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Women: Why you should contact men

Sunday, November 20th, 2011
Here’s a useful tip for all women.
This will triple your success rate.

Lots of Muslim women think  that they should wait for men to message them on internet sites. They might have the traditional view that it’s up to men to message them first or are worried about appearing to be forward. So they wait and wait and wonder why they never seem to get messages from men they are interested in.
Men and women approach internet dating in different ways, and once you realise this you can use it to your advantage.  Men tend to collect up their “favourites” and then contact many women at once, in one big hit. This is called the Shotgun approach and is very hit and miss. Women, on the other hand, can be more selective and will either wait to see who contacts them or just send one or two messages.

The secret is to be proactive and actively target men you are interested. Don’t sit and wait for them to come to you or someone else will snap them up. Imagine you are applying for a job and your dating profile is your CV.  Would you send out your CV to prospective employees or would you expect them to come and find you first?
Check back on the site every day and contact the new men.  By doing so, you’ll be top listed in the searches as shows the men the most recent women to log into the site.  You’ll then find more men are contacting you anyway.

Men really do like it when women contact them first.  If you’ve got a great photo, interesting profile and are in the right age group then this is very flattering.  What man wouldn’t be interested?  It’s not overly flirtatious to write to a man – after all you are both on a dating site with the same intentions.
So what is the best thing to say?    Imagine you are in a bar or at a party. How would you get their attention? Perhaps you’d look over and smile.  You need to do the same thing in your first email. Write just enough to get them hooked and capture their imagination.   Ask them how their day is going or what they are up to for the weekend.

So why not send some messages now?  You’ll see much better results and might just make someone’s day!

Good luck!

James Preece
The Dating Guru

Make Online Dating work for you

Monday, November 14th, 2011

Online Dating really does work

Here are my quick tips to help  you.

1) Some people like to email all day long, but this is pointles  Send two or three emails, then get a phone number.  Speak for no more than 10 minutes and arrange a date there and then.
Don’t email endlessly back and forth or you’ll have nothing left to say.

2) Most people know this, but your photo is the key to getting attention.  Yet the vast majority think they know
best and get it wrong!  Choose a recent photo of you on a really good day. Make it a clear, happy shot that makes you look trustworthy and fun.

3) Your profile is an advert so make sure it sells you in the best possible light.  Make it 70% about you and 30% about the person you are looking for.

4) Change your photo every two weeks. That way you’ll get women looking at your profile who might have rejected you before. They’ll think you are a new person!

5) Always end with a question or an invitation.  This gives the other person something to contact you about and will break the ice. Anything at all which might encourage them to reply or get in touch can only be a good thing.


Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

Our latest Feedback (and Success stories)

Sunday, November 6th, 2011

Here are our latest batch of success stories.

If you have your own please let us know so we can share it!

“I have met the love of my life on this site and will be soon marrying her.” VC

“It was great! very informative, regular updates and I would recommend it to anyone” MP

“The services are good, honestly well done!” QC

“I met someone on your dating site. Thank you:-)”  VN

“Just want to say a biggg thank you to the site as i have met the most amazing gentleman alive …!”  CP

“It is a really good site. Keep up the good work :)” NS

“Excellent website”  TG

“”Brilliant service…will recommend” SH

“Well organised and good varation of age groups” SN

“I cant say much about the site as the first person i met on your site is the person im with :o) Thanks” AM

“Good. Easy to use website with some interesting features. Thanks” DP

“Enjoyed the event very much”  SW

“I thought that the staff from Asian Single Solution on the night were extremely friendly, helpful and proactive” PP

“Very easy set up and enjoyed meeting new people” NP

“I just wanted to say thank you to the staff for a great evening.  They were really helpful and the event was extremely well run. I would definately recommend it to my friends” MA

“Thanks for your hospitality I’ll tell my friends about this site inshalla…:)” HO

“My first speed dating /dating event. It was a real party. I totally enjoyed it.” JD

“Was my first event and loved it, would definitely do others” LC

“Brilliant site” NN

“Very good service. Will definitely recommend to friends” JB

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : great site, thanks.” TB

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. Feed back : absolutely fantastic. keep up the good work” MO

“Good service, thank you – met some nice people” SK

“The overall service for this website, has been very helpful.” MV

“Very good site, i have met someone perfect”  BH

“Nice people on the site and friendly. Your welcome staff are also very good at the events”  MM

“Out of all the dating sites I have been a member of this is far the best. thank you for helping me find what I was looking for! I have found the perfect person, and I have recommended this site to many of my singles friends, young and old! thank you once again, all the best” KT