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Happy Holidays from the Muslim Single Solution

Sunday, December 18th, 2011

Just a quick message to wish you a happy Holiday Season.


We hope you have a fun, relaxing break and enjoy the time off.

Thank you for all your support over 2011.   We promise to be even bigger and better in 2012 and will do everything we possibly can to help your dating success.

Enjoy your holidays and please remember to spread the word about us – we really can’t grow without your help!

Success Stories and Feedback for November

Tuesday, December 13th, 2011

November has been a busy month

Here is just some of our latest feedback and successes.

“Good. I enjoyed the events although I eventually met someone through your website. Thanks” CM

“Great, found the girl of my dreams!” VC

“Really enjoyed the site, really happy with the guy that I met .” SM

“Parties organised are a good way of meeting a range of people, without the necessary pressure of speed dating if not required on the night…..” GL

“Great website! I shall be back” KM

“I met the guy on the 7th of may in London at one of your events for the first time and the last time. Thank you so much” DB

“Excellent…I’ve met many good friends through this site.” RK

“Couldn’t fault it. Was good.” RB

“Thanks for the service you have provided! The website was a very good tool to meet new people.Keep up the good work!” DP

“”Think the site is great”  GB

“I think this service is great for those that have found someone ! Keep it up !” PC

“Great events, thank you.” KP

“I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for this service which helped me find someone” SP

“Very good site” MK

“Well organised. Keep up the good work” AK

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Very good” BL

“Very well organised event” SM

“I met through an alternative route but have to say your site is superb” NS

“Good service and have already recomended many friends who are now on this site and will continue to recomend ”  MM

“Fresh modern service for like minded individuals” SR

“I thought the events were good fun, nice people. Thank you for your help” SV

“Nice venue; well run; friendly people. Staff excellent” MB

“I thought the event went well. It was a good venue and in a good central location, the staff were helpful and overall I was pleased.” IQ

“Good service from site staff” SK

Remember, we want to hear your success stories too.  It really does help inspire our other members to keep going.  If you have your own, please email it to [email protected]

What image do you present?

Monday, December 5th, 2011

Image is everything in dating.

So what does your photo say about you?

It’s so important to remember what kind of message you are giving out when it comes to online dating. You need to carefully craft your profile and sell yourself in the best way possible. After all, it’s an advert all about “you.”

However, lots of people still seem to be unclear about the best photos to use.  It’s strange that even thought it’s December, we are seeing lots of people attempting to add photographs of them wearing sunglasses.  This is a bad idea at any time of the year as it hides your eyes.  These really are the window to the soul and the first way someone can tell if they like the look of you or not. If you hide your eyes then what else are you hiding?

Yes, we know you think it makes you look cool but it really has the opposite effect.  So we have a no sunglasses rule for your primary image.  If you must have a sunglasses shot then please only use it for your photo album, not the main image.

The same goes for hats.  Men seem to be especially fond of them.  If you are wearing a hat then it’s not clear if you have hair or not. Women like to know this from the outset and many don’t mind bald men. So don’t try to fool anyone as nobody likes to be misled.

If you aren’t sure what photo to use then you can always ask our opinion and we will do our best to help.  There are several blogs about photos and there is a very simple guide on the photo upload screen.  So please don’t make these mistakes are you wasting your own time.

Remember that we want you to find love and have dating success, so please take out advice and use it to make it work for you!

Good luck!
James Preece

The Dating Guru

Women: Why you should contact men

Sunday, November 20th, 2011
Here’s a useful tip for all women.
This will triple your success rate.

Lots of Muslim women think  that they should wait for men to message them on internet sites. They might have the traditional view that it’s up to men to message them first or are worried about appearing to be forward. So they wait and wait and wonder why they never seem to get messages from men they are interested in.
Men and women approach internet dating in different ways, and once you realise this you can use it to your advantage.  Men tend to collect up their “favourites” and then contact many women at once, in one big hit. This is called the Shotgun approach and is very hit and miss. Women, on the other hand, can be more selective and will either wait to see who contacts them or just send one or two messages.

The secret is to be proactive and actively target men you are interested. Don’t sit and wait for them to come to you or someone else will snap them up. Imagine you are applying for a job and your dating profile is your CV.  Would you send out your CV to prospective employees or would you expect them to come and find you first?
Check back on the site every day and contact the new men.  By doing so, you’ll be top listed in the searches as shows the men the most recent women to log into the site.  You’ll then find more men are contacting you anyway.

Men really do like it when women contact them first.  If you’ve got a great photo, interesting profile and are in the right age group then this is very flattering.  What man wouldn’t be interested?  It’s not overly flirtatious to write to a man – after all you are both on a dating site with the same intentions.
So what is the best thing to say?    Imagine you are in a bar or at a party. How would you get their attention? Perhaps you’d look over and smile.  You need to do the same thing in your first email. Write just enough to get them hooked and capture their imagination.   Ask them how their day is going or what they are up to for the weekend.

So why not send some messages now?  You’ll see much better results and might just make someone’s day!

Good luck!

James Preece
The Dating Guru

Make Online Dating work for you

Monday, November 14th, 2011

Online Dating really does work

Here are my quick tips to help  you.

1) Some people like to email all day long, but this is pointles  Send two or three emails, then get a phone number.  Speak for no more than 10 minutes and arrange a date there and then.
Don’t email endlessly back and forth or you’ll have nothing left to say.

2) Most people know this, but your photo is the key to getting attention.  Yet the vast majority think they know
best and get it wrong!  Choose a recent photo of you on a really good day. Make it a clear, happy shot that makes you look trustworthy and fun.

3) Your profile is an advert so make sure it sells you in the best possible light.  Make it 70% about you and 30% about the person you are looking for.

4) Change your photo every two weeks. That way you’ll get women looking at your profile who might have rejected you before. They’ll think you are a new person!

5) Always end with a question or an invitation.  This gives the other person something to contact you about and will break the ice. Anything at all which might encourage them to reply or get in touch can only be a good thing.


Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

Our latest Feedback (and Success stories)

Sunday, November 6th, 2011

Here are our latest batch of success stories.

If you have your own please let us know so we can share it!

“I have met the love of my life on this site and will be soon marrying her.” VC

“It was great! very informative, regular updates and I would recommend it to anyone” MP

“The services are good, honestly well done!” QC

“I met someone on your dating site. Thank you:-)”  VN

“Just want to say a biggg thank you to the site as i have met the most amazing gentleman alive …!”  CP

“It is a really good site. Keep up the good work :)” NS

“Excellent website”  TG

“”Brilliant service…will recommend” SH

“Well organised and good varation of age groups” SN

“I cant say much about the site as the first person i met on your site is the person im with :o) Thanks” AM

“Good. Easy to use website with some interesting features. Thanks” DP

“Enjoyed the event very much”  SW

“I thought that the staff from Asian Single Solution on the night were extremely friendly, helpful and proactive” PP

“Very easy set up and enjoyed meeting new people” NP

“I just wanted to say thank you to the staff for a great evening.  They were really helpful and the event was extremely well run. I would definately recommend it to my friends” MA

“Thanks for your hospitality I’ll tell my friends about this site inshalla…:)” HO

“My first speed dating /dating event. It was a real party. I totally enjoyed it.” JD

“Was my first event and loved it, would definitely do others” LC

“Brilliant site” NN

“Very good service. Will definitely recommend to friends” JB

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : great site, thanks.” TB

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single. Feed back : absolutely fantastic. keep up the good work” MO

“Good service, thank you – met some nice people” SK

“The overall service for this website, has been very helpful.” MV

“Very good site, i have met someone perfect”  BH

“Nice people on the site and friendly. Your welcome staff are also very good at the events”  MM

“Out of all the dating sites I have been a member of this is far the best. thank you for helping me find what I was looking for! I have found the perfect person, and I have recommended this site to many of my singles friends, young and old! thank you once again, all the best” KT

The Three Day Rule?

Monday, October 31st, 2011

We’ve all heard of the 3 day dating rule.

But is this really effective?

The three day rule is where you wait three days to call someone after you first get your number.  The idea behind it is that you don’t want to appear too keen and should give them a chance to think about the possibility you aren’t interested.

Funnily enough, the three day rule was created by a film called “Swingers” and has been embedded in people’s minds ever since:

“Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it’s like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?

Sue: Yeah, but two’s enough not to look anxious.

Trent: Yeah, two’s enough not to look anxious. But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you…

Mike: Yeah, but you know what, maybe I’ll wait 3 weeks. How’s that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.”

This pretty much tells you that this whole concept is outdated and nonsense.  Most people have mobile phones, social media accounts and emails so there’s no excuse for not getting in touch. You won’t appear busy, just rude!

A recent survey revealed that people aren’t paying attention to the 3 day rule anyway. In fact, the average waiting time was 1 and a half days.   I’d still advise that that’s too long to get back in contact. If you do have an interest in someone then you should make it clear early on.  If you don’t then you can bet someone else soon will and you’ll miss out.  Who knows what might happen over those three days?

Of course, you don’t want to text them the second you say goodbye, but a quick text on the way home saying you enjoyed yourself won’t do any harm.  At the very worst, get in touch the morning after.


Happy dating!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

Keeping Track of Dating

Monday, October 24th, 2011

Our Muslim event attract lots of great matches.

But how can you stay in touch afterwards?

Our Muslim speed dating parties are always very busy and we got lots of potential matches.   However, sometimes it’s a little difficult to remember quite who you spoke once it’s all finished.

That’s why we give everyone a notes sheet so you can make secret notes about the people you speed date.  Do use this as it really does make things much easier when you think about things the next morning.

Unlike some other companies, we don’t have a matching or tick box system at our speed dating events.

The reason for this is that we believe our guests should be able to contact everyone they wish to.  Therefore we make sure everyone can log on the website after an event and review the list of who they met.

To make this process easier and to ensure you get more messages, then we would strongly suggest you add a photograph to your profile.  This is a good rule regardless of whether you attend the events or not as photographs are the key to dating success.

One final tip:  We’ve noticed some men passing on their email to every single lady.  This does come across as bit too keen so we’d suggest you just contact them through the website.  It’s safer and you’ll get more chance of a response.  Of course, there is no harm in asking them there and then for their phone number.

Happy dating!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

What are you waiting for?

Monday, October 17th, 2011

You meet a nice person and want to see them again.

So why play games and keep them waiting?

We often hear that you shouldn’t appear too keen if you like someone.  So there are supposed rules that we are supposed to stick to – such as not replying to a text for three days and pretending to be much busier that you really are. This is all wrong and bad advice!

Nobody wants to date someone who has no life and sits around watching TV each evening.  However, you shouldn’t have to pretend to be something you are not.  Busy is good as it shows you are interesting.  You shouldn’t have to fake this though.  If you don’t have much going on then it’s easy to change that.  Book up some of our singles parties or go and see a film or play.  It’ s not hard to have an active social life.

Remember this:  If you don’t show interest or politeness then there’s only one way the relationship is going to go – into the past.  They’ll give up on you or assume you just aren’t interested in dating them.  So there’s nothing to be gained by trying to seem distanced.

The key thing to remember is to treat other people in the same way that you would like to be treated.   If they text or email you try and reply as soon as you can.  As long as you don’t write long ranting messages then you will be seen as interested rather than rude.


Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Think outside the box

Monday, October 10th, 2011

Do you have a certain type you look to date?

Could that be ruining your dating chances?

Most people have a type or wish list about the person they want to end up with. For some, this could be to do with height, weight, age, location etc.  But by doing this you could be making things a lot harder for yourself.

Dating is all about chemistry and you can’t test that on a website.  The more matches you eliminate then the less there is in the dating pool.  Many things are not that crucial.

You might not agree, but if you are still single then you need to change your strategy.  Your wish list hasn’t worked for you so far so give something else a go.

The reality is that most people don’t end up marrying a person they would say is the perfect match.  Why?  Well once you start to get to know someone then the less important things stop being an issue.  You’ll get to like and love things about them that you would never have previously imagined.

So I suggest you try and think outside the box.   For one week only, contact people who you wouldn’t normally think would be a good match. Ignore any doubts you might have and make a friendly approach.   It’s all good practice.   You don’t necessarily have to meet up with them or contact completely unsuitable people, I’m just saying that you can widen your net and be more open.

Give some new people a chance and you’ll open up a whole world of possibilities.

Let me know how that works out for you.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Learn to Respect

Monday, September 26th, 2011

Muslim Dating has it’s own rules.

So you need to remember to respect them at all times.

The most important thing is to remember to be respectful.  With faith comes boundaries and strong moral codes. However,  some people overlook this and then wonder why they aren’t successful at dating!   Men tend to be more relaxed about these matters but women take them much more seriously.

Here are my top tips to help:

1) Be clear about your intentions.  If you aren’t ready to get married then don’t mislead someone into thinking you are. Likewise, it’s not usually acceptable for someone to be dating more than one person at a time.  It’s also not acceptable to live with someone without being married.

2) Be truthful from the start.  Don’t lie about your height, age, size etc. Instead, be judged on the person you are.  If you pretend to be something you are not then once you have been caught out you’ll never regain that trust.

3) Don’t push.  Never put pressure on someone to meet you or to do something they’d rather not. Respect their wishes.

4) Accept.  If someone doesn’t think you are a good match then let it go and realise that a better match will come along.

5) Consider.  Always treat another person in the same way you’d like to be treated.  Remember your manners and be polite and courteous at all times. If you have a good time or they spend money on you then thank them for it.  In fact, you should probably thank them for their time and effort even if you don’t want to meet again.

Happy dating!

James Preece  – The Dating Guru

Our August Feedback and Success Stories

Monday, September 19th, 2011

Do you have a success story?

Here are some of the success stories and feedbacks we had across the Single Solution sites.


“I’d like to take this opportunity to express how much I’ve enjoyed using the site and associated events, and the ongoing success it brings me in my dating life.” KT

“I have finally met the perfect one. Thanks for the help” DG

“Good site and the chat facility is a nice option to have.” AC

“Service is good and I enjoyed the speed dating event I went to.” KP

“Thanks for everything” TV

“Good website and genuine profiles” CG

“I think it is a good service and may use this service in the future.”  RP

“Worked for me! Been with my partner that I met on the website for almost a year now. Thanks.” PS

“The one event I attended was interesting and well organised” BS

“Thanks for a good service” RH

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : A very good site.” RB

“I thought the site was good, and spoke with a couple of interesting people,I’d recommend it.” AA

“I’m no longer single. I thought the events were great though, especially the ice breaker so keep up the good work.” PS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : very very good.” DK

“Easy to use, good website” PK

“Good: Speed dating was enjoyable – great skill building! Venue: Pleasant, classy. Staff: Friendly. Website: Excellent and easy. Met a few interesting women and made good friends with at least 3; still dating two of them.” KT

“You provide a good service and have enjoyed the events I have been to” TT

“I think the website is really good” SJ

“Icebreakers are good to get even the nervous going. Keep it going you’re doing a good job.” AP

“Good mix of people, nice venue” RC

“Excellent servive…great customer service.. many thanks..ajay” AM

“Good site, easy to use.” SP

“Your site is very good, i did meet some interesting potential partners” GS



Top Ten ways to talk to a woman

Monday, September 12th, 2011

I’ve had some requests from men this week


They’ve asked how to talk to women during speed dating.

We all know that women and men think very differently, so I’ve put together some top tips to help you find things to talk about.


1) Talk about family as women want a man who is close to them. It shows stability, loyalty and a kind nature.

2) If you’ve got a pet, children or nieces/nephews/god children then talk about them – women want to know that you’ll make a good possible father to their future kids.

3) Don’t bring up past relationships, but talk about the future instead. Keep discussions positive.

4) It’s important that you talk about what you are passionate about. By doing so you will naturally get enthusiastic and this will rub off on your date.

5) LISTEN to her own dreams and passions and show that you are interested in them too.

6) Don’t try and offer advice if she talks about a problem.  She doesn’t want a solution, just the chance to air her thoughts.

7) If you are looking for a serious relationship then now is the time to ask them if they want the same. If not, don’t waste any more time.

8 ) If you want to know what women like to talk about, just buy some female magazines.  Keep up with pop culture and showbiz gossip and you’ll never be stuck for words.

9) Men like to talk about facts and figures but this just bores women.  So instead, paint pictures with your words.

10)  Most importantly, show them you are interested by whatever they have to say.


Do you have your own thoughts on this?  Ladies, what would you like a man to talk about?  What should they avoid?

Happy dating!
James Preece – the Dating Guru

Do we owe you a gift voucher?

Monday, September 5th, 2011

We’ve got lots of high street gift vouchers to give out.

Read this to find out if we should be sending one your way.

We love getting success stories and we get them each and every day.  We always post the best ones to our blog, along with our latest feedback.

Recently we’ve heard about lots of marriages through our site, so we are pretty sure there are even more that we’ve not been told about yet.

If you have your own success story, then please do tell us about it so we can share this with our other members. By telling your story you can give other dating members a welcome boost in their search and confirming to everyone that our service really does works!

If you give us a quote and email us over a photograph of the pair of you we’ll send you a £25 gift voucher ( or a bottle fo champagne if you prefer)

To qualify, you will need to have been dating at least 2 months.

So get in touch now and share the love.


Happy dating,


James and Paul

The best way to end a relationship

Monday, August 22nd, 2011

If a relationship isn’t working out, how do you end it?

Is it best to do it in person, by phone or by email?

You won’t fall in love with everyone that you date so sometimes you have to bite the bullet and end it.  It’s the fairest thing to do as you’ll be setting them free to meet someone more compatible.  In today’s modern age there are many ways you can end it using different technologies, but you shouldn’t always take the easiest way out for you.   Remember their feelings and the effect it will have on them.

I’ll tell you exactly what you should say in a future blog, but right now I will tell you the etiquette as to HOW to go about it.

Here’s my quick guide to the correct way that you should end it:

1)  You’ve not dated,  just emailed, texted, phone calls etc.
This is the easiest of all as you’ve not had enough time to really get to know each other.  Therefore it’s perfectly fine to end it however you wish.  This could be a text or a phone call.

2) You’ve only met once.

If you’d definitely decided that you don’t want to see them again then a text or email will do.    While I’d always suggest attempting a second date if there’s the slightest spark, I know the reality is that you won’t like everyone you meet.  So there’s no point meeting them again just to let them down.  The best way is a quick email or text the next day letting them down gently.

3) A short term relationship – 2 – 4 dates

This is where is starts to get complicated.   If things haven’t been intense, then a short email should be fine.  If the dates have been passionate then you really ought to give them a quick phone call.

4) A long term relationship – more than 4 dates

Any more than 4 dates means things are getting serious.  For this reason you absolutely HAVE to end it in person.  The only exception would be if there is a distance barrier.  Tell them you need to talk and stop any indication that you are interested in them.  By this I mean don’t put kisses on the end of emails or tell them you are missing them – otherwise it will complicate matters when they try to understand everything.

However you end it, it’s important that you DO let them know about it.  This might sound an odd thing to say, but many people think it’s better to just disappear and not reply to phone calls, emails, texts.  Treat the other person with respect and the same way you’d like to be treated.  Read my blog on the “Ghost Date” for more info on this!

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

P. s  What are your thoughts on how to end a relationship?

July Success stories and Feedbacks

Monday, August 15th, 2011

July Success Stories and Feedback

We were delighted to present all the latest emails we’ve had in July. It’s fantastic to see so many people are getting together all because of our site. If you have a success story we don’t know about – please get in touch!

“Great and think your site is brilliant!” PS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : GREAT SITE” DP

“Good website that clearly had thought about the user and what they would want to see.” AM

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : Great service!” NT

“I think you guys are doing a great job” AJ

“It is one of the better sites I have used. Very user friendly.” RH

“Great! I went to a few of your events and finally met the man of my dreams! Thanks for your excellent service.” DL

“I enjoyed the site. thank you” CK

“My favourite evening and I’ve done about 7 with you. Yes – a resounding success. Well done. I thought the guy leading the team was excellent, only matched by the northern blonde girl who used to lead at Waterloo Brasserie.” MB

“Relaxed atmosphere and accesible staff and nice to have some refreshments.” SF

“Great site” VB

“Very good” RP

“Very good, clear service and website.” VK

“Whilst I was with you, the services were brilliant.” AM

“The site is a good way to meet and communicate.” AP

“Very good, the staff are extremally friendly at the events!” KB

“Very good events.” RB

“Your services were a great help. Thanks” SP

“Hey I met my wife on this site, my username was deleted just after we met. Two years we met, and we’ve been married 7 weeks now” SB

“Service is great fast and efficient as expected” RD

“Excellent service and regular updates.Thank you” SK

“The site is very well set up” MR

“The events have been wonderful especially the saturday night ones and i have met some very nice people from it” AS

“Never thought i’d meet anyone this way just signed up not expecting much and met someone straight away!”  NA

“The services are very well organised and good fun!” KS

“Appreciate all the help this site has given me…thanks” SP

“Very useful to engage with various types of people.” HK

“User friendly. Great Idea!” PM

“The events are great.”  ML

How to keep positive

Monday, August 8th, 2011

Staying positive isn’t as hard has you think

Today I’ m going to give you some great tips on this subject.

The power of self-talk is amazing.  If you tell yourself you can do something or tell yourself you can’t, then you are always going to be right.  So the secret is to only tell yourself positive things that will change things for the better.

To help, here are some of my favourite positive phrases.  If you want to feel happier, spend a few minutes each day saying them over and over to yourself.  The more you tell yourself these things then the more likely your brain will make them stick and adjust accordingly:

“The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.”

“I choose to be kind to myself.”

“A dream written down with a date becomes a GOAL. A goal broken down into steps becomes a PLAN. A plan backed by ACTION makes your dream come true.”

“It’s better to invest time doing what pleases you, rather than to waste time trying to please everyone else.”

“Every advance in human life begins with an idea in the mind of a single person.”

“I am open to new possibilities.”

“Every great leap forward in life is preceded by a clear decision and a commitment to action.”

“I can figure it out”.

“It is possible, if I am willing to put in the time and effort”

“I make choices and decisions based
on my goals and dreams.”

You could even try to include some similar phrases in to your online dating profile.  They’ll make you come across as a happy, positive person so you’ll automatically get more interest.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

When should you reply?

Monday, August 1st, 2011

How soon should you reply to an email or text?

This question often causes confusion.


You’ve sent a message online and quickly get a message back.   Some people then wonder how quickly they ought to respond.

They worry that if they write back straight away then they’ll come across as a bit over keen or even desperate.  So instead, they wait a few hours ( or even days!) and then get back to them.  They think that by doing this they’ll be seen as busy and that they aren’t too concerned about meeting anyone.

However, could you imagine doing this in a real, face to face conversation?   One of you says something, then the other waits 20 minutes before answering the question.  It just wouldn’t work would it?  It would get boring and you’d both soon lose interest.

You should treat an online conversation in the same way you would if you were in the same room. Show them respect and write back there and then.  You’ll get much better results that way.   The aim shouldn’t be to send endless messages anyway.  Emails are just there to build up trust and then you can arrange a proper meeting in person.

Strike while the iron is hot and while you’ve got maximum interest.  Don’t stop the flow by making them wait.

Otherwise they’ll sign off, or even worse – start talking to other people instead.  When you finally do bother to write back it will be incredibly difficult to pick up where you both left off.

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Your voice and how to use it

Monday, July 25th, 2011

Do you know what your voice says about you?

Could it be ruining your dating chances?
We’ve talked about about how you need to make a great first impression and stand out from crowd. But no matter how hard you try, you could be messing everything up just by saying a few words.  If you speak too quickly, too quietly or come across as wimpy then you won’t get past a phone date, yet alone a face to face meeting.

Your voice is an incredibly valuable asset when it comes to dating, so make sure you know how to use it.

The trouble is that the voice you hear and the voice everyone else hears are completely different. This is due to the way your skull makes it resonate.  So if you’ve never done so, speak into a microphone and record yourself for a while. It might be a bit of a surprise and a weird experience, but with a bit of practice you can learn what sounds good and what doesn’t.

Who in the public eye do you think has a good voice?  Have a listen to them and copy the way they speak.  A great voice is one that is slow and clear. Above all it’s never dull so learn to energise and lift your voice so it sounds dynamic.

Remember, the more you practice then the better you’ll get


Good luck!


James Preece – The Dating Guru

What does your photo say about you?

Monday, July 18th, 2011

A picture paints a thousand words.

But what are people saying about YOUR photo?

We always tell you how important having a good photo is when it comes to online dating.  But there are still many people who think they know best.

We’ve seen all sorts of weird and wonderful photographs over the years and as the dating experts we knew what works and what doesn’t. Your photos is your calling card and advert that you use to market yourself. If you get it wrong it can be doing you more harm than good.

Please follow our guidelines –  no sunglasses, cars, hidden faces.  We also don’t allow group shots.  Online dating is all about you, so don’t draw attention to anyone else.

Some people like to show themselves with a drink in hand, to give the impression they are a fun, party person.  However, this can be interpreted as you having a drinking problem. Not a great asset on a Muslim dating site.

THE most important thing is to remember to smile.  If you look moody or aren’t looking at the camera then you won’t connect with the viewer.  If you look like a happy, positive person then you’ll get much more interest.
Of course, if you don’t event have a photograph then you are wasting your time anyway.  If you don’t put one on then nobody will find or contact you, yet alone reply to your emails, Instead they’ll just think you have something to hide.

So go and add some great photos now…just remember what they might be saying about you.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

Are you using Online Dating Cliches?

Monday, July 11th, 2011

So many people write the same things in their profiles.

Read more to see if you are making the same mistakes.

We read 1000s of new profiles every week and it’s  amazing how many people keep writing the same boring things.  So today I’m going to tell you some of the most common so you can avoid doing the same thing.  Here are 5 of the top Online Dating Cliches that we see.

1) “I’m not sure what I’m doing on an online dating site.”  This just makes you sound arrogant. By writing this you are suggesting that you are far too good to be on the site and what a hardship it is.  As well as this you are insulting every other member on there too!

2) “My friends say…”    Or “my friends” tell me this or that.   So what?  It’s really not important what they say, but rather who you are and how you treat others.

3) “My friends and family are important to me.”  Isn’t this really just stating the obvious? Friends and family are important to everyone.  It would be much more worrying and abnormal if they weren’t!

4) “No time wasters/ players/ etc”     This gives the impression that you’ve had some bad experiences in the past and are therefore judging all people before you’ve given them a chance. It’s doubtful that anyone would ever admit to being a time waster anyway.

5) “I’m open minded”   While most people write this with the intention that they have no expectations when it comes to dating, the reality is that it comes across as if you looking for a casual relationship.


All it takes is a little imagination and you’ll have an exciting, interesting profile that will help you stand out from the crowd.

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Has 2011 brought you many dates?

Monday, July 4th, 2011

We’re already halfway through the year.

So how many dates have you had so far?

Many people decide at the start of a new year to make a plan to sort out their love lives at last.   Unfortunately,life always seems to get in the way and they never get time to actually meet anyone.  So they feel disheartened and don’t feel like there’s any point in trying.

This is the wrong attitude!

It’s never too late to make a change. The secret to making things happen is just to take action. Work out exactly what you want and then take a small action towards it every day.

You don’t need to do much, perhaps just sign up to our Muslim online dating site and send a few emails each day. Or book one of our brilliant Muslim speed dating events that we run on a regular basis.  Once you start putting some effort in you’ll soon begin to see big differences.  By getting yourself out there, you are making new connections which will hopefully lead to dates and possibly more.

Please don’t keep putting your dating success on hold. You don’t want to be in the same position in six months time do you?

If you’ve been proactive and have had lots of dates so far then well done!  Keep going…..the next one could be THE one!

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Why our Muslim Speed Dating Events are the best

Monday, June 27th, 2011

We often get told we run the best Muslim London dating parties.

Here are the top five reasons why our events really do work.

1) High quality guests.  Our Muslim dating site is aimed at British born, Asian Muslim professionals. As such, the calibre is very high and everyone is there to genuinely meet someone for a relationship or marriage.

2) Great hosts. We hire the best hosts in the business.  There are friendly, knowledgeable and there to help YOU. If you every have a question, need some advice or want some introductions that all you need to do it ask them.

3) Nicest venues.  We put a lot of effort into making sure that we only use fantastic venues that suit our events.  We make sure they are stylish, yet drinks prices are fair.  They are always exclusively hired out to us and in easy to get to London locations.

4) Reasonable prices.  Our events are very affordable and offer excellent value for money.  Most events are usually around the £15 mark and all Premium Members get 50% off the events for them and there friends too. If you meet 20 people then that works out at less than 40p a date!

5) They don’t end once the party is over.  If you attend an event, we give you two weeks to use our online messaging service to contact everyone you met. We don’t have useless tick boxes that restrict who you can email.  Instead, you can view photos and profiles and get the chance to get in touch with anyone that you wish.

Do book an event soon and see why our events our so popular.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru


What do Muslim Singles want?

Wednesday, June 1st, 2011

Last week I told you to make a list of what you want.

But you also need to consider what THEY want to!

You’ve got your own list of dealbreakers, but so has everyone else.  So there’s no point emailling a 20 year Muslim girl if you are 48 or a Muslim man living in Scotland if you are in London.   It’s so important that you consider what they are looking for as much as you what you are after.

Otherwise you’ll either get no replies or a lot of “thanks but you aren’t my type” emails.  That’s no use to anyone so save yourself the unecessary rejection.

We’ve found that religious practice and “relationship seriousness” are the most important factors when it comes to Muslim dating.   So if you want casual fun then don’t waste the time of someone looking to get married.  It’s just not fair and it’s disrespectful.  One of the common complaints we get is that fun focussed members are contacting others who want to settle down.

Please keep this mind and only contact suitable matches.  There’s someone for everyone on the site so spend a little targetting the right people and you’ll have a much more rewarding experience.



Good luck,


James Preece – The Dating Guru

You CAN have what you want

Monday, May 23rd, 2011

So many people settle when it comes to dating.

This sadly means that many relationships don’t last.

Sometimes people will date someone even if they aren’t completely happy, in the hope that they might be able to change them.

For example, they might date a smoker even though they are anti-smoking.  Or perhaps someone who parties too much or exercises too little.

Unfortunately, it’s a bit like trying to fill a watering can that has a big hole in it.  You’ll never change them to how you want them to be and even if you do they’ll end up resenting you for it.

Of course, nobody is perfect and you should always give people a chance if you feel there is any sort of chemistry there.  I’m just saying that you shouldn’t sacrifice what’s important to you just because you feel you need to be in a relationship.

The truth is that you can meet an amazing partner as long as you realise you deserve it. You don’t need to settle for second best.

Work on your self esteem and surround yourself with positive, upbeat people.  As soon as you get in the right frame of mind you’ll being attracting the sort of partner who meets more of your key requirements.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to get someone to open up

Monday, May 16th, 2011

It can often be hard to date a shy person.

So today I’ll teach you how to get them to relax.

Most of us are a little guarded when it comes to dating and shyness is extremely common.  It can be difficult on a date if someone finds it hard to relax and open up.  But ther’ s a fantastic way that you put them at ease quickly.

It’s a simple trick but once you’ve learnt it you’ll find it works really well.

All you need to do is to get someone to talk about what makes them feel good and what they are passionate about.  When you see their eyes comes to life and you know you’ve hit a strong positive emotion, you just need to tap then discretely on the arm.  Do it every now and again but not so much they spot what you are doing.  Keep the touch in exactly the place.  This is a technique called “anchoring” as it allows them to store the memory. Now all you need to do it tap them on the same spot later in the evening and they’ll subconsciously feel the same great feeling again.

Try and see what happens.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

What’s a Nickname?

Tuesday, May 10th, 2011

When you sign up to the site you choose a Nickname.

To protect your identity and to make the website more fun, everyone has a Nickname. This is particularly useful at events, where the Nickname will be used to identity you. Obviously if there were six people called Mohammed then it could get very confusing.

If you cannot think of a Nickname, you can use our Nickname generator which will suggest some suitable names for you.

You can use anything within reason, but not your real full name or anything rude.

You can change your Nickname but only once every 30 days.  However, we recommend that you do not change your nickname as this will confuse other users, and us!

Following Up

Tuesday, April 26th, 2011


So you met someone speed dating at a party.

What’s the best to follow up and see them again?

This is a common dilemma so I’m going to teach you how to go about this in the best way.

After attending an event you’ll be able to log on to the website and email the guests you liked for free. There’s no “matching” or cards to fill in as we believe it’s better to give everyone the opportunity to email anyone they like. The most important thing is not to leave it too long to contact them.   Obviously you don’t want to get in touch seconds after leaving the venue, but don’t play it too cool.

Don’t forget they would have met lots of other great possible matches so if you wait too long you’ll miss out.  Chances are there will be more than one person you are interested in, so the same will probably go for them.  Therefore, you want to make sure that you are first person they meet up for a date.   Otherwise they might decide to focus on someone else and put you on the back burner.   People do tend to get their hopes and expectations up after just one meeting, so they won’t want to risk it by seeing others at that point.

The very best time to get in touch is around early lunchtime the next day.  No sooner, no later.  Most people will be able to use email during a lunch hour so they can log in and reply to you then.  Don’t write anything too heavy, so just say you really enjoyed meeting them and would love to do it again soon and find out more about them.

One final tip –  if you really liked them during your speed date then talk to them again at the end of the event.  If there’s time, you could always suggest you head off somewhere else to grab something to eat.  You’ll have an instant date and will more time to get to know each other.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

What is dress code for the parties?

Wednesday, April 20th, 2011

People judge on appearances.

So make sure you make an amazing impressiona

I’m so important that our guests dress to impress at our parties .  So we suggest that you wear a nice shirt or dress and don’t wear blue jeans or trainers.

Our events are aimed at professionals so we have been trying to be stricter on dress codes. It’s worth noticing that the men who wear suits and the women who dress up are the ones who have the best success! Yes, you might feel more comfortable in jeans but remember you are advertising yourself in a similar way to a job interview. People will be looking at you and making quick judgements based on the way you dress.

Also, it’s not just our dress code that we have to enforce, but also the policies of the particular bars that we use.

If you are in any doubt, dress up rather than down as dress too well is never a problem!.   You can always ask our staff at the  events who will be able to give you some tips and advice.

See you soon,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

Latest Feedback

Saturday, April 9th, 2011

We love getting feedback on our Asian sites – here is some of the latest.

We will regularly updating this blog page so you can see the fantastic success rates our customers have:

July 2011

“Great website” UA

Financially my circumstances have changed. I will still attend events as I have enjoyed them.” MO

“Good service”  RS

“Have met another member from this site, appreciate all the help this site has given me…thanks” SP

“Very useful to engage with various types of people.” HK

“User friendly. Great Idea!” GM

“The events are great.” ML

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : It has been worthwhile joining your site.” DD

“It’s a nice idea and good for busy people” AK

June 2011

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : its good – i am impressed with your updates” RS

“I thought the staff were lovely at the event” TS

“Good professional service.” MH

“I always enjoyed your events and met some lovely people” RH

“Very good service” GP

“Have recommended you to people as I think you provide a great way to meet other singletons” KG

“Site well set up, easy searching” KS

“Extremely helpful”  TD

“Really good…(pages load up quick..some other dating websites take long! really long and puts you off searching)…with this one it’s quicker even through mobile. I would defo recommend this site to a friend. Thank you” AK

“Very good, might be back, thanks.” PS

“Friendly organisers” JB

May 2011

“Met a great gal, thanks for giving chance to meet her.” YB

“The Service is good” AJ

“Its a good service and you should continue helping people get together.” RP

“Thanks for your services :)” MK

“Services are great and I have met someone from the site. Thanks for your help.” SN

“Site is good and easy to use” SD

“Very relaxed, friendly people.” MW

“Right mix of organised and ‘free”,  mingling; ice breakers good idea; friendly staff;speed dating good idea” VL

“Good service, well marketed and great to see constant improvements to the site!” AK

“Site is wonderful” AS

“Services are good – think the chat thing is a great idea.” SP

“Good website and range of options to interact with like minded people.” HK

“Thanks for the great service while I was on the site.” AP

“The events are very good and just right” MA


April 2011

“Good news … when I thought there was no-one left for me in this big cruel, evil world… I met someone very nice from this site. :o) woohoo!!”  JP

“The site is good and offers a nice service, which is proven by the fact that I’ve found someone very special! :o)” DS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Its been great. Thanks for the experience.” RK

“This is a good site and I will use it again. Thanks” TN

“Was Great !! Had lots of fun and meet some great ladies.” SS

“I think your services are good and can be of help..!!” RM

“Enjoyed the events … now married ! :)” AB

“I met my beautiful boyfriend on here and fingers crossed will go onto something long term. Thank you asian single solution. Brillant way to find people that you may never meet on a day to day basis. xxx”  RJ

March 2011

“Was on your site and saw a wink from a beautiful girl.  I messages her back and we swapped details. Met her for lunch and wow, simply wow.  We clicked and now been a month, with no regrets and plenty of happiness.  All thanks to the site :)”

Our Latest Match

“On a personal level I didnt think this site would work for me and that I would meet an awesome girl who i intend to marry. thanks for all you’ve done!!!! You’ve renewed my faith in a lot of areas…” PV

“Met the most amazing man who i intend to marry! Thank you very much :)” RA

“Have met soneone yay great service :)” ST

“The quality of people on the site is good.” VS

“I think this is a really good website for meeting your partner. It has a range of services that i like.” SG

“Great service, keep it up” SP

“The services were good. The events were well organised.” HM

“its a good sevice, its good that this dating site are always doing events for single people, keep up the good work!!” NC

“I think you do a great job and can’t thank you enough as it’s so hard to meet anyone when your working.” SP

“Really good service” UG

“Great Service. Great Events. Thanks” AP

“Very good site & service” MR

“This is a very good dating website for all the asians. But unfortunately, I couldnt benefit of it much. But never the less, appreciate the service. Thanks” RV

“Brilliant!” GK

“I met my perfect partner and want to thank you for this whole entire service. Its awesome I have finally found a lady that is amazing. So a big THANK YOU!!!!!!!” DD

“Got a great result within a month. Thanks. Very professionally run website. Thanks.” SG

“Good site, lots of active members” SR

“I think you have a great site. Didn’t think i will find someone but i did. Thank you. Hope other find someone special like i did.” KS

“Good service!” AP

“Always enjoy events I attend.” MS

“Excellent service thanks a lot” IA

“The events were good and you met different people” MB

“Have had some lovely dates with fab people …wish them luck!” NC

“Excellent events and service, well done!” AP

“Service is Exceptional” TM

“The site is good and I’ve had fun at the events” CS

February 2011

“Very Satisfied” AL

“I attended the event at Apostrophe yesterday and really enjoyed the relaxed atmosphere and met some really interesting people. I’d definately reccomend it to my friends and will try to come to the next event” SR

“He was the first guy I met through your dating site and one year later, we have decided to get married! Who would have thought it was possible!!! Thank you…” SA

“Its a good website with nice professionals” VK

“I have been to 3 events now, all well organised and attended by nice people whom I have enjoyed chatting to” PM

“Have been to most of the events in Birmingham, enjoyed meeting like minded people, have made some friends along the way which has been great!”  SR

“Nice crowd; friendly atmosphere” NB

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : Wonderful service”   TA

“Really good site, well done, events were fun in London” PV

“Good customer service, good value and payment options – id recommend the site and always had prompt replies to my queries” MC

“Really good service. Enjoyed meeting new people.” LS

“Thanks guys, met a really nice guy at your wine tasting event last july. It’s all going really well. Thanks Again”  YA

“Always have an excellent time at these events.” FG

“Fab night was had by most I think, so well done guys ” KB

“The event was very enjoyable and a lot more fun then I expected” CO

“Good female/male ratio and good age range and mix of people”  SW

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single. Feed back : this was the second time on this website, deciding to be more proactive and it  worked !”  AD

“Your services and events are extremely fun and well organised” NS

“Great site! definately a hit recommended already to people and look forward to another 3 months” BC

“Good site, events are well planned too.” AP

“Feed back : the website is great!”  FM

“I think the site it very good compared to other sites.” DR

“I have recently met someone on the site and it looks to have the potential of a serious relationship. Thank you very much indeed!” RP

“Great site, service and events” DC

“Great, keep up the good work.” JS

“I have found this website really easy to use and an amazing way of meeting people. Thanks” SC

“I think its a great website!” SP

“Hi I think your service is good and you are definitely very helpful”  SD

“I enjoyed attending the events – great fun” AC

“Thanks for the wonderful events over the last few years” CA



January 2011

“Really good service. Enjoyed meeting new people.” SM

“I have met the man of my dreams” MD

“Good level of service” HP

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : great site thanks!” SS

“The site is very good and I have met several nice people” YB

“Great website, much better than the other, a lot more of a modern approach and seems more aimed at young british asians which is what I was looking for!” SP

“Great site now found what i was looking for!! thank you” DA

“Staff: Really helpful and friendly. General: Intros from hosts great idea!
Website: Easy to use, one of the easiest to use websites I have subscribed to” RP

“Was a very good event, as always. Met a few nice girls, let’s see where they go.” AV

“I just wanted to say the event was really good and what you and your team do is amazing. I liked the way you helped us mingle with people too” MP

“Great site – keep up the good work!” LD

“Great site!” MH

“Excellent website and people” MO

“I think its a great idea. I enjoyed the event I attended.” AG

“Overall pretty good. Well organised and good venues.” SM

“Very good service offered” KN

“Attended the speed dating events and found them to be well organised and fun, better than some of the things offered by competitors.” SG

“The website proved successfull and I have met someone through you. Thank you” AP

“I found your events were a good tool to bring together attractive and successful asian’s”  JS

December 2010

“I went to 2 events and thought they were really well run, I had a good time and found the experience very friendly and would recommend them them to friends” WP

“The website is really good and useful, thank you so much” SP

“I think you guys are great ! I am happy to be with you” VN

“Very good. never thought I would meet an amazing woman on a dating site.” TB

“Great evening as ever…………venue and mix of genders was about right and food was approved by all!”  BF

Had a great time, it was a good night thanks, and it was very relaxed and there was man for each woman J nice people too and it was nice to meet you you guys” CA

It has been useful to get in touch with people I wouldn’t meet every day” AM

“Very impressed with the service!” HS

“Resourceful site to have for the current generation.” KT

“Excellent service..met someone amazing and hoping he’s ‘the one’ :)” AS

“I thought that the events were good and organised really well. Thank you” AP

“I liked the venue and the relaxed atmosphere at the beginning of the event. It was good to meet and talk to new people. It was the first time I have ever been to anything like this and I was pleasantly surprised.” PM

November 2010

“Have attended 2 events and thought they were very well organised and good venues.”  WP

“Good way of meeting people and nice to have a datingguru for advice.”  DG

“Thanks for a very well organised event which made me feel very safe as the staff were available all night to help.  That was great.” JM

“The service was a really good way of meeting like minded people.” HG

“Very good events and nice website” GS

“Service was great” SM

“Definatley a great service for those older age groups having lost their confidence somewhere along the road of love” JM

“I found your website a great help.” JA

“The event I attended was great! keep up the great work!” JT

“The event had a variety of people to talk to with just the right age range for me.” BP

“Good, easy way of meeting people” SP

“I met a girl at your event on the 26th june and fell in love with her” MC

“Really good website better then the others!”  SS

“I think the services are very good, the times I have been to the events have been most enjoyable and well organised.” HD

“Very useful for starting a network of friends.” BK

“Good fun as ever” FW

“Thank you for hosting a very nice evening on Saturday ” PH

October 2010

“It was great to have the canapes and chocolate fountain” NL

“Just want to tell you that I enjoyed very much the last event at the Abbey was good the music excellent good food” CP

“Thank you for a good evening. It’s quite daunting turning up to any event, but it was easy and fun.” JW

“Your event was fabulous for meeting a lot of men in a short space of time”  ML

“Thank you for a great party last night” BF

“Very good balance of men to women; reasonable food; nice atmosphere”  CP

“The site is fantastic. The first guy I met turned out to be the one :-)” EF

“Just wanted to say how good the magician was at last event ,very clever, and very subtle at bringing people together, great entertainment”  PH

Sep 2010

“Professional attitude of the staff and the Gathering makes it a better place to spend your time. Even if you don’t get your date, I assure you will get good Friends. My Personal Recommendation, Go for it.” VL

“I was quite impressed with your events and have reccomended it to my other single friends” AM

“It took a long time and a few dates, but just as I was giving up I met someone on this site… Not sure where it goes or what the outcome will be but I’ve got a GREAT feeling!!” AA

“I met a wonderful young lady on this site – we clicked straight away and now she is expecting our first child” AB

“The atmosphere was good and the speed dating element was cool for me” SJ

“Venue was great and so was the evening” SM

August 2010

“The event was very well organised and the crowd was very friendly – speed dating was very interesting and a lot of fun!! I am definitely looking forward to the next one!!” DS

“Very good site and service! Will recomend it.” SB

“It’s a great website, am happy with the services provided” MM

“The event was good fun and well organised.” LN

“Very professionally run site. It’s a very well presentedand very user friendly” MO

“It’s a good site, great for young professionals!” LW

“Thank you, the event was great, really had a good time.” BC

“The events I went to where superb” KD

“I met Jo at my first and only event in 2007 (oct comedy night in soho) and we are getting married next July”

“We had a connection, passion & love for each other & he has accepted my children unconditionally. Thank you!” AM

July 2010

“I have met the love of my life and we are getting married next year. Thank you very very much for creating this website through which I met HIM. Many Thanks” JG

“I met someone on your dating site. If you want to find the one never stop looking no matter how you are feeling… you never know when you may find the one… I cried once I realised I had the one I needed in my life… XXXX” AM

I think it was extremeley well organised and found the people there were very approachable.” JA

After attending a few Single Solutions functions, I met a wonderful guy this Spring. We are both very happy and would recommend this website to our singleton friends.It brings like minded souls together not only via online dating but at fun events too. Everyone desires someone special in their life and we wouldlike to thank Single Solutions for bringing us together”  VN

“Your services were good and I have now found someone. Thank you!” SM

I enjoyed the event- good ratio of men to women- and managed to get a number and a date fixed up too. Result!” PI

“Loved the events in Brum, met some nice people and even dated one for 9 months” HP

“Thank you all so much for helping me meet my match. We have now been together for three months and its lovely. We both thank you so very much for helping us meet one another” MM

“Friendly staff and good events to complement the site.  It’s good to meet real people” JP

“Very good service. Met some very nice people on this site. Thanks.” HP

“I think this is a great site! Combining online profiles with events is a great idea. Keep it up!!” BS

“Great service! Have met someone on your site and we have decided to be exclusive!” MD

June 2010

“Hi Paul / James and team I think your site is great, helpful and easy to use. I have found my match after so long and thank you all so much for making this happen!” MN

“Honestly speaking, I feel what you guys have done with SS, and achieved with your brand (for what its worth) – is awesome, overall” SM

“Thanks a ton for creating a sit exclusively for Asians as I believe that is a good way to meet like minded Asians.” AM

May 2010

“Great site – recommended to friends” CL

“A fine service to humanity !” AM

“Great venue, relaxed atmosphere, good guests, helpful staff” MV

“The service was brilliant, I got to know alot of nice people who are now mates” MA

I had a really enjoyable time on Sat.  Much more so than anticipated I might add!” RK

“The magician was brilliant and you should give him more work!” AD

“Thank you for all your support, it was really good being with you..” HM

“Very good site and well organised events” BP

“Venue was right size for turn out, good facilities. Great music and good bar service.” NN

“The event was great. The Ice breaker with the cards worked really well and the staff were really friendly and helpful. It exceeded my expectation and was a light relaxed friendly environment. ” HS

“Excellent. one of the best sites on the web” SR

April 2010

“I would just like to let you know that I met my now husband not last October but the one before last at one of your events. We had a wonderful wedding on April 7th. We are eternally grateful to the singlesolution for bringing us  together. Long live the Singlesolution!

“I thoroughly enjoyed Saturday’s party which was the first I’d attended for some time” MW

“Just to let you know I am seeing someone who I met through the website!” HP

“Good Services and has helped me to find someone with my busy lifestyle”  SC

“Pretty good, as I managed to find my man on the site!” SP

“I really enjoyed using this site and found it great to meet some prospective partners. Thanks and keep up the great work.”  IM

“I think your parties are great, probably the best of all the singles parties – I would recommend them to my single friends – wishing you continued success.” SH

March 2010

“You guys rock!” BP

“Great site.. met a few very decent guys on your site whom I am now friends with. would definitely come back if iI was single again. Thank you!” DN

“This is a very good service and I have recommended to many of my single friends” HD

“Well organised and very civilised events” PK

“I went to your valentine event and all the staff, the organisation, let me say, was brilliant. Thank you again, and will keep you posted!” MM

“I think you are on to a good thing with this whole website.  The turnout was marvellous on Sat despite the transport probs..
I liked the magician he was a nice guy.  All in all a good event.”  JV

“I wanted to thank you so much for creating this website. I joined a few years back, attended a couple of events, which were unsuccessful for me. But through the website (which is great) I met my perfect match. I was beginning to think there was no one out there for me but this website proved me wrong. We are due to get married at the end of this year. Thankyou so much. S L and A P”

“Great events with professional and friendly hosts”  RH

FEB 2010

“I loved the speedate event I went to on Valentines..the first one I went to. Staff were great too. I have met someone and going to see how it goes. Thanks again. You guys have been great.” MM

“The Valentine’s event was well organised and good fun. I spoke to lots of interesting people and the speed dating was much less intimidating than I had expected. The first young lady I met was lovely, and we’ve been on a few dates since, so watch this space… To anyone thinking of whether or not to bite the bullet, do it: you never know who you might meet!” NM

“Good range of events and wide variety of people attending.” JG

“Well run, probably the best about” JM

“I met someone elsewhere but  I think your site is fantastic. Keep up the good work!”

Confidence Secrets

Monday, April 4th, 2011

Confidence is the secret of dating.

It helps you get the things you really want in life.

So here are some of my quick tips to help you get more of it.

1) Get rid of negative thoughts.  We’ve all got a little nagging voice inside our head that makes us doubt our own abilities.  So drown it out with positive statements and intentions instead.

2) Body Language.  If you slouch and frown you’ll naturally feel bad too. If you stand up straight and smile you’ll instantly feel happier and more confident.  Once you start acting like a confidence person, you won’t be able to stop being one.

3) Be happy with yourself.  It’s only when you learn to be comfortable in your own skin that you’ll attract someone else.  So be proud of who you are and do your best to make the most of what you have to offer.

4) Show an interest in others.  People like people who like them – so listen carefully to what they are saying and ask questions.

5) You control your feelings.  You don’t need to feel angry, upset, shy or nervous if you don’t want to be.  Just make a decision that you won’t dwell on them.

Practise these tips and you’ll soon be feeling much more confident.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Three quick speed dating tips

Monday, March 28th, 2011

We run regular Muslim speed dating parties in great venues.

But we’ve noticed a few mistakes people sometimes make.
So in today’s blog I’ll tell you about them so you can avoiding making them too, helping you get dating success.

1)Arrive Early.   If you arrive early you’ll be able to watch everyone else come in.   It’s a great idea to allow yourself plenty of time to get settled in, so grab yourself a drink and relax.  There’s also the added bonus that the event will be able to start on time!

2) Keep smiling.     Yes, we know you are a little nervous if you’ve not been before.   That’s quite understandable….but do remember that other people will be watching you from the second you walk through the door.  Some people look miserable and scared and this instantly can create the wrong impression.    I’d suggest that once you’ve located the venue, take some deep breaths before you approach and smile warmly.   Greet the organisers in a friendly manner and look like you’ve confident, happy and engaging.  The rest of the room will pick up on it.

3) Dress to Impress.   Most people do make the effort and wear smart shoes, suits, skirts etc.  However, every now and again we see someone in trainers, t-shirt or looking generally a little scruffy.  While it’s important to be comfortable,  you’ll be judged on how you are dressed.  So make an effort and you’ll maximise your chances.   You’ll also feel more confident and command more respect and attention.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

A Formula for Dating Success ?

Saturday, March 19th, 2011

When you write your Online Dating Profile, how much time do you spend?



Would you like to know the formula to getting lots of interest?


Studies show that men tend to look for someone they find physically attractive, sporty and understanding while women want someone understanding, funny and in touch with their emotions.

The big question, is do you write about you or write about the person you are looking for? Professor Richard Wiseman of the University of Hertfordshire carried out a study at the Edinburgh International Science Festival to help answer this question. He asked 40 men and 40 women to write 25-word personal ads – then got another set of volunteers to circle the ones that appealed.

The results showed a “golden formula” that you should stick to when writing a profile. You should spend 70 per cent of the profile describing you and 30 per cent describing what you are looking for. If you spend more than 70% of the profile talking about yourself then you might appear to be egotistical. Likewise, you may give you the impression you are trying to hid something if you don’t write enough about yourself.

In the studies, the ads that were closest to the 70:30 rule were the ones that had clearly the largest number of replies.

Interestingly, Wiseman used a separate panel of volunteers to predict which ads they thought would get the most responses. There was a huge and evident gender difference. The male volunteers were extremely good at predicting which ads would have the most success while the women completely failed.

Wiseman concluded that women should perhaps get a man to look over their dating profile to get the best results.


James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to message someone and get a reply

Monday, March 14th, 2011

We’d like to help you get more replies to your messages.

So today I’m giving you the most common things people get wrong.

We see people doing this every single day and it’s just a complete waste of your time.  If you take a few minutes longer to do it properly you’ll see a huge increase in the amount of people who write back to you.

Please don’t ignore this and think you know best.   We’re the experts when it comes to this!


1) Don’t use text speak.  Check your spelling before you send out a message.  You don’t want the recipient to have to run it through a dictionary.  You are a professional, not a 12 year old.

2)  Always write proper, personalised messages.  If they feel you’ve made an effort they’ll be much more likely to reply.  So tell them why you liked their profile and why you’d be a good match.  Talk about their personality rather than looks as that can get boring.

3) Don’t copy and paste.  This is so obvious and most people can see you’ve done it, making sure the message gets deleted immediately.    If you do this then our system will automatically suspend your account so we can check you are a real person.

4) Send a credit. This means that they can open and reply to it, even if they aren’t paying members.  So it’s the best way to guarantee your chances of a reply.

5) Have a great photo and profile.    People want to know who they are dealing with.  If these aren’t up to scratch they won’t either bother reading your message.

Good luck!


Jams Preece – The Dating Guru

How does Premium Membership work?

Monday, March 7th, 2011

Today’s blog is an FAQ about our Premium Membership

Hopefully this will make things clear for you

There are two options that you get when you decide to upgrade on our site. The first is Premium Membership, which means you can contact anyone you wish, read messages and get huge discounts off most of our events.

The second option, for the more results orientated dater is our Premium Plus membership.  This is our best selling membership as it offers the best value and the biggest returns.

The trouble with most dating sites that is you never know if the person you are contacting is a paid up member.  If they aren’t ( and don’t have any credits) then they won’t be able to read or reply to your message. Premium Plus gets round this frustrating problem and keeps you totally in control.

The other big advantage is that most people are just Premium members, so you’ll have an huge advantage on them.  You’ll get more replies if you use it properly.

However, some it seems that some Premium Plus members aren’t remembering to “send a free credit” when first contacting someome.  So, we just wanted to remind you that the option is there when you go to send a message.

There’s also another bonus feature that you can use too.  If a member has added their mobile phone number to the site then you’ll also see a button to send them a text.  This will instantly alert them to the fact that you’ve contact them. It’s completely free to use and well worth using it!

Remember that you only results from dating if you put some effort into it.  So if you want to start meeting new people you will need to upgrade.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Online Dating – making a good impression

Monday, February 28th, 2011

It’s easy to have great success with online dating.


But it does need some effort to get things started.
So many people join an online dating site, such as, add a few words and then sit back and do nothing more.  Then they wonder why they aren’t getting any interest or any replies to the odd message the send out.

I’d like you to imagine you were looking for a job.  Would you scribble a short CV down on a bit of old newspaper?  Would you not be bothered to send a cover note with it and then post it off to absolutely every job you liked the look of, whether you are qualified for it or not?  What’s more, would you forget to put a stamp on the envelope so you wouldn’t even guarantee it got delivered?

This might sound mad, but it’s exactly how many people treat online dating.   They’ll not bother with a photo, write a poor profile, send out hundreds of copy and pasted messages to members and forget to send a reply paid credit.

The secret is to think of how the other person is seeing you.  You want to make the right first impression from the very start.  So spend a little time crafting a fantastic profile and adding some great photos.  Thay way you’ll stand out from the crowd and are more likely to get dates.  Then send out carefully written emails to people you think might be a match.  This is your “cover letter” and if you don’t do it properly it will just get deleted.   Tell them what you have in common and why you might be a good match.

Finally, use the  reply paid credit system and they will be able to read and reply to your message even if they haven’t yet upgraded.

A little bit of effort can really go a long way, so put some time in now and you’ll reap the rewards.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

How our Muslim Speed Dating Events work

Monday, February 21st, 2011

We’ve run many very successful Muslim Speed Dating Events.


If you’ve not been yet, we’ve put together a quick guide.

Our Muslim parties are always fun, relaxed events and attract a high quality professional crowd.

They usually take place in coffee shops – chosen for the best location, drinks and food selection and space.  We hire these coffee shops or cafes exclusively so our members can talk without being disturbed, so we don’t allow anyone else in to sit and watch.

The parties start for registration at 7pm and speed dating wil begin at 7.15pm, once all the guests have signed in.

Ladies are seated around the venue and the men sit opposite.  Every four minutes we ring the bell and the men move round to the next lady.  The ladies stay seating throughout the event which allows them to look after their handbags etc!   There are no boxes to tick, but we do give everyone a sheet to make their own private notes on.

Once everyone has met everyone else, our guests are free to mingle and continue chatting.

We don’t do matches the next day, but participants can log on the website after the event and contact anyone they wish from the event, free for two weeks.

This stops the limitations of normal speed dating and makes it easier to remember who they men.  Most guests add photos to their profiles which server as a great reminder.

So if you’d like to meet around 15 – 20 single professional Muslims in your age category, sign up for an event at   You never know who you might meet at our next party.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Why you need to add a photo

Monday, February 14th, 2011

This is the number one rule of online dating but it’s so often forgotten.


If you want to get online dating success – you need a great photo.

If you don’t have one you are just wasting your time.  Most people won’t even find your profile, yet alone read it if they can’t see what you look like.  Think of a photo as the equivalent of putting a stamp on a letter.  If you don’t add one it will never get read.    It’s common sense – wouldn’t YOU rather see who you are talking to?

Profiles with photos get over 7 times as many views and they are the best way to advertise yourself.  It’s the photo that will get people to either click on your profile or click to the next page.

If you don’t have a good one then get a friend to use a camera phone to take one for you.  Most phones are capable of producing images of a very high resolution so they’ll look just as good as a regular camera.

It’s pointless to try and use one that doesn’t look like you, is years out of date or hides part of your face.  That’s why we don’t allow shots with sunglasses in them. There’s really no point in masking your face or it rings alarm bells.

The secret of a good photo is  a clear,  happy photo.  No group shots, props or photos taken from two miles away.
If you don’t have a photo – why not? Some people complain that they don’t want to be recognised.  But why not?  This is just an excuse. After all, if anyone you know sees you it means they have their own account on the site anyway!  Most single people try online dating nowadays so it’s hardly a deep dark secret!
Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Take a Little Risk

Monday, February 7th, 2011

Everyone has a certain type of person they are attracted to.

But just looking for people who match this criteria is a bad idea.

If you keep going for the same sort of person then you might end up getting bored and things not working out.  If you keep meeting the same types then you’ll get stuck in a dating rut and grow tired much too quickly.

It’s not just height, hair colour and age that people are strict about, but everyday jobs and lifestyles too. Just because you are into certain hobbies and activities doesn’t mean your date has to.  You’ll learn so many more things if you are willing to accept that there are things you might enjoy that you’ve not yet tried.

If you expand your horizons, just a little bit then you are giving yourself more dating opportunities.  I’m not suggesting you search for a complete opposite ( but that might be fun!) but just be aware that the more people you date then the more chance you have of making it last.  Opposites do often attract but it helps to have a rough idea of who you do and don’t want to meet.

Start now by taking a few risks outside your comfort zone.  You might just enjoy it!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Quick dating trick

Tuesday, February 1st, 2011

In today’s blog I’m going to show you a great trick.


This will allow you to bond with a stranger very quickly.

It’s very simple, use the word  “We” every now and again when you are chatting.

It’s easy to drop this into the coversation.  Just say something along the lines of “We ought to try that restaurant” or ” We can go over there and look at that painting.”

What you’re doing is re framing their mind to confuse the present with the future which will help you to bond very quick.

Similar words, such as “Us ” and “Our” also work very well too.

You can throw in lines such as  “I hope they look after us tonight” or  “Our tops are the same colour.”

Use this tip sparingly as you’ll look a bit crazy if you do it too much!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

What’s so special about you?

Monday, January 24th, 2011

Who do you think you are?


What makes you stand out from the next person?  What do you have to offer that makes you different?
If you aren’t sure, how can you expect anyone else to?  Dating can be a competitive thing.

Everyone has their own unique gifts and selling points.  Perhaps you can play the piano, speak Russian, have trekked to the North Pole.  Maybe you are a fantastic cook, have eleven toes or have published a book.   Just think about every little thing you’ve ever done. Every action and reaction has shaped you into a person like no other.  You are special…

So I want you to just take a few moments to think about more about who you are.   When you’ve realised your “Unique Selling Points” then mention them in your online dating profile.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to make it work

Monday, January 17th, 2011

Are you wondering if you’ll ever meet Mr or Ms Right?


Do you really want to meet someone nice and settle down, like your family and friends?

Ask yourself this – what steps are you taking to make this happen?

To be successful at dating, you need to start with a plan.  If you don’t take any action then you will never anything.

So here’s my quick dating plan that you can easily follow.  It’s five simple steps that will get you on the way to dating success.

1 )  Make sure you work on putting together a well written profile.  Talk about who you are and what you are looking for.

2) Add a really good photo.  This is the key to getting people looking at your profile.  Without one you would just be wasting your time.

3) Upgrade.  If you want to take dating seriously you need to pay for a membership.  It’s only then that you will be able to contact other quality professional Muslims.

4) Send out lots of personalised messages to people you like the look of.   Tell them what you like about their profile and why they should get to know you. Important:  use a spell checker

5) Start dating!
It’s really that simple.  Perhaps you’ve already completed some of these steps, so it’s just a case of carrying out the rest of them.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Dating Tip – The Perfect Match

Thursday, January 6th, 2011

Here’s some useful time saving online dating advice.


Hopefully it will increase your chances.

This tip is simple – make sure you read the other person’s profile carefully before you contact them.   If they clearly are only looking for someone completely different from you then there’s no point wasting both your time messaging them.

So if they are looking for a marriage partner and you want something less serious then respect this and don’t contact them.  The same goes on non-negotiable criteria such as religious sect, age or location.   It’s a bit like a job application.   You don’t send out your CV to jobs you are completely unsuitable for just because you like the sound of them.

Of course, there can be exceptions every now and again, but they must be small ones.   An extra year over their specified range might be OK or an inch under in height.  Just make sure you make more of an effort into writing a great profile and message.   After all, the best profiles will always get better matches anyway!

The point to remember is to target your messages to people that might genuinely be interested in you.  Rather than sending out 100 messages to just anyone, it’s  a much better idea to send 30 to those who are a good match.

Finally, always send messages reply paid (with a credit) to maximise the chance of them replying.   If they aren’ t a full member on the site they can’t read or reply to messages unless you send a credit.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru