Proactive vs Reactive
Do you take action to get what you want?
Or do you sit and wait to see what comes to you?
We quite often get emails from members saying they are disappointed that they’ve not had many emails on the site.
The strange thing is, when we look into it we usually notice that they haven’t sent any messages out themselves! To be successful with online dating, you need to take action and not just sit back and wait for things to happen. This is true for whoever you are and whatever you do.
For example, if you are job seeking would you post off your CV to the ones you like or do you hope that job finders will magically find you? If you hoped to start a business, would you try and promote it or pray that customers will come to you instead. I hope you get my point.
Even if you have an amazing photo and an outstanding profile, Mr or Miss Right might be getting emails from other people while you hesitate. Rather than try and find you, they will spend their time getting to know others instead.
The people who get what they want in life as those who make a plan and follow through on it. Spend at least 20 minutes each day carefully searching through profiles that you like and send them a quick carefully crafted email. Don’t give up if you don’t have a fast response, just keep learning and writing emails for a couple of weeks. You’ll be delighted when the replies start coming in.
James Preece – The Dating Guru