for guests at our events

As the leader of Muslim events, we want to bring you the best venues.   We choose venues that generally don’t serve alcohol and that are private and comfortable for our guests.

However, it’s becoming  increasingly difficult to find suitable venues that will allow us to have our parties.  This is because of the low spends and that it’s not really worth their time staying open just for us.

We do pay a hire fee to help cover their costs, but we need you to help us by making sure you buy at least one drink.    A coffee or a soft drink aren’t expensive but it keeps the venues happy. It’s also polite to buy a drink

Our prices are low and we don’t make much money on these parties.  We’d hate to stop running events if we can’t find venues any more.

Best Wishes,

The Muslim Single Solution Team

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

feedbacks from March

March was another great month for the site.  We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

” Very user friendly site and good system to contact people ” NR

“Great service” HH

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Excellent!  FK

“User friendly” AC

” It’s a good service”  SA

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : it was great met some one ” AH

“Good looking website”  DM

“A good effort, thank you. ” BF

“It was good ” SS

“It’s a good website ” US

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : info@muslimsinglesolution.com

Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

or need some advice?

Dating is a fun process but some times you might get a little confused about how best to go about things.  The good news is that you don’t have to do it on your own!

Perhaps you might want to improve your profile or get more messages back from the ones you are sending.  Or maybe you want to make a better first impression during our Muslim speed dating parties.   Some members have a question about a date they have been on or are unsure what to do next.

Whatever you’d like to know, we are here to help you.  Remember, we have been doing this for a many years so we are definitely expert in the dating and relationships field.  We try and answer as many questions here in the blog as we can.   However, we need your feedback so we know just exactly what to write about.  All questions are anonymous so nobody will know it came from you.

Please email us at info@muslimsinglesolution.com    Try and tell us what problem you are having or what you’d like to know and we’ll do our best to help right here in the blog.

Happy dating,
James Preece

The Dating Gur

Who should pay on a first date?

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Dear James,

Should a guy pay for dinner and drinks on a first date?

I recently had a date with a girl who I met for drinks. It went really well and I took her out to dinner straight after.  I very much got on with her and hoped to see her again. Traditionally a guy would normally pay for the girl, but I had gone on a date with another girl previously who was adamant that she should pay for herself, even for a soft drink. With this in mind, I decided that we should split the cost for dinner. Later on it pertained that she wasn’t impressed and expected me to pay for everything. She didn’t appreciate it and ended it quickly. I didn’t mind but I am really confused now.

In today’s society women want their independence and I assumed they are generally happy to pay their own way (at least on the first date). It also spells to me that the guy is not paying his way into a potential relationship.

I’m not a miser and I’m happy to spend on my family and friends but I think that if you are complete strangers then I wouldn’t want her to take advantage from the off. A couple of close female friends of mine also agree with me, but I think for the future I would like to know the best way to go about it.

Z

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Dear Z,

Many thanks for your question. I feel your frustration, I really do.  Dating can be really expensive for a guy and it’s hard working out whether you should pay or not.

However, there’s one basic rule that we always suggest you stick to – the man should always pay!

The reasoning behind this is that it’s the man’s job to be a gentleman and take care of the lady.  You have to show her that you are a good provider and it’s something that goes back to cavemen times.  Above all, it shows that he can take the initiative and lead.

With that in mind, the woman should always at least offer to split the bill, but the man should not let her on a first date.

Going back to the lady who insisted she pay for her own soft drinks, did you ever see her again?  I’m guessing not.   If someone makes a point of not letting you pay, she’s pretty much telling you she’s not interested and doesn’t want to lead you on.

So I’m afraid you do have to open your wallet if you want to get more dates…..and you’ll get bonus points for tipping the waiting staff well.   If you can’t afford it then forget dinner and stick to coffees.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

feedbacks from February

We had a very busy month in February and the site was extra busy over the Valentine’s period.  We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

“Well organised and fun” ST

“Great way to meet like minded people ” ZM

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : good ” AA

“Event was good and well organised. Regular emails also” TH

“Excellent ” LF

“Absolutely brilliant “  AS

“Good service, keep it up!” FG

“Very good! ! ” VM

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If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know : info@muslimsinglesolution.com

Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

a bad idea?

We know that online dating can sometimes seem like hard work.  First you have to find people you like, read their profile and then think of a carefully crafted message to get them interested.  This can be time consuming, so it can be tempting to speed things up a little.

So…rather than than write a proper email some people will write a short, pre-written email such as “Hi, I liked your profile.  Get in touch if you liked mine.”    They’ll then copy this message and send it to every single person they like the look of.

This method CAN work providing you have an amazing profile and photo.  You’ll also have to hope the person you’ve emailed isn’t getting many emails.

However, it’s pretty much a waste of time for both of you.   It’s annoying to get such a vague message and it clearly shows that you’ve not bothered to put any thought or effort in to getting to know them.  A copied and pasted message is very easy to spot and will usually get deleted or ignored.

The other problem is that some people may well be willing to give you a chance.  They’ll make a mental note to respond but it will be “low priority.”   Instead they’ll focus on writing back to the members who wrote interesting emails.  If they run out they may send you a quick reply…but only if they remember.

You need to stand out if you want to make a good impression.   Two minutes of writing a half decent message will get you much better results than ten minutes of copying and pasting.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

www.jamespreece.com

they broke up with you?

The end of a relationship is never pleasant, especially if you don’t fully understand what caused it.  If they don’t explain then you are left confused, disappointed and angry.  There could be many reasons why they ended it -  the most common of which I’m going to explain here in this blog.

1) They just aren’t ready to commit or give you want you want.   This is one of the most common causes for a break up.  If you don’t want to settle down yet then you aren’t giving them any “emotional security.”  You are  preventing them from getting what they want in their lives and this will results in you getting dumped.

2) They don’t trust you.  Perhaps they’ve caught you lying or cheating one two many times.  There comes a point when enough simply has to be enough.  If the issue is with them then there isn’t much you can do if you aren’t to blame.

3) They thought you were trying to change them.   If you are too critical and constantly nagging them to do things then it’s natural for them to assume you think they aren’t good enough for you.

4) The know deep down that you aren’t “the one”   If the chemistry and passion are not longer there then it’s kinder to end it.  Otherwise you are just delaying the inevitable.

5)  You aren’t treating them right.  Love is a two way thing and if you make them unhappy then there is no chance of a future.   So always be respectful and show them how much you mean to them while you are dating to stop this break up reason happening.

The best way to get over a break up is to start dating again.  It won’t be easy, but once you do you’ll begin to realise there ARE other people out there that will result in a much better relationship.

Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

great feedbacks for 2013

There’s no better feeling than reading about how fabulously you are all doing on our website and at our introduction events.  We get many emails each week telling us what you are up to and about your dating successes.

Here are just a few of them:

“Good speed dating event and website is user friendly.” SH

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : I’m not single anymore ”  TO

” I am in talks with my future partner thank you ” MS

“Very good thanks” MT

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Good” WD

“Thank you so much, I think I met someone already on this website. Many Thanks” CK

If you have one to add, don’t hesitate to contact us and let us know :    info@muslimsinglesolution.com

Best Wishes,
The Muslim Single Solution.

to someone you aren’t keen on?

Some people just won’t take the hint.  You talk to them for a little while and once you’ve realised you aren’t interested then they just won’t take the hint.  So how do you break off the conversation without being too rude?   Here is my advice on how best to go about this:

1) Makes your excuses and leave.  It’s as easy as that.  Just tell them you need to use the toilet, want to catch up with a friend or simply that you want to speak to a variety of people.  Tell them you really enjoyed talking to them and you’ll chat to them again later in the evening.

2) Don’t accept a drink if you aren’t interested.  If you do, you’ll be obliged to stay talking with them for the duration of your drink.  It’s better to buy your own drinks and be free to mingle.

3) If you are at a singles event, use a host to help.   Tell them if someone won’t leave you alone and we’ll quickly introduce them to a more suitable match.

4) Always be polite.   You never know who might be watching or who they might be able to connect you with.  It’s fine to tell them you aren’t a good match, but do it respectfully and be as friendly as possible.

5) Don’t give out personal contact info to anyone you don’t intend to communicate with.  It sounds pretty obvious but some people will still send over all their contact info ( or hand out a business card) to anyone and everyone.   Don’t give anyone false hope that you will meet up with them again or you mind find they get frustrated and keep trying to get an explanation

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

So we’d like to wish you lots of luck and happiness.

Today is the perfect day to message anyone you like the look of.   Don’t be afraid – you’ll have more luck today than any other day of the year!

If you’d like to boost your chances and have more dating success, then sign up for one of our Muslim Introduction events too.  These sell out quickly so don’t leave it until hte last minute.

www.muslimsinglesolution.com