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Archive for January, 2011

What’s so special about you?

Monday, January 24th, 2011

Who do you think you are?


What makes you stand out from the next person?  What do you have to offer that makes you different?
If you aren’t sure, how can you expect anyone else to?  Dating can be a competitive thing.

Everyone has their own unique gifts and selling points.  Perhaps you can play the piano, speak Russian, have trekked to the North Pole.  Maybe you are a fantastic cook, have eleven toes or have published a book.   Just think about every little thing you’ve ever done. Every action and reaction has shaped you into a person like no other.  You are special…

So I want you to just take a few moments to think about more about who you are.   When you’ve realised your “Unique Selling Points” then mention them in your online dating profile.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to make it work

Monday, January 17th, 2011

Are you wondering if you’ll ever meet Mr or Ms Right?


Do you really want to meet someone nice and settle down, like your family and friends?

Ask yourself this – what steps are you taking to make this happen?

To be successful at dating, you need to start with a plan.  If you don’t take any action then you will never anything.

So here’s my quick dating plan that you can easily follow.  It’s five simple steps that will get you on the way to dating success.

1 )  Make sure you work on putting together a well written profile.  Talk about who you are and what you are looking for.

2) Add a really good photo.  This is the key to getting people looking at your profile.  Without one you would just be wasting your time.

3) Upgrade.  If you want to take dating seriously you need to pay for a membership.  It’s only then that you will be able to contact other quality professional Muslims.

4) Send out lots of personalised messages to people you like the look of.   Tell them what you like about their profile and why they should get to know you. Important:  use a spell checker

5) Start dating!
It’s really that simple.  Perhaps you’ve already completed some of these steps, so it’s just a case of carrying out the rest of them.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Dating Tip – The Perfect Match

Thursday, January 6th, 2011

Here’s some useful time saving online dating advice.


Hopefully it will increase your chances.

This tip is simple – make sure you read the other person’s profile carefully before you contact them.   If they clearly are only looking for someone completely different from you then there’s no point wasting both your time messaging them.

So if they are looking for a marriage partner and you want something less serious then respect this and don’t contact them.  The same goes on non-negotiable criteria such as religious sect, age or location.   It’s a bit like a job application.   You don’t send out your CV to jobs you are completely unsuitable for just because you like the sound of them.

Of course, there can be exceptions every now and again, but they must be small ones.   An extra year over their specified range might be OK or an inch under in height.  Just make sure you make more of an effort into writing a great profile and message.   After all, the best profiles will always get better matches anyway!

The point to remember is to target your messages to people that might genuinely be interested in you.  Rather than sending out 100 messages to just anyone, it’s  a much better idea to send 30 to those who are a good match.

Finally, always send messages reply paid (with a credit) to maximise the chance of them replying.   If they aren’ t a full member on the site they can’t read or reply to messages unless you send a credit.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru