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Three quick speed dating tips

Monday, March 28th, 2011

We run regular Muslim speed dating parties in great venues.

But we’ve noticed a few mistakes people sometimes make.
So in today’s blog I’ll tell you about them so you can avoiding making them too, helping you get dating success.

1)Arrive Early.   If you arrive early you’ll be able to watch everyone else come in.   It’s a great idea to allow yourself plenty of time to get settled in, so grab yourself a drink and relax.  There’s also the added bonus that the event will be able to start on time!

2) Keep smiling.     Yes, we know you are a little nervous if you’ve not been before.   That’s quite understandable….but do remember that other people will be watching you from the second you walk through the door.  Some people look miserable and scared and this instantly can create the wrong impression.    I’d suggest that once you’ve located the venue, take some deep breaths before you approach and smile warmly.   Greet the organisers in a friendly manner and look like you’ve confident, happy and engaging.  The rest of the room will pick up on it.

3) Dress to Impress.   Most people do make the effort and wear smart shoes, suits, skirts etc.  However, every now and again we see someone in trainers, t-shirt or looking generally a little scruffy.  While it’s important to be comfortable,  you’ll be judged on how you are dressed.  So make an effort and you’ll maximise your chances.   You’ll also feel more confident and command more respect and attention.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

A Formula for Dating Success ?

Saturday, March 19th, 2011

When you write your Online Dating Profile, how much time do you spend?



Would you like to know the formula to getting lots of interest?


Studies show that men tend to look for someone they find physically attractive, sporty and understanding while women want someone understanding, funny and in touch with their emotions.

The big question, is do you write about you or write about the person you are looking for? Professor Richard Wiseman of the University of Hertfordshire carried out a study at the Edinburgh International Science Festival to help answer this question. He asked 40 men and 40 women to write 25-word personal ads – then got another set of volunteers to circle the ones that appealed.

The results showed a “golden formula” that you should stick to when writing a profile. You should spend 70 per cent of the profile describing you and 30 per cent describing what you are looking for. If you spend more than 70% of the profile talking about yourself then you might appear to be egotistical. Likewise, you may give you the impression you are trying to hid something if you don’t write enough about yourself.

In the studies, the ads that were closest to the 70:30 rule were the ones that had clearly the largest number of replies.

Interestingly, Wiseman used a separate panel of volunteers to predict which ads they thought would get the most responses. There was a huge and evident gender difference. The male volunteers were extremely good at predicting which ads would have the most success while the women completely failed.

Wiseman concluded that women should perhaps get a man to look over their dating profile to get the best results.


James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to message someone and get a reply

Monday, March 14th, 2011

We’d like to help you get more replies to your messages.

So today I’m giving you the most common things people get wrong.

We see people doing this every single day and it’s just a complete waste of your time.  If you take a few minutes longer to do it properly you’ll see a huge increase in the amount of people who write back to you.

Please don’t ignore this and think you know best.   We’re the experts when it comes to this!


1) Don’t use text speak.  Check your spelling before you send out a message.  You don’t want the recipient to have to run it through a dictionary.  You are a professional, not a 12 year old.

2)  Always write proper, personalised messages.  If they feel you’ve made an effort they’ll be much more likely to reply.  So tell them why you liked their profile and why you’d be a good match.  Talk about their personality rather than looks as that can get boring.

3) Don’t copy and paste.  This is so obvious and most people can see you’ve done it, making sure the message gets deleted immediately.    If you do this then our system will automatically suspend your account so we can check you are a real person.

4) Send a credit. This means that they can open and reply to it, even if they aren’t paying members.  So it’s the best way to guarantee your chances of a reply.

5) Have a great photo and profile.    People want to know who they are dealing with.  If these aren’t up to scratch they won’t either bother reading your message.

Good luck!


Jams Preece – The Dating Guru

How does Premium Membership work?

Monday, March 7th, 2011

Today’s blog is an FAQ about our Premium Membership

Hopefully this will make things clear for you

There are two options that you get when you decide to upgrade on our site. The first is Premium Membership, which means you can contact anyone you wish, read messages and get huge discounts off most of our events.

The second option, for the more results orientated dater is our Premium Plus membership.  This is our best selling membership as it offers the best value and the biggest returns.

The trouble with most dating sites that is you never know if the person you are contacting is a paid up member.  If they aren’t ( and don’t have any credits) then they won’t be able to read or reply to your message. Premium Plus gets round this frustrating problem and keeps you totally in control.

The other big advantage is that most people are just Premium members, so you’ll have an huge advantage on them.  You’ll get more replies if you use it properly.

However, some it seems that some Premium Plus members aren’t remembering to “send a free credit” when first contacting someome.  So, we just wanted to remind you that the option is there when you go to send a message.

There’s also another bonus feature that you can use too.  If a member has added their mobile phone number to the site then you’ll also see a button to send them a text.  This will instantly alert them to the fact that you’ve contact them. It’s completely free to use and well worth using it!

Remember that you only results from dating if you put some effort into it.  So if you want to start meeting new people you will need to upgrade.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru