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Your voice and how to use it

Monday, July 25th, 2011

Do you know what your voice says about you?

Could it be ruining your dating chances?
We’ve talked about about how you need to make a great first impression and stand out from crowd. But no matter how hard you try, you could be messing everything up just by saying a few words.  If you speak too quickly, too quietly or come across as wimpy then you won’t get past a phone date, yet alone a face to face meeting.

Your voice is an incredibly valuable asset when it comes to dating, so make sure you know how to use it.

The trouble is that the voice you hear and the voice everyone else hears are completely different. This is due to the way your skull makes it resonate.  So if you’ve never done so, speak into a microphone and record yourself for a while. It might be a bit of a surprise and a weird experience, but with a bit of practice you can learn what sounds good and what doesn’t.

Who in the public eye do you think has a good voice?  Have a listen to them and copy the way they speak.  A great voice is one that is slow and clear. Above all it’s never dull so learn to energise and lift your voice so it sounds dynamic.

Remember, the more you practice then the better you’ll get


Good luck!


James Preece – The Dating Guru

What does your photo say about you?

Monday, July 18th, 2011

A picture paints a thousand words.

But what are people saying about YOUR photo?

We always tell you how important having a good photo is when it comes to online dating.  But there are still many people who think they know best.

We’ve seen all sorts of weird and wonderful photographs over the years and as the dating experts we knew what works and what doesn’t. Your photos is your calling card and advert that you use to market yourself. If you get it wrong it can be doing you more harm than good.

Please follow our guidelines –  no sunglasses, cars, hidden faces.  We also don’t allow group shots.  Online dating is all about you, so don’t draw attention to anyone else.

Some people like to show themselves with a drink in hand, to give the impression they are a fun, party person.  However, this can be interpreted as you having a drinking problem. Not a great asset on a Muslim dating site.

THE most important thing is to remember to smile.  If you look moody or aren’t looking at the camera then you won’t connect with the viewer.  If you look like a happy, positive person then you’ll get much more interest.
Of course, if you don’t event have a photograph then you are wasting your time anyway.  If you don’t put one on then nobody will find or contact you, yet alone reply to your emails, Instead they’ll just think you have something to hide.

So go and add some great photos now…just remember what they might be saying about you.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

Are you using Online Dating Cliches?

Monday, July 11th, 2011

So many people write the same things in their profiles.

Read more to see if you are making the same mistakes.

We read 1000s of new profiles every week and it’s  amazing how many people keep writing the same boring things.  So today I’m going to tell you some of the most common so you can avoid doing the same thing.  Here are 5 of the top Online Dating Cliches that we see.

1) “I’m not sure what I’m doing on an online dating site.”  This just makes you sound arrogant. By writing this you are suggesting that you are far too good to be on the site and what a hardship it is.  As well as this you are insulting every other member on there too!

2) “My friends say…”    Or “my friends” tell me this or that.   So what?  It’s really not important what they say, but rather who you are and how you treat others.

3) “My friends and family are important to me.”  Isn’t this really just stating the obvious? Friends and family are important to everyone.  It would be much more worrying and abnormal if they weren’t!

4) “No time wasters/ players/ etc”     This gives the impression that you’ve had some bad experiences in the past and are therefore judging all people before you’ve given them a chance. It’s doubtful that anyone would ever admit to being a time waster anyway.

5) “I’m open minded”   While most people write this with the intention that they have no expectations when it comes to dating, the reality is that it comes across as if you looking for a casual relationship.


All it takes is a little imagination and you’ll have an exciting, interesting profile that will help you stand out from the crowd.

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Has 2011 brought you many dates?

Monday, July 4th, 2011

We’re already halfway through the year.

So how many dates have you had so far?

Many people decide at the start of a new year to make a plan to sort out their love lives at last.   Unfortunately,life always seems to get in the way and they never get time to actually meet anyone.  So they feel disheartened and don’t feel like there’s any point in trying.

This is the wrong attitude!

It’s never too late to make a change. The secret to making things happen is just to take action. Work out exactly what you want and then take a small action towards it every day.

You don’t need to do much, perhaps just sign up to our Muslim online dating site and send a few emails each day. Or book one of our brilliant Muslim speed dating events that we run on a regular basis.  Once you start putting some effort in you’ll soon begin to see big differences.  By getting yourself out there, you are making new connections which will hopefully lead to dates and possibly more.

Please don’t keep putting your dating success on hold. You don’t want to be in the same position in six months time do you?

If you’ve been proactive and have had lots of dates so far then well done!  Keep going…..the next one could be THE one!

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru