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Archive for November, 2010

About the Muslim Single Solution

Monday, November 15th, 2010

Announcing our new Dating site for British Asian Muslims

Islamic Moon and Star

Read all about it here

Following on from the success of our and  websites, we are very pleased to announce the arrival of our newest site –

We have launched this due to popular demand after running many fantastic Muslim events.

This new site will be focussing on Modern, British born Muslim Professionals

Once registered, you can easily search profiles by Mother Tongue e.g. Urdu, Bengali, Gujurati, Punjabi

Regular Muslim speed dating events held in coffee shops or restaurants.

Events discounts for full members

To get started sign up now!

Existing members will be moved over to the new site, so you can log in straight away with your existing email and password. You can read more about this CLICK HERE

How to write an amazing online dating profile

Thursday, November 11th, 2010

Here’s our advice on writing the perfect dating profile


So many people get this wrong, but follow my advice to get amazing results!

I’m going to break the perfect dating profile into four easy bitesize steps.

Part 1:  The Intro

Firstly- you need to explain who you are and what has brought you to the site.  This is your opportunity to ignire their imagination and get their full attention.  You don’t want to bored them or they’ll move on the next person.   Keep it straight to the point – it’s not a life story but a snippet about you.

Part 2:  Tell them about yourself

The next phase of your profile  is where you get to sell yourself with your own “advert” .  Write about what you like doing, what you have to offer and why people should be interested in dating you.  What makes you stand out from all everyone else on the dating site?

Part 3:  Write about the person you want to meet

What do you want in a partner?  What’s vital to you? Don’t go on about all the things you don’t want.  A negative personality is never attractive!

Part 4:  Ask them to get in touch

This is often overlooked but it’s  perhaps the most important of all the sections.   You are inviting them to get in touch, so give them a reason.  Ask a question or invite them to suggest something.  Don’t be tempted to say “Get in touch” or “Drop me an email” as that’s not enough.

One final tip for you.   Don’t be tempted to write too much. People have busy lives and want to be able to get a quick idea of what you are like and who you are.   You can save in depth debates and three page anecdotes for when you meet!  It should be long enough to hook them in, but short enough to intrigue them.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

How to meet new people

Thursday, November 11th, 2010

How many new people have you met today?  This week?  This month?


If you’ve answered with a low number, you are probably not looking hard enough!

Whenever you go out you have the opportunity to talk to other singles – whether it’s on your way to work, your lunch break or just waling down the street.

Here are some opportunities you might be missing with some advice on how to make them work for you.

1) Bookshop.   A great place to meet, although you might need to think quickly!  The best way to approach someone you want to talk to is to take note of what they are reading.  Find a similar book, stand near them and ask if they’ve read it.   Tell them you are new to whatever subject it is and would like to learn about.   It doesn’t matter what – cooking, goldfish or synchronised swimming.  It’s the very fact you appear to have a mutual interest that will help you both bond.

2) Shopping Mall.   This is my personal favourite.  Go into any shop with the idea that you have to buy a present for someone of the opposite sex – perhaps your mother, neighbour or favorite Uncle.  Walk up to someone that catches their eye and their opinion.  People LOVE to be asked what they think !

3) Outside. Where do single people hang out at lunchtime when they don’t have anywhere else to go?  That’s right, the park!  Take a packed lunch and enjoy the sunshine. If noting more, it’s a great chance to people watch.

4) Train Station, Bus stop or even Airport.   Nobody likes waiting for public transport and it can be incredibly dull.  All you have to do is walk up to someone you fancy and ask if they’ve been waiting long – instant conversation starter!

5) Book to see a talk or sign up for evening classes.  Many people go to these on their own and there are plenty of chances to chat before, during and afterwards.  You can find information about these in Metro or your local free newspaper.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

Never give up!

Wednesday, November 10th, 2010

Do you find dating hard?  Not having the success you want?


In today’s blog I’m going to motivate you to keep at it!

A lot of people seem to give up far too easily and quickly when it comes to dating.  Maybe they will join an online dating site, send out some messages and then get disappointed when they don’t get lots of replies.  Or perhaps they’ll go to a singles party but not find anyone they like there.

Rather than keep at it, they’ll think “Well I’ve tried that and it didn’t work.  Now I can cross that off my list.”

We know that it can sometimes seem exhausting if you don’t get get instant results but dating is a trial and error process and the more you do then the better you’ll get at it

Yes, you will probably make mistakes to begin with but you will learn from them.

You need to keep in mind that these things really do work!  Every day we get success stories sent to us from people who struck lucky.  The secret is to keep at it – like most things in life you get out of it what you put into it.  Otherwise it’s like joining a gym, going twice and then quitting because you weren’t miraculously fit and muscular.  These things can take time.

One person said to me recently that they’ve calculated they would have to send out 100 messages to get 10 replies back which would lead to one or two dates.  They just didn’t have time to be sending out so many messages each week.

My reply to him was that he was thinking about the negative side of things rather than the reality.  What if one of the first people he met up with turned out to be his Miss Right?   He’d then be able to stop messaging people.  Therefore, he should spend more time making sure he has the best profile, photos and messages possible right from the start.  He can then be sure he’s equipping himself with the best tools for the job.

The more work you put in at the start, then the quicker you’ll see the results!

If you ever find yourself tempted to give up then get a friend to help you.  Ask them to send out some messages with you or attend events with you.  That way you’ll get a whole new perspective on things.

Finally, we are here to help if you ever need motivation. All you need to do is ask.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Making a great first impression

Wednesday, November 10th, 2010

Here’s how to make a great first impression


If you’d like to  make a long lasting  first impression, stand out from the crowd, build rapport instantly and impress people then there is one major thing you need to do above everything else. ….


Yes, this is a very very obvious tip but it’s also one that many people sadly overlook.  It’s the golden rule for flirting but we it’s amazing that a tiny number of people come to our events and don’t smile.  Even when we greet them on arrival, they look miserable and won’t even respond to  our hellos.  Instead, they’ll hide in the corner looking moody and this makes it very difficult for people to then go up to them.  I know that this might be because they are shy, but you really don’t need to be.  You just have to move out of your comfort zone and appreciate that everyone else is in the same situation. Remember our hosts are always there to help you.

If you are nervous then it’s easy to fake a smile. Think of something that makes you laugh or picture a happy memory. A warm smile will make you seem friendly and confident and instantly puts everyone at ease.  Think these happy thoughts before you enter the venue and you’ll feel so much better.

Just don’t go overboard of you’ll end up looking a little bit silly!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Your frequently asked questions

Wednesday, November 10th, 2010

Here are the answers to some of our most frequently asked questions


1)  How many successes do you get on your Muslim site?

We have had many Muslim success stories through our AsianSinglesolution site so we know this will increase on the Muslim site.  We find that people who are the right calibre and proactive will soon meet someone. Always remember to keep positive, realistic and make sure you are the best “you” possible.

2) I want to just pay to send one message at a time – can I do that?

Unfortunately not. ! This is a bit like going into a supermarket and trying to buy a slice of bread, rather than a loaf . It costs a lot of money to develop and run the site and as such we have to charge for it. If we allowed people to buy just one credit or reply to one message then it would simply have to cost about the same as a one month membership. The second reason is that we absolutely want you to have dating success. This means you needs to take control and message a lot of people. The more effort you put into it then the more results you will have.

3)  Can I attend  your younger parties?  Everyone tells me I don’t look my age!

We probably get asked this question once a day.

It’s strange how everyone tells us how “people think they are ten years younger.” What they are forgetting is that this isn’t the point. It’s irrelevant how you look – our members are paying to meet people in the correct age categories.

We just enforce age limits in place for the good of everyone. Guests need to be within a certain age range to make sure they only meet suitable people.

Having said that, we can sometimes be a little flexible on age limits. If the average age of the guests if higher than normal then we might be able to let a few people in.

4) Why are male and female prices different?

Generally speaking they aren’t – the prices are the same. It’s just that the earlier you book then the cheaper the tickets. As women buy earlier than men then tickets go up in price quicker so it just appears.

However, for some events it’s supply and demand and we have to take action to ensure even ratios. It’s always worth remembering that we always charge more for last minute tickets if they are available so booking early is always the best police.

5) Why aren’t I getting many messages?

This is one of our most popular questions.   You need to contact people, not the other way around!

Not proactively sending 5 to 10 new messages per week is similar to signing up for a gym, not going and then wondering why you aren’t getting fit. Even members who get lots of emails still need to be proactive to target the people they want, rather than the members who tend to send out lots of messages.

We have loads of new members joining each month, so you should easily find 10 to 20 people you like, to message/wink/add to favourites each month. Oh and have some great photos and log in regularly too to boost your chances.

James Preece – The Dating Guru