We’ve all heard of the 3 day dating rule.
But is this really effective?
The three day rule is where you wait three days to call someone after you first get your number. The idea behind it is that you don’t want to appear too keen and should give them a chance to think about the possibility you aren’t interested.
Funnily enough, the three day rule was created by a film called “Swingers” and has been embedded in people’s minds ever since:
“Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it’s like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two’s enough not to look anxious.
Trent: Yeah, two’s enough not to look anxious. But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you…
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, maybe I’ll wait 3 weeks. How’s that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.”
This pretty much tells you that this whole concept is outdated and nonsense. Most people have mobile phones, social media accounts and emails so there’s no excuse for not getting in touch. You won’t appear busy, just rude!
A recent survey revealed that people aren’t paying attention to the 3 day rule anyway. In fact, the average waiting time was 1 and a half days. I’d still advise that that’s too long to get back in contact. If you do have an interest in someone then you should make it clear early on. If you don’t then you can bet someone else soon will and you’ll miss out. Who knows what might happen over those three days?
Of course, you don’t want to text them the second you say goodbye, but a quick text on the way home saying you enjoyed yourself won’t do any harm. At the very worst, get in touch the morning after.
James Preece – The Dating Guru