When should you reply?
How soon should you reply to an email or text?
This question often causes confusion.
You’ve sent a message online and quickly get a message back. Some people then wonder how quickly they ought to respond.
They worry that if they write back straight away then they’ll come across as a bit over keen or even desperate. So instead, they wait a few hours ( or even days!) and then get back to them. They think that by doing this they’ll be seen as busy and that they aren’t too concerned about meeting anyone.
However, could you imagine doing this in a real, face to face conversation? One of you says something, then the other waits 20 minutes before answering the question. It just wouldn’t work would it? It would get boring and you’d both soon lose interest.
You should treat an online conversation in the same way you would if you were in the same room. Show them respect and write back there and then. You’ll get much better results that way. The aim shouldn’t be to send endless messages anyway. Emails are just there to build up trust and then you can arrange a proper meeting in person.
Strike while the iron is hot and while you’ve got maximum interest. Don’t stop the flow by making them wait.
Otherwise they’ll sign off, or even worse – start talking to other people instead. When you finally do bother to write back it will be incredibly difficult to pick up where you both left off.
James Preece – The Dating Guru