Here are some of our latest feedbacks and successes

Do you have one to share?

We love hearing all about your success stories. Not only do they make our day, they help encourage all our other members to keep going. So here are some of the latest ones.

“I’m really happy with your service. will def recommend.” AC

“Thank you for helping me find ‘the one’.” NS

“I have enjoyed some of the events and may attend with my friends sometimes. Staff at events have been lovely. Thanks” AF

“I’ve met a few people from this site and would recommend it to others ! VP

“Speed dating events well organised” DR

“Very impressive site and very simple to use” KA

“The site is a good way to meet people outside your normal social circle. Met some nice guys” AP

“Very useful thank you very much!” JP

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good, met some great mates” JI

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Thank you for your services! ” RB

“Just when I was about to give up, Miss Right winked at me. Thanks……….” MR

“The service you provide is excellent and would use this site again and have recomended to friends ” SN

“Fabulous service, met lovely man on 2nd event i went to in London, been with him 3 mths and its fabulous. keep up the good work, this works!!” HD

If you have your own success story then we’d love to hear it. We’ll even send you some champagne if you send us a photo. Please email us now via info@muslimsinglesolution.com

Good luck!

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

The weather at the moment is terrible.

Here’s how to help it get you more dates!

We’ve gone from a hosepipe ban to a month’s rain in one day.   But just because it’s miserable outside doesn’t mean that you have to put your love life on the backburner.

When it’s rainy most people will stay inside.   This means that you’ll see a huge increase in activity on online dating sites.  They’ll be tucked up warm in their houses, contacting anyone they like the look of. It’s a peak time and once that you should be taking advantage of.   If you aren’t a full, paid up member of a dating site, such as MuslimSingleSolution.com then you will be missing out on all these possible partners you could be meeting.

When you do manage to set up a few dates, the weather shouldn’t stop you meeting up.  In fact, they might been even keener to get out and do something a bit more excting that staring out the window at the raindrops. There are so many things that you can do indoors – such as meeting for a warming hot chocolate or going to a museum, art gallery or bowling alley.

Having said that, walking in the rain is a very romantic date activity – as long as you both know will be doing in advance and dress properly for it.  Make sure you take umbellas and wellington boots.  It’s a great time for a long walk in the park as you’ll probably have it all to yourselves!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Here’ s a quick tip

to increase your speed dating chances.

You only have three to four minutes on a speed date, so you need to make them count!

The key thing on a date is to try to discover as quickly as possible just exactly how many things you have in common.

Why?  Well people like people who are like them.  It’s as simple as that.  So the more things that connect you then the stronger the possibility of a relationship.

So you absolutely must try to find common talking points.  As well as the usual things, like hobbies, place you live, favourite films and televisions shows, you should

try and think outside the box too.

For example:

Where have you travelled to in the world? Perhaps you’ve been to the same places.

Do you collect anything?

What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done?

Are you a morning or an evening person?

Where have you lived and where would you like to move to?

Of course, it’s good to talk about other things too but you must build a foundation to build on.  Opposites to attract….but not as often as two people who can talk for hours and hours about something they are both incredibly passionate about!

Don’t ask too many questions or it will seem like a job interview.  So offer information first and see if they can slot something in with it naturally as part of the conversation.  Remember that once your speed dating session is over, it doesn’t have to be the end of the chat.  You can pick up where you left off at the end of the evening during the mingling time.

Good luck,

James Preece  – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Speed dating is great fun

But sometimes it can be hard to be interesting

I always advise that you think up lots of great questions that you ask people to keep conversation flowing. There is nothing worse that an awkward silence when you are first getting to know someone. Make sure you don’t ask open ended questions as you’ll only get “yes or no” answers which can kill your conversation immediately.

There are only a certain amount of times you can ask what the other person’s name is, where they work and where they are from.

To get you started, we’ve come up with some great questions that you can ask. Just remember to really listen to the answers and don’t keep firing off questions. Instead, try and blend them naturally into your chat.

1) Are you a morning or night person?
2)Do you believe in life on other planets?
3)Do you have any bad habits?
4)Do you prefer sweet or salty foods?
5)If you were a fictional character who would you be?
6) Which is your most cherished childhood memory?
7) If you could be any animal, what would you be?
8 ) If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
9) If you could visit anywhere in the world, where would you go?
10) If you had a million dollars, what would you spend it on?
11) What do you think about right before falling asleep?
12)What is one thing that no one knows about you?
13) If you could have three wishes what would they be?
14) What is one thing you like about being an adult?
15) What is one thing you miss about being a kid?
16) What is one thing you would change about yourself?
17) What is your dream job?
18 ) If you were stranded on a desert island, what three items would you most want ?
19) In case you and I were going out and we had a fight. How would you try to patch things up?
20) What is your favorite thing to do on a Saturday night?
21) What is your favorite thing to do on a Sunday afternoon?
22) What is your first thought when you wake up?

23) What personality traits do you look for in a partner?

24) What was your favorite childhood television program?

25) Would you rather be rich or have true love?

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Do you take action to get what you want?

Or do you sit and wait to see what comes to you?

We quite often get emails from members saying they are disappointed that they’ve not had many emails on the site.

The strange thing is, when we look into it we  usually notice that they haven’t sent any messages out themselves! To be successful with online dating, you need to take action and not just sit back and wait for things to happen. This is true for whoever you are and whatever you do.

For example, if you are job seeking would  you post off  your CV to the ones you like or do you hope that job finders will magically find you? If you hoped to start a business, would you try and promote it or pray that customers will come to you instead. I hope you get my point.

Even if you have an amazing photo and an outstanding profile, Mr or Miss Right might be getting emails from other people while you hesitate. Rather than try and find you, they will spend their time getting to know others instead.

The people who get what they want in life as those who make a plan and follow through on it. Spend at least  20 minutes each day carefully searching through profiles that you like and send them a quick carefully crafted email. Don’t give up if you don’t have a fast response, just keep learning and writing emails for a couple of weeks. You’ll be delighted when the replies start coming in.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

People are often confused after a first date.

Who should contact who and when?

The problem with first dates is that you never know what the other person is thinking.  You might think it was amazing but they just weren’t feeling it.  In fact, they are probably also wondering what the next step should be.

Firstly, it’s polite to thank them. You only need to send a quick text when you get home.

There are three possible choices:

You aren’t sure if you want to see them again.

Life isn’t easy and you might well have mixed emotions about a date. I’d always sugget a second date if you are undecided but you’ll need time to think it over.   Leave it 24 hours to think carefully about it and then go on to one of the next two steps.

You want to see them again

Great!  Let them know you thought it went well and you’d like to see them again.  Assuming they liked you too, they’ll be pleased to have their minds put at rest. Make sure you arrange a second date around one week after your first one.  Any later and you’ll forget the connection, any sooner and you might burn out too quickly!  It can be hard to find things to say if nothing new has happened in the time you’ve been apart.

You don’t want to see them again

It’s hard line between being hurting someone’s feelings and making it clear you don’t have a future.   However, I’d always advise letting them know this quickly so they don’t hold out hope of further dates.  It’s  best to be honest but if you can’t, tell them you thought they were cool but reminded you too much of your brother or sister.

Quite often you just won’t hear from them again. They’ll vanish and you’ll never hear from them again. You’ll probably never find out why but when this happens but be happy that you had a narrow escape and start looking again for someone better.

Happy Dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Here are 5 quick speed dating turn offs

Are you making any of them?

Speed dating is a fantastic way to meet new people. However, you need to put some thought into making sure you mini date is memorable for all the right reasons. Four minutes is not long at all so you must make the best impression you can.

Here are a few of the things I’ve seen people doing wrong over the last few months. I hope you will read this so you can avoid making the same mistakes.

1) Not introducing yourself

Before you being a conversation you need to smile, say hello and state your name.  Then they’ll give you theirs and the date begins.  However, some people just come over and say hello . If you don’t swap names then you will be forgettable!

2) Forgetting personal hygiene.

This is very important.  Always take a shower before you come and wear a nice clean pressed outfit.  There’s nothing worse than sweat patches and smelling like you’ve just run a marathon.   Deodorant and a quick tab of perfume/ aftershave takes seconds.

3) Being Forceful

Whatever you do, don’t demand a phone number or email address right there and then.  Just take note of their username and contact them on the website for free the next day.  If you start insisting they give you their contact info then it comes across as rude and youll blow your chances.

4) Saying stupid things.

Be careful that you don’t say the wrong thing, even in jest.   Keep your conversation conservative or you risk offending them.  You might have a great sense of humour but if they’ve not had time to realise that they might take what you say seriously.

5) Being Cold or dismissive

Everyone is a little shy at first but that’s no excuse to be rude.  Even if you aren’t interested, it’s polite to be respectful and good practice for the people you like. Ask lots  of questions and show an interest, even if you have pretend.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Here are some of our latest feedbacks and successes

Could you be next?

We love hearing all about your success stories. Not only do they brighten day, they help encourage all our other members to keep going. So here are some of the latest ones.

“Everything was great. Found a perfect match” HK

“I met someone via your site and we are getting married!! Thank you so much!” NS

“very good site! so glad i found someone, thanks very much ” HK

“I think your services are very good thank you very much” NW

“I have met the love of my life, thanks guys for the help!!” SC

“The site is good way to meet people if your shy and it is a safe way to see who is single and also looking for a partner” MK

“”I was a bit skeptical joining a dating website and after meeting with a few guys i was convinced it wasn’t for me. However patience paid off and I am lucky to have met a wonderful man who has simply swept me off my feet. Thank you  Single Solution!” RS

“Service is really good” RV

“This has been a great experience and I have found this site to be more useful than others. At the moment I want to see how it goes with someone I have met from here” AG

“Thank you for your service, i have met the woman of my dreams” KB

“Great site, thank you for all you support.” HH

“The website was very user friendly and I would recommend it to anyone” AK

“The services you provide are excellent”  SS

“The service provided is fantastic, thank you for your help” AP

“User friendly site and a good dating service” KG

“Service was good, with easy member interaction.” MV

“It’s a great way of meeting people- i met her years ago and is still going well!” RA

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“I think the service is very good and well organised” RM

“Services offered are v good, met some nice people along the way” JS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Great Website, great events” HB

“Very good and well organised site” SD

“I enjoyed the event that i attended and many thanks for your service” BP

“Very good website, professional – I’ve recommended a lot of friends” RD

“Great site with some good talent. I’ve met a few good prospects on this site, now it’s a matter of seeing which one is right for me thanks!”  JR

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : excellent service, couldnt have asked for a better site!” RP

If you have your own success story then we’d love to hear it. We’ll even send you a gift voucher if you send us a photo. Please email us now via info@muslimsinglesolution.com

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Sometimes we get asked about chaperones.

Are you allowed to bring them to our events?

People sometimes get nervous about attending a marriage introduction event.   The thought of having to do it all on their own can seem a little daunting, so they ask if they can bring someone along to watch.  This can often be a family member to offer their opinion on the matches too.

However, it’s for exactly this reason that we don’t allow chaperones or spectators.  The idea is to focus on the person you are talking to and spend time getting to know them.  You’ll only have four or five minutes anyway.  The last thing anyone really wants is an extra pair of eyes watching them from a distance.

But don’t worry, you won’t be alone!  We employ fantastic hosts to help look after you and make you feel comfortable. Once you start interacting with the other guests your nerves will be long forgotten and you’ll have a great time.  You might even make some new friends as we keep men and women apart  at the start of the event.

Another reason we don’t allow this is that our venues just don’t have room for extra people to sit.   They’d end up getting in the way and causing a distraction.
Our events are also extremely popular and we often have to turn people away when they fill up.   It’s really important that the people who take part are genuinely single and keen to meet a partner. So please don’t book a ticket for someone who has no interest as you could be depriving someone else the chance to find love.

Good luck!
The Muslim Single Solution

www.muslimsinglesolution.com

Anyone can have a conversation

Here’s how to have an amazing one!

Talking is all part of successful dating, so make sure that when you open your mouth you are doing it effectively. So many people clam up and ruin the start of a potential great match.  So here are some quick tips to boost your chances.

1) Ask Questions.  The best way to be likeable is to be interested in the other person.  Ask good questions that show you find them fascinating.

2) Listen.  This is so important and easy to get wrong. You really need to keep up your concentration so you don’t look bored.  You must face the person speaking with your arms uncrossed. Lean forward a little and maintain eye contact at all time.  Acknowledge statements with a nod, comment or question when appropriate.

3) Keep it light hearted.  This isn’t a job interview so relax and enjoy the conversation.  If you can make them smile or laugh then you are doing and saying the right things.

4) Know what’s happening in the world.  The goal is to keep the other person stimulated and interested. Read newspapers and keep an eye on the headlines as well as the pop culture gossip!

5) Speak at the right pace.  Don’t speak to quickly or bore them to tears.   The right tempo is a positive, upbeat, thoughtful one.

6) You don’t need to fill in all the gaps.   Every conversation has short periods of silence.  Don’t panic and feel you have to gabble on about something just for the sake of it.  Instead, use the moment to quietly reflect on what’s being said.

Happy dating!

James Preece – the Dating Guru