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Archive for May, 2011

You CAN have what you want

Monday, May 23rd, 2011

So many people settle when it comes to dating.

This sadly means that many relationships don’t last.

Sometimes people will date someone even if they aren’t completely happy, in the hope that they might be able to change them.

For example, they might date a smoker even though they are anti-smoking.  Or perhaps someone who parties too much or exercises too little.

Unfortunately, it’s a bit like trying to fill a watering can that has a big hole in it.  You’ll never change them to how you want them to be and even if you do they’ll end up resenting you for it.

Of course, nobody is perfect and you should always give people a chance if you feel there is any sort of chemistry there.  I’m just saying that you shouldn’t sacrifice what’s important to you just because you feel you need to be in a relationship.

The truth is that you can meet an amazing partner as long as you realise you deserve it. You don’t need to settle for second best.

Work on your self esteem and surround yourself with positive, upbeat people.  As soon as you get in the right frame of mind you’ll being attracting the sort of partner who meets more of your key requirements.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to get someone to open up

Monday, May 16th, 2011

It can often be hard to date a shy person.

So today I’ll teach you how to get them to relax.

Most of us are a little guarded when it comes to dating and shyness is extremely common.  It can be difficult on a date if someone finds it hard to relax and open up.  But ther’ s a fantastic way that you put them at ease quickly.

It’s a simple trick but once you’ve learnt it you’ll find it works really well.

All you need to do is to get someone to talk about what makes them feel good and what they are passionate about.  When you see their eyes comes to life and you know you’ve hit a strong positive emotion, you just need to tap then discretely on the arm.  Do it every now and again but not so much they spot what you are doing.  Keep the touch in exactly the place.  This is a technique called “anchoring” as it allows them to store the memory. Now all you need to do it tap them on the same spot later in the evening and they’ll subconsciously feel the same great feeling again.

Try and see what happens.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

What’s a Nickname?

Tuesday, May 10th, 2011

When you sign up to the site you choose a Nickname.

To protect your identity and to make the website more fun, everyone has a Nickname. This is particularly useful at events, where the Nickname will be used to identity you. Obviously if there were six people called Mohammed then it could get very confusing.

If you cannot think of a Nickname, you can use our Nickname generator which will suggest some suitable names for you.

You can use anything within reason, but not your real full name or anything rude.

You can change your Nickname but only once every 30 days.  However, we recommend that you do not change your nickname as this will confuse other users, and us!