What should you do after a first date?
People are often confused after a first date.
Who should contact who and when?
The problem with first dates is that you never know what the other person is thinking. You might think it was amazing but they just weren’t feeling it. In fact, they are probably also wondering what the next step should be.
Firstly, it’s polite to thank them. You only need to send a quick text when you get home.
There are three possible choices:
You aren’t sure if you want to see them again.
Life isn’t easy and you might well have mixed emotions about a date. I’d always sugget a second date if you are undecided but you’ll need time to think it over. Leave it 24 hours to think carefully about it and then go on to one of the next two steps.
You want to see them again
Great! Let them know you thought it went well and you’d like to see them again. Assuming they liked you too, they’ll be pleased to have their minds put at rest. Make sure you arrange a second date around one week after your first one. Any later and you’ll forget the connection, any sooner and you might burn out too quickly! It can be hard to find things to say if nothing new has happened in the time you’ve been apart.
You don’t want to see them again
It’s hard line between being hurting someone’s feelings and making it clear you don’t have a future. However, I’d always advise letting them know this quickly so they don’t hold out hope of further dates. It’s best to be honest but if you can’t, tell them you thought they were cool but reminded you too much of your brother or sister.
Quite often you just won’t hear from them again. They’ll vanish and you’ll never hear from them again. You’ll probably never find out why but when this happens but be happy that you had a narrow escape and start looking again for someone better.
James Preece – The Dating Guru