but it’s true. I feel truly lucky and blessed. I would like to pass the message to all those singletons that you can all find love in a hopeless place, I wasn’t looking at the time then a stranger contacted me and swept me right off my feet!!” DB

“Very good 😉 keep up the good work Thankyou guys :)” RN

“Great service, happy to have met someone”  BJ

“Think it was brilliant met my match lets see how it goes now” JB

“I found the website very useful and have spoken to some interesting ladies. Keep up the good work!” DP

“Good way to meet new people and network” SD

“I went to one event which was good fun and well organised.” SY

“The website was easy to use and well managed.” RK

“It has been fun staying with you guys, although I met my husband through my brother but would still like to thank you guys. All the best for everyone who is looking for there soulmate :).” HN

“It was really good meeting new people! I made quite a few friends from it! Staff were really nice friendly guys ” HB

“Thank you for providing a fantastic service, you have made us live more honourable lives to our future wives. Thank you” NM

“The events are great fun. I introduced a number of my friends to the last one and they enjoyed it to.” SW

“I think the site is great, very helpful and tasteful.”  JS

“The ice breakers were very good.” ME

“Very well organised events” SM

“The speed dating option and helpful hints and tips on the website set it out from others I have tried.  I’ve met someone very special via the site and I’ve already recommended it to my single friends.” SW

“Great site met some really interesting people! Would reccomend” PK

 

If you have your own success story then we’d love to hear it.  We’ll even send you a high street gift voucher if you send us a photo.  Please email us now  via  [email protected]

 

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

A Speed Dating Mistake

Monday, January 30th, 2012

Are you boring people on your speed dates?

Stop making this classic mistake.

Speed dating can be a fantastic way of getting to know lots of singles in a very short space of time.   But many people seem to make the same big mistake.  If you are aware of this then you can make sure you avoid it.

The trouble is that everyone asks the same questions.  These are usually, “”What’s your name?”  Where do you Live? Where do you work”   All fine, but after a few speed dates this gets tiring very quickly.

So what you need to know is think up some interesting things to ask in advance.

For example, why not ask if they’ve got any holidays coming up or what their dreams and ambitions are?  People love to talk about things they are passionate about and will connect with you more.  It’s not hard to be more imaginative.

Don’t bombard them with questions as it’s not an interrogation.  Instead, show that you are curious about them and that you find them fascinating.  If you smile when you speak it will help too.

Finally, don’t be afraid to talk to them once the speed dating formal sessions are over.   We always allow plenty of mingling time after the event, so you can get a chance to continue any conversations that  you started.

 

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Have you added your phone number?

Monday, January 23rd, 2012

When you sign up we ask for your phone number.

But have you added it?

 

There’s a very important section on your profile, where we ask for your mobile number.

If you’ve not already done so, you really do need to fill it in.  Why?

Well, every now and again we text out special offer codes that expire quickly.  If we don’t have your mobile number then we can’t send you these.

Also, we sometimes need to get hold of guests for last minute event changes.

So please, go and add your number now!    We don’t need landlines or work numbers, just your mobile number.

 

Best Wishes,

 

The Muslim Single Solution

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

New Year – New Love

Friday, January 6th, 2012

2012 is already here.

There’s no better time to find love.

 

Time really does fly by. You make the plan to finally meet someone amazing but life always seems to get in the way.

However, everyone feels more positive at the start of a new year.  It’s the busiest time for a dating site and the perfect opportunity for you to start putting a plan into action.

We have many new members who have just singed up and want to meet YOU.  Perhaps one of them is your Mr or Miss Right? If you don’t contact them right now then you’ll never know.

If you really want to find a life partner, then you have to take the first steps now.

So sign up to the Muslim Single Solution, add a great photos and write a profile.  Send out messages to anyone you like the look of and most importantly – book a few of our marriage introduction events.  It’s so easy to do all this and only takes a little of your time.  A small amount of effort really could get you amazing results.

There’s no better time than right now and remember that we are here to help you along your journey.

 

Good luck!

 

James Preece – The Muslim Single Solution

www.muslimsinglesolution.com